Hello friends, i need our help here; I had and argument with a friend, i was telling him that sex before marriage is wrong and it is sexual immorality itself but he insisted that Paul in the bible talks about sexual immorality but never at one point has he identified sex before marriage as sexual immorality. According to my friend, sexual immorality has more to do with incest, homosexuality,extramarital sex/unfaithfulness....he also said that their church allows premarital as long as it is done in love and with one person...
what do you say about all of this. is premarital sex right or wrong?(please back up your view with the bible teaching)
1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
(In this scripture here, it seems in basic form we are being told that because there is so much sexual immorality, one should become married so that in staying true to their vows, they would not succumb to such behaviors.)
3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife�s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband�s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command.
(Here we are being told, that as a husband and wife, we have a responsibility towards one another to fulfill the other's needs and desires and that if we do not, we can be sure Satan will tempt the other through their desires.)
7I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
(I think this is where your friend and his church get their ideology. In this scripture it could be interpreted that as long as you only have one partner/control yourself whether married or unmarried, sexual relations is okay...that it is only if you find you can't control yourself that you should seek marriage....the problem with this concept is the point made above in verses 1 & 2...again, there it states that because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman should have her own husband...and in THAT statement, I would make the argument that perhaps premarital sex is not wrong, but because our of lack of self control {vs. 5} we really need to wait til we are married.)
Truth be told; Sexual sin blocks fellowship with God. If we are in the immorality grip then there is only one prayer that God wants to hear and that is the prayer of confession and repentance!
Antibiotics prevent or cure some venereal diseases, contraceptives reduce the chance of pregnancy, but there is �no contraceptive for the conscience�.
Medical science may eliminate some consequences of my sin but it cannot remove my accountability to God.
God says �If anyone turns a deaf ear to the law, even his prayers are detestable� (proverbs 28:9). If we are practicing sexual immorality�it nullifies our prayers and our ministry.
Okay , I know that very many young people(including myself in the past) do/did the sex before marriage thing in the name of love but I can guarantee you, it totally breaks the relationship between you and God and you cannot pretend about it!
Another thing is that sooner or later, sexual sin will find you out! "you may be sure that your sin will find you out� (Numbers 32:23)
even Solomon in the bible says that �the man of integrity walks securely but he who takes crooked paths will be found out(proverbs 10:9).
So just be sure that we will never get away with anything(Luke 12:2-3)
All am trying to say is that whether you do it (premarital sex)in the name of love or commitment... sex before marriage is not right before God so we should find ourselves again if we have walked that path and make ourselves right before God again.
But if you have not been there, thanks for keeping yourselves and please if you think that you are firm, then be careful you don't fall because the burden of guilt can be too huge to carry.
OK. may be am sounding so old fashioned but i hope you pick a little sense out of that.
