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mrcountryside
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 25 Dec, 2012 02:25 PMI have been married to my wife for 12 years, we are both Christians and have 2 lovely children. We have always been very close & she is a very loving person. However the stresses of life including some of her health problems, and my job seem to have undermined our relationship and we have drifted apart. Having said this I was still shocked when she she said she wanted to separate 3 months ago citing my lack of attention and focus on her as a reason which I admit has some truth - I have asked her and God to forgive this, but unfortunately she doesn't think I will change. She has informed me that she has struggled with not being happy for a few years but has tried to hide this and deal with it herself rather than together which clearly cannot work. It's all basicaly down to isufficient communication. There is no - one else involved. |
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teach_ib
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 25 Dec, 2012 06:19 PMLots of prayer, there's more going on than she may be admitting. Be prepared for her to present papers. The reality of it is, she may present them and whether or not it's something you want/ believe in, you'll want to be prepared to respond. |
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mrcountryside
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 26 Dec, 2012 01:21 AMThanks for your time to read & reply to my post. The reply makes sense. I would be interested to hear the experience of others in such circumstances and will come back to this thread in due course as I believe that my experience will be beneficial to fellow Christians in the future. |
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 27 Dec, 2012 06:06 PM1Cr 7:10 � And unto the married I command, [yet] not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from [her] husband: |
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mrcountryside
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 28 Dec, 2012 02:26 PMThank you so much for your quotes from Gods Word and for your sound advice. May God bless you for the time you have taken to consider my circumstances. |
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 30 Dec, 2012 06:54 PMUnfortunately there's little you can do about it, either biblically or legally - you remain married in the sight of God until released from that covenant by her unfaithfulness. In short, you can't move on with someone new until she has. |
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King18David
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 1 Jan, 2013 07:41 PMMr Country, |
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King18David
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 1 Jan, 2013 08:00 PMSome resources, |
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mrcountryside
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 2 Jan, 2013 01:27 PMThank you King18David. |
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 9 Jan, 2013 05:16 AMIf she is desperate in trying to get you to find someone new then there is a strong possibility she already has someone new and she doesn't want to feel as guilty. Scripture also teaches that if the unsaved partner in the marriage wants to be released then let them go because peace is the most important thing. Now, I know you have said she is a believer, but a lot of people are good at faking it for awhile. I would not say that she is currently showing the evidence of having Christian faith. I know you want to stay married and I am not suggesting otherwise. However I am trying to possibly eliminate some guilt if the marriage doesn't stay together. Going to church doesn't make her a believer. Are there evidences in her life? It doesn't sound like it to me. |
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DontHitThatMark
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What to do if wife wants marriage to endPosted : 9 Jan, 2013 06:05 AMI'm sure we're not getting the whole story here, and I'm curious as to what you're doing on a dating site if you're still technically married and not wanting a divorce, but I suppose that's not entirely relevant. It sure sounds like she's in the wrong, if that is all true and she has no legitimate reason for divorce, then you can sleep well knowing that you're doing nothing wrong. The only legitimate christian reason for divorce is for adultery/fornication. Now, she may consider a time that she thinks you may have had "impure thoughts" about another woman as grounds for divorce, since Jesus says that even thinking about committing adultery/fornication means we're committing sin in our heart. That's extremely unmerciful, but I think that argument would hold up in a biblical court of law, especially in her own mind. I've seen it done in other cases enough. |
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