Author	Thread: my concerns about my age
Admin	my concerns about my age Posted : 15 Jan, 2012 04:36 AM Sometimes i feel depressed about aging issues , i mean i think too much about my age( i am 34) , i have a fear that i may end up my life being an old maid. Whenever people ask my age i feel shame. Post Reply
View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 15 Jan, 2012 05:26 AM I started dreading my birthday after I reached 24...lol But there's nothing we can do about aging so we might as well stop worrying and just live each day to the fullest! Besides, the more I worry the more I wrinkle lol xD God bless, Ken Post Reply
View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 16 Jan, 2012 11:14 AM I think that's human nature to be afraid of our age--obviously I am younger than you two, but even I start feeling old and regretting being in high school and not doing somethings I think I should have. The best thing that has worked for me, right now, is to try to focus on what is going on in my life and how I can make good memories and not have regrets in ten years about my age now. And you know what, there are a TON of ladies that are older than me on this site that sound awesome, and I do not understand how they are not taken--if they were my age or interested in somoene younger I would gladly talk to them about anything. Post Reply
View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 16 Jan, 2012 03:09 PM I'm 34 too and still single. Nothing bad's happened yet, though obviously I've passed my physical peak... Post Reply
View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 16 Jan, 2012 11:08 PM At What age men have their physical peak ? I know a popular song named ''Where is my golden years, my 25''. Is it around 25? Post Reply
Miss_Wendy View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 17 Jan, 2012 12:37 PM I know exactly what you mean, Shicona. I, too, sometimes feel depressed about still being unwed at my age. Albeit, I am only twenty-two years old but in my family, that is ancient! I am the eldest woman ever, in the history of my family to get married. I know that they all mean well but must alllll of my relatives constantly remind my of my ticking biological clock? lol. My great-grandmothers were both fourteen when they were wed. My grandmothers were fifteen. My mother was sixteen. My sister was eighteen and my sister-in-laws were eighteen and twenty. Not to mention aunts, great-aunts and a bazillion cousins; all married under the age of twenty. I have dreaded family reunions for about seven years now, for whenever my family is together, all of the older couples swarm around me en masse and the onslaught of questions begins, "How many children do you have, now?" I, of course answer, "I don't have any children." And, as one, they look at one another completely aghast and continue the inquisition with, "Well, don't you and your husband want children?" And I inevitably hang my head in shame as I reply with the forbidden words of a twenty-two year old, "I'm not yet married." Silence. Long, uneasy silence. And then it all breaks loose. "Not married?" "Well, what's wrong with you?" "How old are you now? You must be in your twenties, at least?" "Do you have a boyfriend?" "Are you engaged?" "Oh my! We've gotta get you married off, and soon!" Then, the dreaded moment as someone shouts, "I know a nice young man that might would take you! What, with your age and all it may take a little convincing but it has promise..." At this news, everyone squeezes together to get a look at said person. I look to find a picture of some fifty-year-old man with a scraggly beard and beer gut. "He's a-lookin' for a woman that ain't afraid of hard work and can cook like nobody's business! If you can manage to do that, we'll have you married off before the Spring!" Everyone then turns to me for confirmation as I seal my fate with, "I'm sorry but I can't cook." Gasping ensues. More silence. Then, "You can't cook? What kind of woman are you anyways?" "Well, what can you do?" as if being unwed at my age is something to be utterly ashamed of and pawning me off on an old lonely man is the key to solving everyone's problems. lol. So, you're not alone, Shicona. I know how you feel and I've got your back, girl! Post Reply
View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 17 Jan, 2012 02:05 PM Usually early to mid twenties is our physical peak - unfortunately many of us don't start taking proper care and exercise of our bodies until we feel the effects of aging which can be another decade later. Post Reply
jjc_wmp View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 7 Feb, 2012 05:27 PM I look much younger than I am. I find a lot of women interested in me until the learn my age. They then start looking else where. I am 31, not really that old but I guess it seems old when you thought I was 25. Post Reply
abisella View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 8 Feb, 2012 03:37 AM shicona thank you so much for your post.I turned 28 last month and believe you me life is so unbearable being single and without children in this part of the world. do you know peole of my age have children over the age of 12 Post Reply
View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 23 Mar, 2012 03:21 AM I have a friend who will turn 34 on 1st of April. she is still a single lady with hope though she really does not want to talk about her age. that really stresses her a lot! Ok. am now 22 and it is obvious that i have not been there so i do not know what it feels like but i would like to say that you shouldn't loose hope and don't forget to stay in a good physical condition(take great care of yourself). I have seen people(single ladies) getting married at 35! God has different plans for different people-just trust him with all your heart! Post Reply
vanillaspices81 View Profile History	my concerns about my age Posted : 21 May, 2012 10:40 AM I have the same problem - I am 30 now and the oldest in my family (ancient) who hasn't married and yet I don't look my age (younger). My grandmother was married at 16, all my aunts and uncles married 16 -20, parents were married at 20 and so was my sister. My cousin is getting married at 25. I keep getting the question do you have a boyfriend yet? When are you going to get married? I hate getting together with the whole family because they all have their families and they leave me out in a way because I am not married and when they include me its really only about when I am going to get married. My parents often remind me it's time to settle down (even if it's the wrong guy)... urg.. Sometimes I have been told that they fear I will end up an old maid which makes me feel so much happier... lol.. I want to get married and have a family but with the right guy, who God has for me and all. I just haven't found him yet and its frustrating to hear those comments and to think that 30 is ancient in my family. Hoping God brings him in my life though soon just relying on Him. I guess that's all we can do right? Post Reply