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swalee24

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This is a Christian site right?
Posted : 8 May, 2010 04:06 PM

I am so sick of the plethora of pervs on this "Christian" site.

Half the guys I talk to end up trying to talk me into taking my shirt off. What kind of Christian is that? Does anyhbody feel this way too or is it just me? I want a REAL Christian guy and one that has manners. Maybe that kinda person is nonexistant.

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bcpianogal

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Posted : 8 May, 2010 08:52 PM

Swalee, (hope I spelled that right...)

I've not had ANY conversations with guys who were total perverts. Some weirdos, yes. But no one has ever said anything inappropriate to me or tried to get me to say/do inappropriate things. Are these guys contacting you? Or are you contacting them first?

Also, have you considered the fact that one of your profile pictures, um, well, it doesn't leave much to the imagination. Just think about it. If you replaced that picture with another one, you might get more of the kind of contacts that I'm sure you want.

I hope this helps some. I've met some really nice people on sites like this. I even dated one for a few months (it didn't work out, but he was still a nice guy). Others have just become online friends. I've also communicated with some very strange characters on these sites. Use wisdom in your communication, and never agree to anything that you are uncomfortable with, or that you feel would be dishonoring to God.

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Posted : 8 May, 2010 09:30 PM

Hi Swalee!



Good to talk to you again honey.



"I am up for practically anything! I bet you can imagine the boundaries I'm talking about.



oh and if you'd want to contact me, you can email me at ********@*****.com or on here too."



Oh honey, when you ask 20 year old guys to use their imaginations...well, they are, just not the way that you intended. Rereading this statement, I hope that you will realize that you need to make your expectations very specific - not left to the imagination.



It is dangerous to give out your email address before you are well into a safe relationship. I have encountered men on this site that have made unacceptable requests. Just like not everyone sitting in a church is committed to Christ, not everyone on this site is committed to Christ. You can't take anything for granted. I have reported people on this site for inappropriate conduct that are still on this site. On another site, I accidentally ran across a man from my home town who has been convicted of domestic violence. I contacted the web admin. and asked them to confirm it with the police and shut down his account. That was about 6 weeks ago and he is still there. The sites put out liability statements that they don't do background checks, so it is TOTALLY up to YOU to protect yourself. Take precautions.



On an aside: if you have found counseling, talk about how you present yourself to others. You are possibly still dressing according to your ex's preferences and not your own personality or godly modesty. I naturally have dark brown hair, but my ex preferred blonde. I started with highlights and got lighter and lighter until I realized I had so many highlights I was blonde. When he left, I went and dyed my hair among other things. Find yourself and don't be his voodoo doll.



Sweetie, in all honesty, you are only seperated and are probably not ready for anything more than friendship. I'd strongly advice that you change your "what I'm looking for" statis.



Blessings,

Rose

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Posted : 13 May, 2010 09:29 PM

And see in my experience, I find a girl because her default grabs my attention in some way-I actually read her profile to get some info she is willing to share, and if I like what I read, I message the woman.



More than half the time I get a reply, more out of courtesy I think, and all I usually say/ask is pretty much, "Your profile makes you off pretty neat, what's going on? How are you?"



I'd like to actually mail a woman, and get a reply back that's more than one sentence. They assume you're a creeper, but you're on a dating website. Men will make advances haha :)

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Posted : 13 May, 2010 09:44 PM

@ demujen, if you ask a lady how she is, more likely than not she will tell you... in a sentence. maybe if you elaborated about something in her profile you would have more luck. i know you didn't ask for my advice, but i'd take the chance and give it anyway, nothing ends a conversation quicker than a closed ended email. all the best:waving:

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Tulip89

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Posted : 14 May, 2010 09:18 AM

So much of our communication is nonverbal in person that you have to be all the more engaging and interesting when not in person.

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Posted : 17 May, 2010 05:24 AM

To swalee - though this might be a christian site, it doesnt mean everyone who joins is a christian. Now, yes you would think that since it IS a christian site that everyone would be a christian, but the reality is that it just isnt true. I think I have noticed some on here through searches that arent. The fact that this site is open to just about anyone regardless of their faith/beliefs solidifys your experiences with those messages.

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Posted : 17 May, 2010 07:15 AM

Hmm...and the honest truth is...not every christian is a christian...



:peace::peace:

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Posted : 17 May, 2010 09:19 AM

soo true, soo true

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Posted : 17 May, 2010 10:39 AM

My pastor preached a sermon called "Being a Christian without being saved." It was about how people can "walk the walk and talk the talk", do everything right, go to church, live a moral life, even witness and evangelize...but not really be saved. The sermon was a warning for everyone to examine their hearts and make SURE that they had indeed accepted Christ as their own personal Savior.

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Posted : 23 May, 2010 09:17 AM

consider me, good things come to those who wait and sometimes take long distances to encounter. Don't be dispaired. Cheers))

Allende

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