Author	Thread: Instant relationship
Admin	Instant relationship Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 10:18 PM So.. I've been hearing (or te exact reading lol) some online love stories, and read some of the testimonials on this site as well. There were some people who just flew thousands miles away after talking for less than 3 months, there are some people who got married after getting to know each other for less than a year. I'm not saying that it's impossible since if Jesus is willing then so be it in His ways and time. Just wanna hear what you have in mind tho about this :applause: Thanks in advance for the responses =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 17 Oct, 2010 02:10 PM Personally, I think it's very risky, especially when having to make a commitment to cover large distances. I had the good fortune of meeting somebody just a few hours' drive away, so we were able to meet without too huge of a cost of time, money, or safety. I do not want to give the image that I think all LOOOONG distance relationships are inherently bad, but they definitely come with more risk. There are women in foreign countries that are looking for ways into the United States, scammers looking for money they need to "meet" you, and then sometimes Western men who want an Eastern woman for selfish reasons (I've heard lots of shallow arguments of how women from certain cultures make subservient wives, etc). And these people can hang in there for a long time, taking months if they need to convince you they are really someone or something they are not. Because of our relative proximity, I was able to meet my boyfriend and see that his life, and he, was exactly as he said it was. Of course, if God wants something to happen, he can make it happen, but tales of couples who rush into marrying shortly after meeting do not always have happy endings. Again, people can falsely advertise themselves. Or, if the couple doesn't take the time out to learn about each other first, there are a lot of things about a person that can break a relationship. It could save a lot of heartbreak to know these things before sinking yourself into a huge commitment. I am glad I've had the opportunity to date my boyfriend for the past almost-year. We've gotten to see each other at our best and worst, learn each other's weird ticks, foibles, and how we handle different situations as individuals and as a pair. While he and I did an insane amount of talking in our first month of correspondence, there is too much that we learned about each other further in that is so important that I can confidently say people really should take their time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 17 Oct, 2010 05:39 PM Siylii, thanks for the reply. Wow you did give really gud inputs, and I'm happy to see you and Mark together =) I just sometimes wonder how it could happen.. I've been on some dates (both in cyber and real world), and some dates could really hit it off just after 3 dates, some date seemed had no progress at all and then after it all finished, turned out that my dates were interested. Mmm actually I wasn't only referring to Western and Eastern couple lol but I think my Eastern face says it all :ROFL: I personally am not so sure about instant relationship tho, that's why I wanna hear what you guys have in mind about this :goofball: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 17 Oct, 2010 08:16 PM Well, I'm a bit skeptical of the whole online dating thing anyway... I don't think I could ever consider myself to be "in a relationship" with someone I've never met in person. And I really don't see myself traveling more than a couple hours to meet a guy for the first time. If he wants to travel a long way to meet me (and doesn't expect me to contribute financially to his trip), wonderful! Once he's made that trip and put forth that effort, and once I've seen who he really is, THEN the road can go both ways. So, while I'm willing to have online friends, I think that a relationship can't really be that "instant" or simple. For me, it takes a lot more than words on a screen and a few photographs for me to put that much trust in someone. I won't say it can't happen, but I doubt it will for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 04:25 PM I hear you, BC and I share the same frustrations. Well God's timing and God's methods are different for everyone, so.. Back to topic, I've seen couples that got married after 3 months getting to know each other and their marriage lasts for years. There are couples who got married after 7 years in a relationship but they divorced after 2-3 years. So, I think, it all depends on the couple (or luck factor :ROFL: jk lol) Anyone ever been in instant relationship and dun mind to indulge us with ur story(or stories lol)? Post Reply
View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 08:41 PM Ooh, sorry if I narrowed down your topic, JesusLoves! I guess I just took the "long distance" to the extreme... or maybe your pic spoke to me subconsciously. You're adorable, by the way. Post Reply
View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 04:12 AM That's okay, Siylii ;) and thanks :) you're adorable as well I'm sure, otherwise you wouldn't be attached to Mark ;) Post Reply
Dan21 View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 09:38 AM i believe develping relationships as friends is good but one guy told me the best place too look for someone is in the church where your at or something so yea. Anything is possible. But you have to ask yourself am i doing this in my flesh or am i in God's will on this. So yea. I've made some female friends on here and made a really good guy friend on here and he found the right girl they are both in florida but yea. It seams the best sites are the ones u pay like eharmany and tru but who kno's Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 11:12 PM I don't like long distance relationships, and I've sent messages to like 3 people on here. I don't think CDFF is expecting much in the way of an amazing success story out of me. Besides, things are moving forward with the girl my mom introduced me to. I know lots of people who knew they were meant to get married very quickly, so once you know, why wait? Go ahead and get hitched! It took my parents 4 years of dating to get engaged, and it took my friends Dana and Chris like 3 months. Both couples are still married, so it's hard to say that longer time knowing each other is automatically better. Post Reply
View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 12:56 AM Tulip, it's not that I dun believe instant relationship wouldn't work, some people had been through it and yet they were succeed on it. Hey how's things between u and that girl? Sounds like someone is looking no more now lol Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Instant relationship Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 10:59 PM Thanks for asking! Right now I guess you could say I'm committed to pursuing a romantic relationship with her. The 60 mile distance kinda makes it hard to move things along, but I have her phone number now. That should make things easier. Post Reply

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