Author	Thread: Advice for Women!
ValleyGirl View Profile History	Advice for Women! Posted : 27 Jun, 2011 09:22 PM If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, ...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar, but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice for Women! Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 01:03 PM I love this! Thanks for sharing! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Advice for Women! Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 01:39 AM Two words SEEK WISDOM!! :^) Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Advice for Women! Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 02:30 PM I have a question or two about the man/men you are refering to in your post if you would be so kind as to induldge me, I think I see a patteren between mwn and women, but I dont have enough information. Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice for Women! Posted : 31 Jul, 2011 10:06 AM from a guys perspective I'll say there is good advice in there but there are also a few things that seem to be a bit generalizing and a little reactionary. maybe I'm not reading it right. You did throw in the disclaimer "All men are NOT Dogs" but that is about the only statment that isn't negative towards men. Things like never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. To me this comes across as assuming that it's not good to be open and honest with a man because he will use what you tell him against you for his advantage. Not saying there aren't' guys out there like that but not all of us are. As far as letting us know everything I read that as being open an honest there are things I don't need to know about lol but withholding things from a guy or a girl in a relationship is not a good thing. Also, when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. This is not always true. And only a controlling guy will want to know where you are at all times. that in itself should be the warning. Don't ever make him feel he is more important than you are. In a Godly relationship neither guy or the girl should put the other above God, but also a good relationship involves willingness to put the other above your self but that should go both ways and if it's one way only then it's not a good relationship. Relationships involve compromise, cooperation, and teamwork, it sometimes means I lay down my wants/desires to honor hers or visa versa. A relationship should not be to serve ones self but to be a part of something greater than our self. Saying this I hope this is not read as an attack it isn't meant that way just giving the other side of the coin from a guys perspective. There are many good points in here so I don't want to minimize that. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Advice for Women! Posted : 31 Jul, 2011 03:27 PM Let's see if this comes across correctly.... ...as you have advised, is pretty wise, but if I could simplfy it I would say (and I could be wrong, because this hypothesis is a work in progress) dont pursue a man, dont pursue a man who is better looking than you, or thinks he is better looking than you. I would speculate that often men work on an equal or greater than value concerning what they think they can get. This may make you madder than a midget with a yo-yo but consider this: Do you want a man who isnt really crazy about you. If he dosent make the ffort to pursue you than dont bother, even if you really really want him to... ok that being said I have advise to men about this but I will do it in another tread because there are some things we do that really bothers me, and irks God. Post Reply