Author	Thread: My thoughts on this site
Admin	My thoughts on this site Posted : 24 Jul, 2011 06:14 PM I have to the conclusion that this is by far the best free christian dating site by far. The ones you have to pay for are just sad that they charge money to have christians try to find the one God made for them. I dont like though how some people on this site totally ignore your messages where is the christian attitude in that. If you don't want to talk to the person kindly let them know your not interested based on what they put in their profile or that your looking for someone more your type in which ever way you mean that. Post Reply
View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 25 Jul, 2011 10:29 PM I agree Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 01:34 AM Honestly I question the validity of a dating website period, and wonder if we are not simply putting God in a box...I mean are wise enough to judge a type, most ppl mess that up and end up divorce because 1, they didnt trust God enough and 2, they didnt know Gods best for them, because they were not transformed enough. Post Reply
Ready_for_this View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 14 Aug, 2011 10:31 AM I'm so back and forth on the issue of on-line dating and how it fits in with God's plan. At first I did think that it was forcing things too much- that I didn't have faith that God would send me the right man. But then things changed. Some of the greatest people I know are on Christian dating sites. If you live in a smaller town it can be very hard to meet people because you already know almost everyone, and in smaller towns- pretty much everyone is already married anyway! I see both sides- but I don't believe God is anti-online dating. As singles we can't just sit back and expect the man/woman of our dreams to randomly show up on our doorstep one day. I think God appreciates the fact that we'd be on a Christian dating site - searching for our lifelong partner in Christ. Just my thoughts. :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 14 Aug, 2011 10:44 AM "I dont like though how some people on this site totally ignore your messages where is the christian attitude in that. If you don't want to talk to the person kindly let them know your not interested based on what they put in their profile or that your looking for someone more your type in which ever way you mean that." *************************** I used to be of the mindset that I should respond to each and every person that emailed me stating an interest. I no longer believe that and no longer do that. No matter how well you craft a response to decline the interest of another person....they will see it as a form of rejection. Some people handle that far better than others. People with healthy egos tend not to let "thanks but no thanks" email ruin their day. They simply move forward and keep looking. I have found the persons that don't handle it well often times write me a second email berating me for my response...even when it was crafted to be less rejecting and more uplifting. There is no written rule that one HAS to respond to an unsolicited email. Is it bad manners or bad netiquette to simply ignore an email? If in doing so you open yourself up to additional communication from the person you have no interest in...I would argue that a NON-RESPONSE...would serve the same purpose as a response and a thinking person should know that. Perhaps that is "un-christian" of me and typifies bad manners and bad netiquette...oh well... It keeps my eyes free from reading the unkind and uncharitable responses of those persons whose self esteem cannot handle a simple...no thank you. Post Reply
sunny1b0y View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 21 Aug, 2011 03:20 PM i agree Post Reply
View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 26 Aug, 2011 10:22 PM While it does seem odd to go on dating sites, I honestly don't see that it is much different than any other social event. The times have changed. Five years ago I got on the computer a couple times a month. Now I earn a living on the computer, I shop over the computer, I bank on the computer, I keep up with family and friends with email and Facebook. To me it is quite natural to take part in a dating site. I think one of the biggest dangers in socializing over the Internet is that people can sometimes get too comfortable and say things they would not say in person. That is a danger to be aware of in yourself and others. However, if I am conducting myself the same on here as I would anywhere else, then there is not much difference in me talking to you here or at a potluck fellowship. Just my humble opinion. Post Reply
View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 28 Aug, 2011 03:53 PM i would rather them ignore it than send that " i dont think we would make a good match" thats passive. also there r always wolves in sheeps clothing matt 7:15 and phonies people that think they r saved and r not or just really carnal, corinithian - type people : ) Post Reply
sweetspirit500 View Profile History	My thoughts on this site Posted : 22 Jan, 2012 01:22 AM Well i agree with you..But ,for my case, I've tried to return my messages by politely saying we are not good match and once i got a reply that says i 'm racist and even said I have to repent.I was dumbfounded. The polite message was from cdff and i just forward it in order to send the message across politely and what I've got back in return really puzzled me. It seems like ignoring is a better option. Post Reply