Author	Thread: When did attraction become an issue?
Admin	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 20 Dec, 2009 05:09 PM I had a thought some days ago that goes like this; to be in love is an embellishment of the truth. to love is love itself. We often separate being 'in love' with someone from loving someone. I gather that being in love is steeped in the phenomenon referred to as attraction. attraction is normal right? i have yet to find anywhere in the bible that talks about attraction..lust yes, but anything close always led to a fall. it is understood today, due to our primal urges that attraction is key. but what right does it have in a person who is born again? when born again refers to us fighting daily the sins that 'killed us with death'? isn't being forever hitched to your downfall going to lead you to hell? i am beginning to get a clearer picture of what love truly is and funny enough when i get an understanding of some foreign concept i remember something my dad told me.."you don't have a clue what love is" and he was absolutely right. as he is most of the time. so my question is this, when did attraction become an issue? p.s although i would appreciate the survival of the fittest theory, i'm more focused on the impact of attraction as it relates to the born again :) Nyanda! Post Reply
atlfan27 View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 21 Dec, 2009 02:57 PM hmmmm...interesting. Are you trying to refer to attraction towards the physically appearance? Post Reply
View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 27 Dec, 2009 06:11 PM Interesting. I think there comes a point when you cross the lines between attraction and it becomes lust. Not all attraction is lust. It's possible that not all lust is attraction. Attraction does not have to be solely a physical thing: a person can be attracted to a person for their mind or other characteristics. I think that when you are concerned that you are struggling with lust or attraction for the wrong reasons, you need to ask yourself why you are interested in a certain person. What is it that draws you to them? Then you need to decide what to do about it. If you lust after a person, you might need to recognize the danger and not pursue any relationship besides friendship there. If you are genuinely attracted, maybe you need to trust God to allow a relationship of any kind to blossom and see what happens next. Post Reply
View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 29 Dec, 2009 10:23 PM Actually, we do see attraction in the Bible. When Jacob first saw Rachel, he was amazed by her beauty. And he put up with one crazy uncle to gain Rachel's hand in marriage. We also see it between Ruth and Boaz. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 31 Dec, 2009 09:29 AM If you're in love with someone, but not attracted to them then don't get married...just call them "brother" or "sister". If you have no problems controlling your passions, stay single and focused on being married to Christ. Physical attraction is a important part of marriage. People like to say the only reason for marriage is to be "united in Christ", but Paul says unmarried people serve God better. In fact, the only recommended circumstance for marriage is "uncontrolled passions". There are only a few legitimate reasons for marriage. To procreate. To have a "helpmate". To guard the passions. If you don't want to have kids, if you can survive on your own, and if you have your passions under control....then don't get married. If you do not have your passions under control...marry someone you are physically attracted to...to guard against lust. :peace::peace: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 31 Dec, 2009 09:31 AM Physical attraction is not the only requirement in a marriage partner though...character and personality match-ups come first, but I believe you should also be satisfied with your partner's physical appearance. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Ben0024 View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 4 Jan, 2010 09:40 AM Attraction has I believe always been there as far as physical and mental. It is human nature to only go for those who you feel connected to but also physically attracted to as well. I feel as we evolve it is becoming even more an issue. Getting married and staying together was never an issue until I would say a decade ago. I'm not saying in the past 50 years people didn't get divorced but just seems to me now it is greatly on the rise and why, simply it is way to easy to do now of days and we as humans have developed a higher standard for one another and it deals greatly with attraction. Can we fight this perhaps but it's up to each one of us. There really is no reason I have come up with why this is happening I just see it happening rapidly as we as a species evolve. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 5 Jan, 2010 07:13 PM exactly my thought clue!!! I also agree that attraction and lust can be two different things. I feel that attraction can cover more ground such as the mental and emotional whereas lust tends to be more strictly attached to the physical. Post Reply
View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 10 Jan, 2010 07:04 PM Hi there, I think you bring up some good points about the difference between "love" and being "in love". Love is unconditional, and it is a choice (cf. I Cor. 13). We are told to love our enemies, to do good to those who hate us. Our love is supposed to be founded in the fact that God loved us first. God loved, lavished His love upon us, and now we can truly love (I John 4:7ff). The world has a semblance of love but it cannot glorify God if it does not resolve itself in Jesus Christ--leading back to Him and His glory. In other words, if the goal of our love for anyone and everyone is not to be Christ in this world, to show Christ's love and to reflect Him (as we are conformed to His image, Ro. 12), then we are not loving in the way God describes love in the Bible. The sensation of "being in love" is usually a combination of attraction to personality, attraction to character, and physical attraction. Being in love can change on a whim if one does not realize what it is. We hear all the time in America, "Follow your heart", and I read such statements even in profiles here. But God says "He who follows his heart is a fool" (Proverbs 28:26). Instead, we should be in control of our feelings and remain rational when we find ourselves deeply attracted to a person on many different levels. So, in short, "love" as an entity is a choice (and follows I Cor. 13 and other biblical mandates), and "being in love" is an emotional state. I would depart from your view in that the Bible doesn't talk about physical attraction. First of all, the entire book of Song of Solomon (or Song of Songs) is thematic in physical attraction. In fact, you can scarcely find anything in the book besides that. Some pastors try to spiritualize it, but it really is clear what's going on there :). "Your hair is like a flock of goats that have descended from Mt. Gilead". I mean, come on, you can't get much more romantic than that :). And don't get me started on doves... We should also understand that the womb-man (Eve) was made with physical beauty in mind; indeed she is the most beautiful creature in existence. This was God's design, for it was not good for man to be alone. Good discussion, CG Post Reply
atlfan27 View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 14 Jan, 2010 07:45 PM I'm coming from a good family and background so yes looks does a key role but, she must have other qualities such as education level, not boring, similar religious beliefs, an active lifestyle (no plumps allowed) etc. Sorry but I'm not kind of person that will go out with street or shady people. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	When did attraction become an issue? Posted : 15 Jan, 2010 06:10 PM Wow, atlfan? Do you have any anti-pitchfork/torch spray? :ribbit::ribbit: Post Reply

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