Author	Thread: Whose more shallow??
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Whose more shallow?? Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 08:36 AM Whose more shallow? Two situations...tell me which one you think is being more shallow. 1) A guy who looks for physically beautiful women then gets to know them but when he finds out that their personalities don't jive, then he moves on. OR 2)A girl who is looking for the right personality and then when she finds it she will only look for more in that relationship if the guy is physically what she is after. Perhaps both are shallow...thoughts? Post Reply
View Profile History	Whose more shallow?? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 06:20 AM Not everyone is shallow. The last girlfriend I had was a bit of a minger to say the least, but I fell in love with her personality so didn't care. Of course when she got a good job and lots of money I was devastated to be dumped. I would have prefered to have been dumped by a pretty girl because now I have to suffer the indignity of the fact that I was dumped by someone that was ugly and just good at saying the right things to get what she wanted. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whose more shallow?? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 01:11 PM I agree that there has to be a balance between physical attraction and personality. Personally, someone's personality is more important to me than how they look, but, having said that, how someone looks and presents themselves IS the first thing you most often notice. So, initially I would be interested and attracted to a guy because I think he looks nice, however I have often found a guy attractive physically and afterwards come to realize that our personalities (values, morals etc.) don't match up and so I am not interested in going any further. I also agree that a person's personality makes them more attractive, even physically. It is hard to explain, but sometimes, even if you didn't initially find the person attractive, once you keep getting to know them better and you know WHO they are and the things they stand for, they become very attractive. This is why personality matters far more to me than how someone looks on the outside. While I do need to be physically attracted to a guy, because there is a physical element to a marriage relationship, it has to go deeper than that for me. Our physical appreance changes a great deal as we get older and looks do not last forever. So, if I was to marry a man only because I found him physically attractive, in the end it would be a very lonely and shallow relationship. Basically, personality, I feel can make you more or less attractive overall. So, that is why I feel it is right to care more about the kind of person someone is, rather than how they look on the outisde. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whose more shallow?? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 05:00 PM I first want to say that I was going to say tat thy're both shallow,but thinking very carefully about this. 1: I think that the guy should've taken more to know her; 2: I think that usually this is an everyday situation for both genders. I don't know why we're caught up with this even we want somebody attractive anyway. To: Marcus2054,lol !:laugh: It sounds like you were hurt,REALLY HARD brother!!!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Whose more shallow?? Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 10:14 AM I was still raw when I wrote that message. I had known the girl on and off for about 20 years which made it worst as we had been friends in the past. I've since found out that she was a cocaine addict and was just dried out when we met up as she didn't have any money. I got dumped because she knew I wouldn't approve of the drugs. I had been backsliden as a Christian for a few years and this experience has got me back into church where I belong. Everything happens for a reason, and God wasn't going to let me go. She was there to serve a purpose and she did it well. I also think God wanted me to understand the pain we cause him when we give up on following his path. I feel for the girl but there is nothing I can do for her until she chooses to change her ways. I would never be with a non-christian again as the lack of morals causes people to risk so much for so little. They have not got the same understanding of how to live life that we have, decisions are often based purely on how the person feels at the time. Then when things get to tough drink and drugs become their Gods. Post Reply

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