Author	Thread: Adopting?
Admin	Adopting? Posted : 11 Jan, 2012 04:24 PM How do you feel about adoption?What do you see as the Pro's and Con's , and would you ever adopting a child in need? Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopting? Posted : 11 Jan, 2012 08:46 PM Ofcourse! i would love to adopt and help a child in need. there is no better way i can thank God for his favor and for everything that he has given to me apart from blessing a life out there. it will be my joy to raise that child in the fear of God! be blessed. Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopting? Posted : 11 Jan, 2012 09:55 PM The hardest thing about adoption, especially within the United States is the cost the people who want to adopt would have to pay out. It's ridiculous. I think it should simply be based on Income and ability to be able to take care of the child. Maybe a processing fee for paper work and what not but, not several hundred dollars. You can adopt a dog for far less than that. Shouldn't the kids be more important? Although, foster care is a good idea for people who want to be able to adopt but can't afford the price... Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopting? Posted : 12 Jan, 2012 01:05 PM Adopting special needs kids out of the foster care system is not a financial burden like adopting an infant. People get money monthly for having those special needs kids. But I would never adopt or foster. Too much government involved and problems involved in that system. Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Adopting? Posted : 15 Jan, 2012 07:04 PM i would consider adopting if the situation came up for it, though probably not before i was married, as i would want the child to have both a positive male and female role model. I might actually prefer adoption to having my own child, because there are plenty of children out there who are going to die due to not having someone to help them out, so why make more people when we are already children waiting for us? I'm not bashing people who want their own children; I totally understand. But at the same time, it's not necessarily my thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopting? Posted : 22 Jan, 2012 04:16 AM I knew someone who had adopted above four kids and fostered several more. She bit off more than she could chew and when the oldest hit puberty he went totally off the rails and got taken back into care. Last I heard he was into drugs and all sorts... Obviously I don't know the full story, but from what I saw it looked like she kept taking on new kids and they were getting the attention right at a critical point in his life when he needed much more emotional support than he did over the last few years. I've also seen this in a family that divorced; the eldest who was mid teens at the time (but more emotionally sensitive than his younger brother) was devestated and also turned to drugs and such. It certainly seems that adolescent boys need careful handling and lots of emotional support - more so than when they're younger - and this is where a lot of the life-long problems (or strengths) are formed. I can't speak with any experience of girls though it will be interesting learning! Post Reply
bookwatcher View Profile History	Adopting? Posted : 26 Jan, 2012 07:57 PM i plan to adopt or foster at least one child even if i dont get married. yes both a father and mother would be best but i think having just one parent would beat having none. a lot of kids in the siystem have problems and i dont see how they couldnt given the lack of family and values around them. Children are blessings from God and should be treated as such. if i can just contribute to just one childs life i think that would be blessing enough to see them grow into adopthood under Gods care. Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopting? Posted : 31 May, 2012 01:38 PM Bear with me, this gets long. If you check my profile, the little boy in the picture is my son - whom I adopted. I never regret it (even on our bad days). I always knew I wanted children (with or without a husband), so when the opportunity came to adopt him, I snatched it up! I was lucky to get him from birth and therefore do not have some of the issues some kids have from the foster care system. However, I check out the foster care website often knowing if God has another child he has made for me, I will take it in and raise it to the best of my ability. Since it is hard for singles to adopt (unless you know the birthmother), foster care is the best option. There is lots of funding to help you out. It is an emotional journey and does not happen quickly. Keep in mind that most kids available in foster care do have a range of issues from basic learning disabilities to needing 24 hour care. If you are curious at all, check into some of the websites just to get a feel for it. Being a single parent has worked for me mostly due to the support system God put in place. My family helps take care of him when I need a break. My friends are all "aunties and uncles" who give really nice hand me downs or recommend cool things to do. As I watch him grow, I see little bits of God. I pray he will turn out to be the man I can't seem to find and go on to bless his wife and raise his children well. I hope this helps. If you have questions or want to know more, feel free to message me. Best wishes! Post Reply