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Is it a good idea to date someone who lives in a foreign country?
Posted : 11 May, 2012 07:34 PM

I don't mind meeting people from another country or even having a date, i have a friend who married a foreigner and is very happy, so i do believe that kind of relationship can work. But... It's very hard to handle some situations like distance and cultural differences. What do you guys think of that?

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Posted : 11 May, 2012 08:43 PM

I think cultural differences can bring excitement. Marriage is to bring glory to God and I don't see any reason why it couldn't work if that is the goal.

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Posted : 12 May, 2012 09:41 PM

Its been very difficult for me as I can't seem to overcome the feeling against distance though culture isnt an issue at all. Yet if you are willing, trust and patience pays in the end. Best wishes:)

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Posted : 14 May, 2012 12:21 PM

If you're not meeting up then it's hardly dating, so the question is, can you meet up and how often? Until that point, they're just penfriends.

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Posted : 14 May, 2012 08:28 PM

I would love to date someone from another country. I think being with someone that has a different cultural background can be healthy in a relationship. As far as distance goes (no pun intended) I think that can help strengthen the relationship as long you do see each other at some point.

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Posted : 15 May, 2012 04:02 AM

To clarify...I was answering under the assumption that you meant one of the parties would be moving closer in order for the relationship to move forward.

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Posted : 16 May, 2012 11:25 AM

The Christian "culture" trumps all for me. That is what I desire to relate to above all with them.





If we had different "wordly" cultures, I'd be willing to give and take for the better of our relationship, I won't stand my ground and be like, "this is how we do it in ______ country and this is how it should be!" That would not be putting God first in a relationship.



Ephesians 5:21



"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."







I also remind my fellow brothers and sisters... that above all, our full allegiance and loyalty is not to a country of this world, but to the kingdom of God.





John 18:36



"Jesus answered, "My Kingdom is not an earthly kingdom. If it were, my followers would fight to keep me from being handed over to the Jewish leaders. But my Kingdom is not of this world."





Having said all this, it's up to the person, are you willing to date someone and learn about a new culture? For some it's an excited "yes", for others it is a decided "no".



That's up to you. For me... if I find someone who I relate to spiritually, and we are mutually attracted, I'd be willing to give it a chance, regardless of "worldly" differences in where God placed us to be, far or small.



Afterall, Moses married an Ethiopian woman(of the same faith, of course)...point being, it's perfectly fine if both parties are happy/ok with it.. As long as you are both in Christ.

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Posted : 23 May, 2012 06:54 AM

I think long distance relationships are difficult. No experience here but I am just drawing from some people who have had long distance relationships. Some do not last. But some are strengthened by it because it leads them to pray more for one another. There is also something about letters that actually make one feel intimate to a person without being so. I know it feels cliched to say that some really write their heart out in letters.



Long distance relationships sometimes makes me think of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert. Better pick up their bios.

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Posted : 24 May, 2012 12:22 AM

I had twice experiences LDR and it doesn't work to me. I don't say that I have trauma for that but I think, it is more difficult, except two of them have consistency to continue keep their communication in line.

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Posted : 24 May, 2012 01:30 PM

Well if it is to meet people with a different cultural background... then you do not need to seek abroad.



The problem with long distance relationship is that eventually the distance becomes an issue.



And connected to that is the question, when is the time right for the distance to be solved and how (or by who)?



Also having a pleasant online contact where you discuss everything so openly and truthfully is never the same than meeting with that person and discuss it face to face.



I think that one should always be open to whom God puts on your path but to specifically seek dating someone who lives abroad is just burdening yourself with those few extra troubles that everyone else is trying to avoid.



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Posted : 6 Jun, 2012 08:23 PM

The best answer is this is something ONLY YOU can answer, and the only answer that matters will come from prayer and the Holy Spirit.



While foreign culture can be exciting, the bible also says be equally yoked. Make sure that the cultural differences are acceptable. For example, my cousin is with a man (almost 5+ years now) who will not marry her because he can not pay a dowry (about 10,000 dollars) to her parents for her hand in marriage, per his custom. He is Laos. They are happy though with how life is for them.



Another scenerio may be will you actually meet? Are you willing to wait on one another and stop looking for someone else? How will you interact, skype? Games online like chess and checkers? Talk on phone?



Understand that while this person make seem amazing online, there are so many more things you need to know about a person. How do they carry themself in public? How do they treat there family? Do they act mature or are they a clown?



Like I said, the only true way to answer this question is by saying prayer.

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