Author	Thread: Is physical attraction so important...
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 27 May, 2010 07:27 AM Is physical attraction so important that despite all the wonderful qualities someone may have, you just can't bring yourself to form a deeper relationship becasue you aren't "attracted" to them in "that way"? I was going to pose this question for the ladies but then realized that it could be for guys as well. I'm just thinking of all the good people out there that aren't given a chance because they aren't "attractive". Thoughts?? Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 12 Jun, 2010 04:41 PM I think attraction/beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. I think it's important for a couple to be attracted to one another so that they can have a satisfactory relationship. I think attraction is important on some level because each person wants to feel beautiful. However, some models are beautiful to some people and not to others. Same goes for non-models. I know some men who I thought were very attractive, even though they weren't exactly model-types. I think the same goes for guys. I think attraction goes much deeper than just being in shape and looking like a model. I think the inside qualities greatly help make the outside beautiful. When you like someone, they start becoming beautiful to you I think even if you weren't initially attracted to them. I think's it's more important between spouses because you most likely would want to be intimate. If one isn't attracted to the other, I think there is a great chance of having an unhappy marriage and may even perhaps give way to cheating for attraction fulfillment if one spouse doesn't have as strong of faithfulness values as the other. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 12 Jun, 2010 08:13 PM The way I feel about attraction is a triangle of equal sides. You have to be physically attracted to someone because as a previous poster said- you certainly don't want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend that you vomit in your mouth looking at. Doesn't matter if the world thinks (s)he is unattractive, as long as YOU find them beautiful. You also have to have (As Christian folks) a spiritual attraction because you have a desire to follow and have a heart for God. That being said it's important to find someone that meshes in habits that you have or wish you had, the same level of comfort and public display of faith. The last part is still somewhat physical, but in a different sense in that I feel you need characteristic attractiveness. A core set of values is found in every person and you want someone with a (to you) desirable set of traits and they want a person as well (you.) This means things like life goals, daily habits, how to handle stress, child rearing, for physical signs of such things like kindness and patience. When you take into account all 3, and for you- that person is attractive across the boar;, and you are to them-you will have an amazingly beautiful relationship and an attraction that will never fade. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 15 Jun, 2010 06:09 PM For me, a physical attraction get their foot in my door. However, for me to consider letting you in, so to speak, you have to be a Christian and an attractive personality. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 17 Jun, 2010 07:07 PM Physical attraction is important and unfortunately folks, it is inevitable. However, I do agree with the view that the more you get to know the person on the inside, the more attractive they become to you. That is why it SO important to be aware of the soul's inner beauty. Even the most drop-dead gorgeous model (male or female) can quickly become as unattractive as rank fish from the take-out sushi place you forgot. That is why everyone should give it try; a friend once told me that fortune favors the bold. It may take some time for the more attractive person to warm up to you, but it may happen...who knows, right? God has the ability to make even the ugliest wretches beautiful and so I say that in the end what makes someone physically beautiful is how one is seen through the lens of inner beauty that God has caused us to appreciate. Hope that helps. Post Reply
imageo777dei View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 20 Jun, 2010 07:05 PM Wow. I literally laughed out loud at your comment on Edward Cullen. I must say, that was rather entertaining. But to your point that you made about women being more shallow than men. I, for one, would like to think that I'm not shallow, as I'm sure you would do the same. I don't think it's very fair to make that generalization. I've met some very very wonderful people, very deep thinkers, profound. They live life to the fullest getting everything they can out of it. I also know a good number of those shallow people. In fact, I work with several. However, it's not the girls moreso than the guys. In my opinion, they're both equally shallow. Now they might be shallow in different ways and maybe that's where you're getting your side of the arguement from. *Note the following is stereotypical. It's not to say there aren't those who have been created completely different. Good jobto me for saying you were generalizing and then using that in my own argument. Haha, oops.* Us girls tend to be much more drama-oriented. We are usually the more emotionally driven gender so when we find something or someone we like or dislike, we can take it to the next level. I've seen my fair share of cat fights. I just recently got out of high school, so I know what drama looks like firsthand. And I have seen girls completely tear down very nice, very well deserving and well meaning guys in very immature, shallow fashion. And it's horrible. On the flipside, guys are shallow in their own way. I believe it's more through their physical nature. Let's face it. Most guys are more sexually driven beings then women. Fact of life. However, in today's society, sex has become such a commonplace item. I have witnessed many guys making blatant references to girls, cracking crude jokes at their expense, doing things that are nothing short of sexual harrassment. So all in all, I'd say that there really isn't any one gender that is worse about this than the other. Men and women alike have become very base, shallow beings, a far cry from the creation I'm sure God had in mind when He first created man. I think it's all in how we display things. Again, this is a broad generalization and doesn't apply to everyone. I am blessed to have some truly wonderful people in my life. Unfortunately, I, with the rest of us, live in a fallen world and must deal with these shallow people. But I believe that's God's way of showing us how to meet His calling to a better life. Post Reply
aurora846 View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 3 Jul, 2010 09:03 PM *Places Soapbox* *Deep Breath* Ok, so I think that you do need to be physically attracted to some extent. You dont want to have sex after youre married and be grossed out by the person you just married. Just sayin. However, I am a thick girl. Im hispanic and Indian. Im not skinny but im a fun, outgoing, person and have alot to offer in other areas. Not everyone can look like Angelina Jolie. Just sayin. But who really wants to be with someone who doesnt at least try and take care of themselves? I am a big girl, but I take care of myself like i was the hottest girl on the planet. I want to work what my momma gave me, altho my adopted mom is realy skinny and in gr8 shape...so bad analogy. LOL But, there really is more to a person than looks. *LOOKS 'ROUND* "All the single ladies put ya hands up!" Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 11 Jul, 2010 08:44 PM Thank you Demujen for your post! I really enjoyed reading your post. I think you hit it right on the nose with your explanation. I really like your analogy of attraction being like a triangle of equal parts. I think you explain it really well. Thanks for your insights. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 12:34 AM I used to have really bad self esteem problems because girls didn't even want to be my friend, but they always told me how hot my brother was or wanted to be around him and these were Christians. I belive attraction is important, but don't reject a person who wants to be friends and base that on looks. I always feel a girl thinks I only want a girlf friend. I would like to have more friends and build those, but I usually never get the chance and the thing is I don't think I'm that bad looking. I'm not the "normal guy" meaning I dislike sports and I like to cook, but that's who God made me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 10:18 PM to me physical attraction is super important! please keep reading i am not shallow! I have to be attracted to someone physically to want to get to know them. but for me physical attraction is not about body type height weight hair color etc. to me being physically attractive is primarily personality. one of the ugliest things to me is those that have a "perfect body" but their personality sucks. at my college group there are like 40 sisters, to me they are all attractive because they are Christians, there are several that i am not interested in because they are too pretty. to me dressing in revealing clothes makes ugly, smoking makes ugly, and personality is KEY! as someone said beauty IS in the eye of the be holder!!! i would prefer a plain and simple girl to a drop dead gorgeous one any day!!! B.I.C. Post Reply

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