Author	Thread: Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends?
Admin	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 8 Feb, 2013 07:27 PM It seems like to me that all they want to do is get drunk, party and have sex. They keep pressuring me to be more like them and 'let my hair down', and I'm afraid that I will so something stupid if I go out with them. All they do is have one night stands. They keep telling me to loose my virginity to some random guy, and get it over and done with. What should I do???? Not have a social life? I can't tell them how I feel because they just don't get it, and would laugh at me. Does anyone else have this sort of dilemma with non- Christian friends? Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 07:34 AM BeckyAnn, For the very reasons you just spelled out, Christ wants us to be in fellowship with other Christians. Especially at your age, the peer pressure is so overwhelming to conform to the world. Seek out other Christians at your school or find a church nearby and get very involved. You may even discover that some of your current "friends" will follow you! Blessings dear one and keep Jesus right by your side always! Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 12:13 PM Hi Becky, thanks for sharing. You're not the only one struggling with peer pressure, whether it comes to sex or drinking or partying... I totally agree: you need to find a good biblical church and there look for friends who will support you in your love for Christ! I am sure there are young adult groups or some kind of christian fellowship at the university campus! ask around or google it! you know, when Jesus went to heaven, he left us 1) the church - his body in which we can have fellowship with other believers 2) his Holy Spirit who is the advocate and comforter. Make use of both! :) And remember: virginity is not a nuissance or something one should lose/get rid of. It is a treasure one should keep and guard! :) Do not be ashamed of being a vrigin but rather keep your chin up. Somewhere in the world there is a guy who will once marry you, and your purity will be a fine wedding gift for him! :) Praying for you sister! Marianna Post Reply
Longlegs5_10 View Profile History	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 9 Feb, 2013 03:15 PM Please let these 'friends' go. We are to be in the world not of it. You are to bring people to Christ, not get sucked into their evil way of living. The Bible says to stay away from ALL appearance of evil. The APPEARANCE of evil. So even if you arent sure its evil, stay away from it. Go to bible studies, join connect groups at church, get involved with people who truly want to please God Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 26 Feb, 2013 09:07 PM Hey Becky, I know exactly how you feel. I only had one or two church friends growing up (our church was very small), so most of my friends in high school were non-Christians. I never really had an interest in drinking or drugs, so peer pressure was never really an issue for me. It's definitely possible to be friends with non-Christians, though. You just have to find non-sinful things that you're both interested in. I know, it's harder than it sounds. One of my oldest friends is not a Christian, but we get along just fine. He knows my moral boundaries and respects them. Instead of partying/drinking, we do things like simply driving around or working on our cars, or going bowling (small town). lol. As far as the pressure to lose your virginity goes, don't give in to it. It's a mistake that you don't want to make. Trust me. It's better to just save it for the person that you marry, regardless of what your friends or our society says. You need to put up guardrails in your life (boundaries you won't cross) and stick to them. If your "friends" are pushing you to hit your guardrails, then you need to find new friends. Just keep true to God, and He will give you guidance. :) -Jason Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 27 Feb, 2013 05:09 AM I'd have to agree there, we're not supposed to abandon all our non-christian friends, they are pretty much our whole purpose here. I would also agree that it's much easier with a support group of fellow christian friends. It seems to make it easier to deal with non-christian friends if you have concise reasons for why you do/do not do things. Just a little bit of wisdom mixed in with the explanation of our convictions will make it easier for you to say, easier for them to respect, and also to get their attention. :peace::peace: Post Reply
IowaGirl View Profile History	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 15 Mar, 2013 10:33 AM I completely understand where you are coming from. Even at my age- in my 30's- I have similar issues sometimes. I had someone make a comment recently that they didn't think I was "human like the rest of us" because I choose to make different choices than them. However, also at my age, I can say that it gets better. People will learn to appreciate your differences- it sets you apart from the crowd. They can see that you're not like the rest, and after being surrounded by so many of the rest... it can be a good thing, in the eyes of those who need a breath of fresh air. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you find it hard to have Christian standards, with non- Christian friends? Posted : 7 Jul, 2013 10:24 AM �Tolerance is the virtue of a man without convictions�. G. K. Chesterton We, as Christians, must choose between pleasing God or pleasing man. So, let us say: As for me, I serve God!!! Post Reply