Author	Thread: Wedding blues
bcpianogal View Profile History	Wedding blues Posted : 11 Dec, 2010 07:38 PM Am I the only single person out there who gets the "wedding blues"? I had to go to a wedding tonight...yes, HAD to -- the bride is a close friend, and I was the pianist for the ceremony. It was a beautiful wedding, and I'm very happy for the newlyweds. But I always come away from weddings feeling a bit "blue" and even a bit cynical. Do any of you ever feel this way? How do you deal with the feelings? I've tried praying about it, memorizing Bible verses, forcing myself to focus on the happiness of the event instead of my own selfishness, thinking happy thoughts about how someday it will be my turn (I hope), etc. But I can't seem to shake off the wedding blues...and they get worse with every wedding I attend. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Wedding blues Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 10:56 AM How many guys will I flirt with? Well, I usually at least try to flirt with every unmarried, unengaged, single Christian guy I meet! But somehow I think I was not around when the flirt gene (that most girls have) was handed out...my sister told me that I couldn't flirt properly if my life depended upon it. My flirting comes across as awkward, or either just simply friendly. I'm nearly over the wedding blues now, anyway. I had a good "letting off steam" session with a friend yesterday (he's single too, and he is experiencing some of the same frustrations), and I feel a lot better! Siylii, I didn't experience wedding blues when I was your age either...they didn't really start hitting me until I was about 23. Before that, I just assumed that I'd get married fairly young like most of my friends were doing. I never imagined that I would still be single and without any real prospects at the age of 27. Thanks for all the advice and commiseration, folks! Even those of you who don't get the wedding blues have tried to understand where I'm coming from! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Wedding blues Posted : 15 Dec, 2010 03:54 PM Well pianogal, if youtube can teach me how to throw a football, it can teach you how to flirt. Here's a series for you:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27bWB1aDvEE&feature=related Post Reply
View Profile History	Wedding blues Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 02:16 AM Playaaa, plaaaaaaaay!!! lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Wedding blues Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 08:41 AM "Letting of steam" sessions are good =) I didn't really experience the wedding blues until I was in my late 20s, I suppose. I didn't really even want to get married (ever) until I was around 21. Even then, I was mostly thinking of it as something I would do in my mid-to-late 20s. When I was around 27 or 28 and STILL SINGLE, that's when I really started to experience some angst. Looking back, though, I wasn't ready then to get married, so I'm glad I didn't! I've matured A LOT in the past few years (and especially the past year), and I know that I still have much maturing to do. So, as long as I'm focused on God and my sanctification, then these years aren't wasted. It's hard to actually feel like they're not wasted, but pulling myself back to the reality of things helps a little bit with that. What also helps me some is reading through the Pslams and seeing the range of David's emotions and how He trusts in God's sovereignty even when things aren't going well or going the way he wants them to. Post Reply
Firehawk View Profile History	Wedding blues Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 11:53 PM bc- I totally understand where your coming from. I dislike going to weddings myself because of those "blues." For me, I have seen most of my friends marry off (and even my younger brother). Though, I don't want to just get married for the sake of being married. I want to have a marriage that will last. Unfortunately, people (especially in the church) have the perspective that singles will not meet their objective until they are married off. Thinking that being married is the highest calling. So they give bad advice saying "once you give it up, God will bring that one person into your life" or "your next." I know they mean well, but there is a fundamental misunderstanding of the purpose of singleness. When you look at Scripture, Jesus and Paul were single and there is nothing wrong with being single. With that being said, I would highly recommend people listen to a sermon series called "Single-Minded" from Paul Matthies at the Village Church in Texas. It has totally changed my perspective. Now I am not saying that I no longer feel the blues during a wedding, but it has fixed my incorrect understanding of singleness. http://fm.thevillagechurch.net/sermons?type=sermons&page=3&match=any&kw=&topic=&sb=speaker&sd=asc Post Reply

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