A bit of background on me. I believe that my past relationship occurred so that both myself and my ex could come to God.
His mom went to church every week, and he started to go once our relationship started getting serious and he wanted our union to be blessed. My family is not Christian so I was not raised in a Christian household. At the time, I was not open to the power of God and therefore as he got closer to God, it tore us apart because I couldn't see the good he was doing for us, I just saw all the time he was devoting to the church volunteering and such, and realized I was no longer number one in my ex's life and I didn't like it.
Well, we broke up, and it was hard for me. I realized that God was the answer, He will always there for me and wants what is best for me, and that He should be number one in my life. So, through the relationship's end, I drew closer to God. But it is a double edged sword because as i grew closer to God, I saw what my ex was trying to do, what a good Christian he is, and what a perfect mate he could be.
I know that God has a plan for me, and that He already knows who my mate is, but is it possible that my ex could be that mate? I realize that I am stuck on him because he was my most recent relationship and I cared for him deeply, so I need a fresh mind to comment on the situation.
I stay away from my ex when I can. We attend the same church but I attend a different service than him and am in a different network than him. But, God keeps putting my ex in my path. Is God trying to tell me something, or is it just coincidence? Or is God trying to test me to see if I am completely over my ex before introducing me to my actual mate?
I am trying my best to just let God take control, to have faith that all these questions will be answered on God's time, not mine, so I shouldn't try to rush it. I just want to see if maybe others have been through a similar situation, and find strength in your testimony :) thanks!
thank you for the help! it is just because my church teaches tithing and 10%, i would feel like giving anything less than 10% isn't 'good enough', but like you said, it cares about what is in your heart and not exactly the numbers.
and from when i first posted this thread, i have learned a lot and grown stronger through my faith. i know that God has already chosen my mate and i will meet him when He thinks the time is right, i just need to be patient. and the more i focus on my relationship with God and strengthening my faith, the less i think of my ex, the less i need what my ex represents. the greatest love i will ever have is God's love and i should appreciate it and embrace it :)
