Hey I have a question for the younger people on here (although, I'll take advice from any one...)
Do you think that long distance relationships are practical at a younger age? I'm talking 20 to 27ish. I'd like to get some feedback on this because I've talked to a few other people about it.
Here's my thoughts...
Love can and may outlast anything, even distance.
If you take the time to ask questions and really get to know the person, it could be the same as knowing them in person.
Being younger can make it difficult to relocate for either person in the relationship if it ends up to the point of marriage. (Not necessarily saying a 20 year old will be getting married right off the bat but with in a couple years.)
How can you honestly say you know the person? I know there are video chats, and phone calls, texts and messages but, how can you say you really know a person, if you haven't spent face to face time with them?
I'm thinking it would be difficult to base a life long decision on a person you just met over the internet...
Long distance relationships are more successful in teenagers then younger adults. A long distance relationship can start off good but eventually, is not enough. The only exception is if the person is not too far away. If you can see the person occasionally in person, it might work. All the technology in the world cannot replace the real thing. Simple things like bowling, playing a board game, driving, watching a movie, eating out, going to the beach, playing sports - those activities help to establish an emotional bond and connection.
I have met married couples that get bored in the relationship fast. Can you imagine what its like for long distance people? You are at a huge disadvantage. Also, there are things you may take for granted but can add up and help establish whether you partner is your partner is your soul mate. Such as the way the smell, how they smile, how they dress, their daily behavior, family traits, the friends they hang out with. Those things are hard to establish over far distances.
I'm sure you would even miss things like kissing, cuddling, holding hands, candle light dinners, watching the sunset together. So bottom line, can relationships work out? If your willing to make huge sacrifices, it can. But its not recommended. Also ask yourself, what would Jesus do? Pray about the plan that God has in store for you.
Well to best answer this question I will refer to physiology. When a group of people were told that it was true that absence make the heart grow fonder, according to several experiments done, the people in that group where not shocked at all. They said it makes sense. Love can and will out last anything, including distance.
However when a separate group was told the exact opposite thing they said it makes sense, being separated is never easy. How can both of these be true? Well they aren't, only one is true. Do you know which it really is though?
Our of curiosity to see if anyone will respond to this, I won't be which is correct yet, but I will say though no research could ever prove my personal opinion, and there is no fact on my opinion obviously it is straight opinion, I will say in my opinion that above where two separate groups are saying two separate things, and they both can't possibly be true? Well I think they both could be true. It could be the worst thing, or it could be a workable thing. It just depends on a variety of factors. Sometimes distance can be the best thing, sometimes it leads to temptation and destruction. According to research this isn't true, but many things once thought to be fact turned out to be not true, and vise versa.
So what is my advice? GO WITH YOUR GUT!!! Does it feel right? If not, then best not to continue, but if so then go ahead. I believe your gut is God, he will tell you.
There are dangers though. Dangers in listening to God? No. Dangers in thinking your listening to God when your just telling yourself what you want to hear? Yes. Make sure whatever is telling you if its right doesn't come straight from the heart. You can fool yourself. Make sure it doesn't come straight from desperation, you can easily fool yourself. But rather both from heart and gut. Make sure your just not making yourself believe what you want to believe, but rather what you deep down feel is correct. Good luck.
Q: Do you think that long distance relationships are practical at a younger age? I'm talking 20 to 27ish.
A: There are certainly benefits to being younger when you are trying an long distance relationship. For one thing, roots may not have grown deep yet, and it is very likely that one person can easily move when the relationship reaches that point. (I know that's opposite of what you said. I just know that if I were to put down roots, such as buy a house, it would make it a lot harder to move. Same goes for holding down my job...the longer I work, the more I have to lose if I leave.) However, older people may be more committed to a relationship, and have the maturity to make it work in spite of all odds.
Q: How can you honestly say you know the person? I know there are video chats, and phone calls, texts and messages but, how can you say you really know a person, if you haven't spent face to face time with them?
A: I met a guy on here over 2 years ago. He lives 800 miles away, so we didn't know if we would ever get to meet. For a whole year, we chatted on Facebook a lot, did video chats on Skype, and emailed back and forth. When we finally got to meet in person a year later, I felt like I was being reunited with a lifelong friend. It was totally comfortable, and he was 100% as I expected. We only got to see each other for a couple hours, though, because he was on a tight schedule while in town (seeing me was not the reason he came, but he made a point to clear a couple hours so we could meet). He went back home, and for another year we went back to being online friends, but talked on the phone some as well. Then he got to come to my town for three whole days just to visit me. Once again, it was like we were lifelong friends who had simply been apart for a while. (Unfortunately, it's one of those situations where friends is all we'll ever be...but that's another story.) So yes, I think you can really know someone even if you haven't spent face-to-face time with him. I'm sure it doesn't work out like that in every case, though.
You said: I'm thinking it would be difficult to base a life long decision on a person you just met over the internet... Ideas?
I say: Absolutely. I could never consider myself to be "in a relationship" with someone that I've not met in person. I could never agree to marry someone that I've not met in person. In fact, I would want to spend a good bit of time with someone before agreeing to any sort of relationship, dating or otherwise. If I were in a long distance relationship, we would have to make sure that we got together as often as possible. There's no substitute for face-to-face time!
Distance or no distance, if it's meant to be it's meant to be. I think as believers, it is very important to seek God's guidance in every area of our lives, especially when it comes to relationships. We may be discouraged by distance and all other negative factors, but to our God all things are possible!
all i can say is, if it's God's will the distance will not be an issue at all. there will understand, love, trust and most important pray for each other. i am still waiting for the one that GOD will give me. :glow:
Whatever is meant to be will always work out perfectly! we are just human and so we do not know what God has planned for each one of us, that is why the long distance stuff works for some people and it doesn't for others! i believe that we should let God's will be done in our lives. be blessed:peace:
long distance relationship.....i've been there. we were colleague but then he had to move to another country so we had that long distance relationship. not an easy thing. both party should have strong commitment in it. mine wasn't work. it last for only 8months (eventhough that's longer than our 6 months face to face relationship). some of you are right, nothing can replace holding hands, looking into each other eyes, cuddling, or even saying nothing do nothing but just sit down side by side. if you can hold yourself from having that kind of things for a certain time (until you get together with your love one) i think long distance relationship is not a problem. you will learn a lot by having long distance relationship (there are many things that you couldn't learn in face to face relationship) anyway, any relationship will teach you something be wise what kind of relationship you want to be in and invite God to be in it. If it God's will there's nothing impossible. God bless you all.
