Author	Thread: I want closure and I want to laugh
Admin	I want closure and I want to laugh Posted : 15 Mar, 2010 10:51 AM I appreciate prayers. To be honest, I'm not divorced. Yes, I'm on here and kinda looking. Kinda. I'm not ready to do anything halfway serious at this time. My wife filed for divorce Aug. '08. We got lawyers, couldn't settle, ran out of money, no more lawyers! Wife quit work May '09 to take care of her mother with Alzheimer's. Her mother died about 2 weeks later. She was buried on a Sat., on Sun. wife went to ER and was diagnosed as diabetic. She has not worked since then. She can't afford to live any where else. We still live together, in different rooms. Crown Financial advisor asked if we'd ever prayer together about our marriage. In a quiet time I asked her if we could pray about it, she refused. We are behind on 2nd mortgage and have credit cards calling us for payments. I'm struggling to get free and refinance things. Wife is an enabler. She contributed to our troubled teen daughter problems. Daughter just got back after 6 months away at Dept. of Youth Services Group Home. Daughter has found a medication that makes me feel like I have my little girl back - but her mother lets her go around the same old friends where trouble kept happening. So I'm married - and not married, have to live with her and her problems plus pay for her portion of house, food and medical needs. It is oppressive but I'm surviving - barely, the pressure affects me so my work is affected. I'm under review at work. I have to pass to keep my job. All this at 55. Never would have thought anything like this would happen to me. It's not all gloom and doom though. God lets me smile and enjoy the flowers that are starting to come out here. Let me repeat. I am just kind of looking here. CDFF lets me feel like there is light at the end of this tunnel. I didn't know what to expect with starting over at 55. I have been very impressed with the profiles of women in 'my range'. Many very attractive women here! Many very ACTIVE women also! Skydiving, motorcycling, traveling - whew! Some people must have lots of extra time I guess! lol I hope this doesn't scare anyone away. Kind of 'much' to put out there - but I can only get through this with prayer. Understand, first and foremost I am a Christian. By law I am still married. I must honor that obligation to God. I hope people will understand - it might not take me long to actively begin dating after the divorce is finalized because in many ways, I've been divorced since Aug. '08. I appreciate prayers. May you feel God's helping arm as you deal with your struggles. May we all have patience as we wait for God's plan for our futures. God bless, Lloyd Post Reply
View Profile History	I want closure and I want to laugh Posted : 15 Mar, 2010 11:19 AM dear bama. welcome to the forums. let me just say that as long as you are still married and livin in the same household i would be here for fellowship and not really be tryin to make any connections.. even though yawl are apart and have filed for divorce.. theres always that chance yawl could work things out and not divorce.. it seems you care enuff about her to stay in the same home.. i admit it sounds like you got it pretty bad there though.. and will be prayin for ya..i hope it works out well for you and your family... ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	I want closure and I want to laugh Posted : 16 Mar, 2010 08:45 AM Lloyd, I will be praying for you as well. I wouldn't dare attempt to give any advice. I've never been anywhere near your position where love is gone but obligation and duty keeps you bound. I don't know what your denomination is, but my Pastor would suggest fasting along with your prayer. There is something about an at least 3 day fast (with water) that the breaks the yoke and causes you to be able to hear the Spirit that we all need for guidance. Be blessed and know you have a fellow Christian soldier comrade, in me. Post Reply
View Profile History	I want closure and I want to laugh Posted : 16 Mar, 2010 07:31 PM Lloyd, I will be praying for your situation. It took alot for you to write what you did and God honors your honesty. but yes, you are still married, it sounds like the Lord has called you to help His daughter (your wife) for now while she is going through this season. I will definitely be praying for you and your household. Dont lose hope Lloyd, God hears your prayers. Bless You, Riveroflife Post Reply