Author	Thread: Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!)
Admin	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 16 Apr, 2011 08:31 PM Men, would you break up with your girlfriend because she didn't want kids? Women, have you ever had a relationship go sour over the issue of children (not including 2nd marriage issues with 1st marriage children)? Was it you or the man who didn't want kids? Any other thoughts about this? Some women out there simply have a deep passion for their careers or simply aren't ga-ga about children. There's certainly men like that, but for some reason it's socially unacceptable for a woman to be that way, especially in Christian circles. As though there can't be diversity among female personalities... we were not all made to have the same interests. And please, can we try to keep this a general discussion (as opposed to discussing me - how young I am, how I will eventually want kids, etc etc thank you, but I have heard it all already, I want to know how people feel about this topic more on a general note). Post Reply
View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 16 Apr, 2011 08:54 PM I would have no issue with a woman who doesn't want kids because I don't think I want to have kids either. I have nothing against children; I just don't want them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 16 Apr, 2011 10:39 PM Thanks Kyle, good to hear. I agree, children are wonderful, I just feel little desire to live with them 24/7, which is a very different matter from being able to appreciate God's creations. Kids are great, just not my cup of tea. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 17 Apr, 2011 09:08 AM I know married couples who have decided not to have kids (or can't but won't admit to it) and they seem happy enough. One thought I would like to leave with you though is that people's wants change over time and a young man/woman in their teens and living it up may decide kids are too much hassle at the time. Much later on one or both may feel very different! Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 17 Apr, 2011 02:51 PM I'm glad there are women out there who don't want kids, as that means they have more time to make an impact on the people and children that already exist. I'm not sure if I want to have kids myself, and if I do end up deciding I want one, it will probably take God acting for it to happen, because I don't plan on having one any time in the next couple decades. Post Reply
stegoodie View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 17 Apr, 2011 03:11 PM In all honesty, eventually being a dad is one of the deepest desires of my heart so it would be extremely difficult for me to continue dating someone who did not want to have children. I can't say it would never happen or that I would definitely break up with someone over that issue but it would be something that would take a lot of discernment. Besides, if the issue in question is simply a woman's career vs having kids, I don't think they have to be mutually exclusive. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 18 Apr, 2011 07:48 AM I think it's perfectly fine as long as she at least likes kids. Like when people say they hate kids, that strikes me as wierd. But if they don't want any of their own it's cool. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 18 Apr, 2011 10:16 AM There are two things that pop into my head as the "two worst things about never getting married": 1) Being alone for the rest of my life having never known the love of a husband, and 2) Never having kids. So, since never having kids is the #2 worst thing ever, I don't think I could marry someone who did not ever want kids. If it turned out that I physically can't have kids, I would be open to adoption...but I would also be ok with remaining childless if adoption didn't work out or if my husband were opposed to adoption. But I wouldn't want to enter a marriage knowing that kids weren't even an option no matter what. Another thought that comes to mind is this: What if my husband didn't want kids, and I was willing to remain childless, but I ended up pregnant anyway? (Birth control does fail from time to time, even when used properly.) Would he leave me, or ask me to get an abortion, or expect me to give the child up for adoption? Yeah, that's a little bit dramatic, but it's something to think about. For those of you who do not want kids, you need to think about how you would handle an unwanted pregnancy, and come to an agreement as a couple...preferably prior to getting married. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 18 Apr, 2011 06:12 PM I've always wanted kids, so it would be a huge issue. Ultimately wanting kids can make or break a relationship. I would probably not consider a relationship with someone who doesn't want kids, too much stress involved with that conflict of interest. And it is something that will likely not change for either person for years, if not decades. Post Reply
Jewels133 View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 23 Apr, 2011 08:20 AM Some women are called to be mothers, and others are not. My best friend, for example, has no desire to have children or to be married. She is content to live a single life, or at least thats what she tells me for the last ten years. I've seen her interact with children and I think she would be a great mom, but she disagrees. She likes to "give them back when she's done playing with them." I would love to have children some day. It has been a desire of my heart since I was very young. I don't necessarily have to have biological children, but I would like to be a mother eventually. I actually broke up with my last boyfriend, because at 38, he still "wasn't ready" to have children. (We were not engaged, so I didn't think much of it at the time. I wasn't pressuring him about it. He brought it up.) After about six months he brought it up again, and after listening to his comments and outright scorn at my wanting children, I realized he never would be ready, and he was too controlling and selfish of a man for me to seriously consider marrying. I broke up with him...not just because of his attitude concerning children, but because he had known from the beginning how important that was to me, and he lead me to believe at first that "eventually" that was what he wanted too. I felt like I had been lied to. I think some men feel burdened by taking care of a child financially, or they feel they would not make a very good father, so they decide they don't want children. I think a serious discussion about having children is an important indicator in a relationship. If one person really doesn't want children, then they don't belong with someone who really does. A house divided can not stand. Couples should want the same things out of life to have a truly happy marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men's thoughts on women who don't want kids? (Women's answers welcome too!) Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 07:04 AM I dont know that I would end a relationship because she didn't want kids.. but I definitely want to have kids of my own. So any woman who wants them has a huge plus! Post Reply

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