Author	Thread: I forgive them, I just don't want to be around them.
Admin	I forgive them, I just don't want to be around them. Posted : 8 Aug, 2017 01:33 PM I have taken in foster kids ever since my own were in high school, so now I have some great adult foster kids. We all hang out at one of my foster sons, and generally have a great time. At my daughter's birthday party trouble started and it has been tense since. My foster son invited his best friend to the party. The friend (Brian) saw my daughter, "she's 29" and they were immediately interested in each other. They didn't really date, just a lot of "making out" for a week. "no sex, my daughter's a virgin, and proud of it!" lo and behold a week later out of clear blue, he tells my daughter he is no longer interested in her even as a friend! By this time, Brian has seen my foster daughter, (27, heavy but attractive, just divorced) he falls fast for my foster daughter, and they begin dating, and plan to live together. My biological daughter, "the one he just made out with" was devastated when Brian said he didn't want to even be friends, and I feel if my foster daughter (Jessie) truly cared about her friendship with my daughter, she would have refused to go out with Brian. Here is my question: My daughter and I have forgiven them, but we hate being around Brian and Jessie. We don't like them. We feel Brian had no right to lead my daughter on like he did, and as for Jessie, she showed by her actions, that her friendship with my daughter meant NOTHING to her!! My foster son wants us all to be friends, we forgive them, but simply can't stand being around them right now. Are we wrong? Post Reply
View Profile History	I forgive them, I just don't want to be around them. Posted : 8 Aug, 2017 03:07 PM Hi Deb, No...you are not wrong. This young man didnt get what he wanted so he moved on to a gal that gave him what he wanted. SEX...Im glad to here your daughter didnt give in and this guy aint worth salt...You dont have to "Be Freinds" with anyone that isnt walking a straight and narrow line...We are commanded to "LOVE"...I cant find in the Bible we have to "Like" or "Be Freinds" with...just be who You are and never buckle on Your convictions...GOD Bless you and yours Debra!!!... X ((( HUG ))) O Post Reply
View Profile History	I forgive them, I just don't want to be around them. Posted : 10 Aug, 2017 10:54 AM GOD'S Jude: I Know I liked You!! LOL We are fine, are starting to make new friends. Fall's coming soon, and perhaps we can take some college classes; a great place to meet people! God Bless Post Reply
View Profile History	I forgive them, I just don't want to be around them. Posted : 11 Aug, 2017 04:03 PM Thats great to read Debra...Fall classes sounds great and yes...you both will meet people...best of Papa Gods Blessins lady!!!! Keep your faith rollin and know that you are loved and appreciated!!!... Post Reply
View Profile History	I forgive them, I just don't want to be around them. Posted : 27 Sep, 2017 02:33 PM God loves you very much. Perhaps u can count it a blessing that Brian is not messing up with your daughter. And talk to your foster daughter because she may be rejected soon too.Its not easy to judge but. the man seems to care less about his reputation and may use and damp easily. You are not wrong at all. Rhe Bible says that we should not be equally yoked with non believers. Non believers are known by their anti christian behaviour. Post Reply
View Profile History	I forgive them, I just don't want to be around them. Posted : 18 Oct, 2017 10:37 AM forgiveness is not a door mat, a so called brother in christ said I was his best friend then he slandered me made false accusations and tried to bring the full weight of the law against me all to no avail, he cost me a small fortune, he called himself a prophet and a minister of the word, it took me about 2 years to forgive him, would I allow him into my life again considering all of that ? NO ! forgiveness is not being best of buddies again it's clearing the account before the Lord, father forgive them for they know not what they do, just like when you give a gift, the moment you give it you relinquish ownership, forgiveness is declaring that it's not yours anymore but the Lord's, we have to keep on handing the slight and injustice over to the Lord otherwise we leave a door of accusation open, see God they haven't forgiven so you can't forgive ! laying down your rights doesn't mean you lay down your wisdom, scripture tells us if we find a brother sister doing wrong against us tell them if they don't listen take a friend along as witness and if they still don't listen bring it before the leaders of the church and if they still don't listen have no more to do with them, God is not a God of confusion, it sounds like the enemy is trying to do a number on you, let wisdom reign, be a good steward and protect what he has given you, as a foster parent you are an extremely GOOD steward, looking after those who have no one, so dust off and avoid ! repair the broken walls and rejoice ! cos if the enemy finds you worthy of such an attack you must be doing something good and your daughter is probably going to be a mighty woman of God or else why would the enemy waste his time on you ? be encouraged and be STRONG ! Post Reply