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ChristAlone1122 View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 17 Jan, 2026 01:46 PM I have a friend who has been living with her boyfriend for 40 years, she is in her late 70's. In the last 10 years she became a Christian, but he has not. She started coming to church and eventually stopped coming because of pressure from other Christians to either leave her boyfriend or get married to him. He does not want to get married; she loves him, is financially dependent upon him, and doesn't want to leave him. What would you say to her? Am I wrong to stay friends with her? Post Reply
Moonlight7Lady View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 17 Jan, 2026 03:45 PM Your friend should get married to the man or leave and get her own Apt. She should not be dependent on a man that is not her husband. You can still be friends with her, just do not agree that it is ok Biblical to live with any man without being married, a legal marriage License if in the USA. She should pray about the situation and if she is a Christian lady. God comes first before her boyfriends wishes. Post Reply
Nomoreusernamesleft^ View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 17 Jan, 2026 07:41 PM Have you ever read the entire King James Version Bible? Even in the "new" Bibles you won't likely find anything at all about a marriage certificate or a marriage license. They weren't even a thing until the mid 1800s A.D.. The intent of them was to grant the U.S. government authority over the most sacred union in the earth, which is the mystery of Christ and his Bride. Think about this also, if a government issued marriage license validated a marriage to be a marriage in the eyes of God, then by default that would mean that same s*x marriages would be valid marriages in the eyes of God and we know that they are not. Yet the government validates those abominable unions as valid "marriages." If they are committed to each other and have agreed to be with each other for their lives, then that is the marriage union that we see in scripture. "The twain shall be one flesh, therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate." Another fact that few people consider when applying to the ungodly government for a license is that there are thousands of laws that have been enacted specifically attached to that license, which subvert God's design for a bridegroom and his bride. It is not good to give the lordship of marriage over to the ungodly government. If they've been together 40 years and are dedicated to each other for as long as they both live, then it is wicked to counsel them to put that asunder. Certainly counsel her to seek the Lord on the matter with fasting and prayers and axhort her to read the King James Version. It really is the only English translation that we have of every word of God which has been preserved for every generation. That is where she will hear the voice of the Shepherd. There is a vast conspiracy of Satan and his angels to subvert God's words by offering substitutes. He did it in the garden and he has never stopped. God's words are true. Every word of God is pure. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 19 Jan, 2026 03:35 AM She should find another church. God regards them as ONE. She can also read the Bible with her boyfriend (mate). You do not sin to be her friend. You sin not to be her friend. Jesus did not come to call the righteous, but sinners. (Matthew 9:13) It is not a sin for her to live with him; it is a sin for her to leave him. (1 Corinthians 7:10-11) Again, they are ONE in God's sight. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 19 Jan, 2026 03:39 AM Good points, MD. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 19 Jan, 2026 03:46 AM Yep! ML has always been a believer in certificates of marriage and certificates of divorce. But she has not much been a believer in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Nor does she agree with Mark 10:12 nor Luke 16:18. WHO YA GOING TO FOLLOW? Post Reply

WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 19 Jan, 2026 03:57 AM Good points, nomoreusernamesleft. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 19 Jan, 2026 03:58 AM When I wrote, "Good points, MD" I meant to write, "Good points, nomoreusernamesleft." Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 27 Jan, 2026 06:08 PM I agree "It is not good to give the lordship of marriage over to the ungodly government." I agree that no where in the Bible do we find any mention of marriage license or certificates of marriage. It is good that we repeat those facts, nomoreusernamesleft. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 28 Jan, 2026 07:07 AM Very clearly, she is his concubine. Among Bible practices, in the Bible, men had concubines. In the Bible, a male could have concubines. Where the church should disapprove is if she is a married woman living with a man that is not her husband. If she is separated from her husband and living with another man -- that should not be welcomed in any church. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	Moral Dilemma Posted : 29 Jan, 2026 05:24 AM The dilemma, if there is one is for your friend to decide. Maybe she’s happy, maybe the sexual side of the relationship is over & they’re just offering companionship to each other. I think it best not to say anything to her unless she asks for advice. If she’s your friend just continue to be her friend, she’s an adult she’ll work it out…:-) Post Reply