Author	Thread: Questions!
Admin	Questions! Posted : 13 Nov, 2011 09:55 PM A bit of background on me. I believe that my past relationship occurred so that both myself and my ex could come to God. His mom went to church every week, and he started to go once our relationship started getting serious and he wanted our union to be blessed. My family is not Christian so I was not raised in a Christian household. At the time, I was not open to the power of God and therefore as he got closer to God, it tore us apart because I couldn't see the good he was doing for us, I just saw all the time he was devoting to the church volunteering and such, and realized I was no longer number one in my ex's life and I didn't like it. Well, we broke up, and it was hard for me. I realized that God was the answer, He will always there for me and wants what is best for me, and that He should be number one in my life. So, through the relationship's end, I drew closer to God. But it is a double edged sword because as i grew closer to God, I saw what my ex was trying to do, what a good Christian he is, and what a perfect mate he could be. I know that God has a plan for me, and that He already knows who my mate is, but is it possible that my ex could be that mate? I realize that I am stuck on him because he was my most recent relationship and I cared for him deeply, so I need a fresh mind to comment on the situation. I stay away from my ex when I can. We attend the same church but I attend a different service than him and am in a different network than him. But, God keeps putting my ex in my path. Is God trying to tell me something, or is it just coincidence? Or is God trying to test me to see if I am completely over my ex before introducing me to my actual mate? I am trying my best to just let God take control, to have faith that all these questions will be answered on God's time, not mine, so I shouldn't try to rush it. I just want to see if maybe others have been through a similar situation, and find strength in your testimony :) thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 14 Nov, 2011 05:14 PM I have the same feeling to fairly often. Like, wondering if you should try again and if the answer is yes or no. I just remind myself the bad side too since it's natural to see things like that through only rose colred glasses, and remind myself of the reasons we broke up and it didn't work out. I'm giving myself time to get everything sorted out before choosing yes or no. You always have time and if God wants it to work out it will work out. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 14 Nov, 2011 05:24 PM Thanks! That is very true. Once I had typed out the whole post and re-read it, I came to a similar conclusion. I just have to learn not to covet a relationship with someone else so much, focus on my relationship with God, and everything will fall into place. I have another question, and I apologize if I offend everyone since I am new to Christianity and am a bit ignorant on certain aspects of it. Is it really that bad to go to a night club with friends and just hang out, have a good time? Yes, there is drinking and dancing involved, but I am not going to 'hook up' like most club goers, I just love to dance and listen to music. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 14 Nov, 2011 05:34 PM No I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I don't go so much anymore because I almost never have a good time there and realized it's almost impossible to meet good people at bars or clubs. If I've got nothing better to spend my time and money on I'll go. But it's not like it's a sin or anything. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 15 Nov, 2011 12:00 PM IODC is right; it's not a sin to go clubbing. But I'd personally avoid drinking (alcohol that is) or accepting any whilst there - a few drinks and it's easy to slip up and do something you'll regret; more so now because you're also conscious of letting God down too. Apologies if I sound like your dad (!); you'll learn for yourself what Paul meant when he said all things were permissible for him.. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 15 Nov, 2011 04:14 PM I know it is not a sin, but my church group leaders told me I shouldn't go. They said that the devil, being the angel of music, tries to influence us through popular music. I thought that was a bit extreme/radical in thinking, so I thought I would get other people's opinions on it. I know right from wrong so as long as I have friends looking out for me and don't drink too much, I should be ok then. Thank you for the advice! Another question, but this one is more of an observation. The Bible says we shouldn't be jealous or envious, but it also says that our God is a jealous God. I thought we were supposed to act more like Him...why the exception? Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 16 Nov, 2011 03:07 PM I'm not sure where they got the devil being angel of music from - I don't remember reading it in the Bible! If you can get hold of a copy of Don Francisco's "freedom to move" track then I'd urge you to listen to it. Having said that, even though you and I think your pastor is being OTT, you have to weigh up whether going is worth the trouble is might cause between you; pick your battles type thing... As for the question about jealousy, we are jealous for earthly things, be it land, possessions, wealth or even each other. These are things that ultimately we'll have to let go of sooner or later! God is "jealous" for our love and adoration. That kind of relationship where we love Him ever more as we discover new depths of His love is something that will, quite literally, last forever. Well worth investing in! :peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 16 Nov, 2011 09:53 PM Thank you for your input! You really cleared up that jealousy subject for me :) I looked up that song, it is awesome! It expresses my thoughts exactly haha! Another question I hope you have an answer for: how can you tell the difference between coincidence and God's will? Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 20 Nov, 2011 09:46 PM Hi, Hope u dont mind me jumping in here? I had a brother in Christ who started going clubbing because he wanted to win his younger brother over. We talked about it for a while and I advised him not to go since he and I were both young converts at the time but he went anyway. Sad to say, he met a girl there and he backslid. My advice to you, in the love of Christ, is please don't go clubbing. Rather, look for friends within your church that are on the same spiritual level as you are and go to youth nights or something of that sort. Church is a great place to sing and dance :) God bless, Ken Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 21 Nov, 2011 08:55 PM thank you for your advice! i am glad you decided to post it, that is what chat forums are for! haha. my church is into tithes and giving 10% of your income to the church. we give tithes out of obedience, and offerings out of generosity. what is everyone's opinion on that? some people say that it is not right to ask for a certain amount, everyone should just give what they can/want. but i don't want to test Him, since it says in the Bible that we should give 10% of our earnings. is this something that doesn't pertain to present day? something that shouldn't be taken so literally? i give my 10% willingly and happily, but like i said, it is also somewhat out of fear for the consequences if i don't, or missing out on certain financial blessings if i don't. Post Reply
aalleexx View Profile History	Questions! Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 04:28 PM 10% was the minimum required in the OT. Once i had a Bible study on the subject, and they showed me how Gods people used to give 30-40 % of the year incom if you consider all the other donations and requiremns on Israel. But it doesnt apply to us today. Its up to you, donate more if you are blessed with more.. He looks at your heart, and not at numbers, if you give 90% but with the wrong feelings and motivations its nothing to His eyes! Blessings :) Post Reply

First

Page : 1 2

Next  3 >>

Last