In ten years, it will be a real stretch to call either one of us "hot". I'm hoping for something with someone that will be "hot" a lot longer than ten years. (The women in my family live to be 99.)
More tragic than ten extra pounds would be meeting someone gorgeous that you can't talk to for more than ten minutes without wanting to run screaming from the room . . .
I AM pleased that God has been kind to me as time marches on; but I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that I'm a "fully open rose". I'll be content if I can just keep making this nicely shaped figure get off the floor in less than five moves at the end of the day.:prayingm:
This is so good, I'm going to post it and see what kind of hate mail I get!
Don't worry, I only send hate mail to chicks who say that they are down to earth and open but don't bother messaging her if you don't have X arbitrary physical attribute(s). :nahnah:
It's not your body that makes you hot. It's not the clothing that makes you hot. What makes you hot is your mind. If not for that, then you aren't hot.
Mindset - that's hot! If you're in the mindset to accept me then I'm in the mindset to accept you. If you have the mindset that you are sexy - that is hot! :yay:
What I fiind MOST fascinating is that the twenty somethings take time to respond thoughtfully and intelligently! That is a total surprise . . . didn't see that coming :bow: kudos to all you fine young men out there!
Lloyd, we need to talk . . . :laugh:
Guys, I still work a 14 hour day, and nine of them are with nine infants who can't walk yet . . . that's the "can't get off the floor in less than five moves" part.
I was the fifth of four brothers and I have over 100 male cousins. I can still hold my own in a back yard volleyball, football, basketball game; and I can still return a pretty good racquet ball serve; so fitness isn't really my concern. (and right this miinute, I'd rather be in a hot tub!)
I'm on a Christian mate seeking website because it's supposed to be d i f f e r e n t . Can you look a little deeper guys? I would be very interested in what your fellow happily married husbands out there would say . . .
I Decided to start a new controversy today, but I'm still surfing this channel to see what other brothers have to say. If you want to start a controversy of your own, I'd be happy to respond thoughtfully and transparently ~
I understand you Viki, often even Christian men are so visual that they say mean and hurtful things. When I was in my twenties, I looked like I was in my twenties. I could eat anything and nothing stuck.
Now I am pushing 50, and I look at a brownie and it slaps me in three places, and hangs on for dear life. It isn't that I am lazy or don't care, but recently I found out that five of the seven hormone tests I was given are out of whack, and once we get those back in line, my specialist believes my recent weigh loss efforts should once again become effective. She believes I have been misdiagnosed for years now.
But men don' t understand these things and often other women don't understand them either. What is hard it the way people begin to treat you differently as you age and your weight changes, like suddenly you are no longer the same person. People don't seem to understand that telling an overweight person that you only date people that care about their bodies, tells that person how very shallow you are.
It has taken years for them to diagnose my problem and I have had endocrinologist and other doctors tell me I am just fat and need to exercise more. Arrogance really doesn't sit well with people when they really are trying to be healthy and take care of themselves. Women particularly are prone to have extra weight as they age, more so then men, yet men still want barbie dolls. Its not fair. We don't shun men that are bald. Oh I'm sorry I can't date you, you don't have hair. How ridiculous is that? Yet if a woman has extra weight, not talking morbid obesity here, just extra weight, she is treated like some kind of a failure. people see to think they have a license to be mean to people that are overweight, and truly they are overlooking some real gems because a lot of them are truly nice and beautiful people with the qualities they wish their latest barbie or GI joe had.
Get to know the beauty behind the eyes, and you'll find the gold. Read on a thread earlier that women are picky, well so are men, and I think men are much more visually picky.
As Christians, we need to see people with the eyes of the spirit for it is the spirit that is eternal and not the body. So be kind to that person that winks at you and get to know them as a person, not as a photo on a page with a few words attached .
Thank you (actually, thanks be to God!) for your profound perceptions on what is appropriately appealing/attractive among men (or, huMANity) who should set sights on the Saviour:hearts:, rather than the self.
I find, sadly enough, that many "believers" believe that the Spirit's inner sanctum, so to speak (i.e.: the "temple of the Holy Spirit) must be tended to as a literal place of worship to the extent of idolatry, as though the natural body was indeed the Holy of Holies in and of itself. A focus on the physical to the point of distraction can become delusionary.
(As an aside, and by personal persuasion, it has occurred to me that what one PUTS INTO the body ((nutritionally)) is more a matter of nurture and stewardship, than what one MAKES OUT of the body, as to excessive attention to external display.)
Hopefully, I'm not being too harsh here. :boxing: I simply would like to encourage everyone to seek the Spirit of God for enlightenment "with regard to what we regard" as worthy of our Walk (a privilege) on the Way...with the Wonderful Counselor!
I wasnt one of the 50 brothers who gave their profound opinions ...
fully agree though that when the body is paid too much attention one does become delusionary ...
nevertheless the average man is drawn without doubt to the feminine form and external beauty rather than to the inner beauty of the soul...
Personally for me both are important... external beauty without inner depth is empty and vain but a beautiful mind and soul needs to be supported by some external beauty of the form also... dont you think?
By the way compliments on your posts and your profile.. both clearly reflect the beauty of your mind not to mention the language & writing skills of a potential author.
I remember, almost to the moment, when God gave me His perspective of a woman's beauty. So, I wrote the word's He spoke to my heart that day.. Far from the worlds definition, which only looks at the outward appearance, to me, this speaks to the "heart" of true beauty...my eyes were opened in a whole new way that day. And I've never looked back.
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The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she does her hair.
The true beauty of a woman is seen from the reflection deep in her eyes.
That is the doorway to her heart...the place where God and His love resides...
The true beauty of a woman is reflected from deep within her soul. Expressed in the care that she lovingly gives to all, and the compassion that she shows. It is a "mirror" of the very love she has sought through time, nurtured on the limitless bounty of God's perfect love.
The beauty of a woman, with the passing of years, only grows!
and in that...
There is nothing more radiant in all of creation than the "timeless" beauty...of a woman whose heart is wholly surrendered to the Lord!
