This may have been brought up in this forum several times but I couldnt find it.
What do you think? We're all christians here, right? What is your opinion on sex before marriage? why cant I find someone who feels the same way I do about waiting? The men I am physically attracted to are usually the ones who dont want to wait, funny how that works. I know what the consequences are to rushing into the physical relationship, I've done it in the past.It's not worth it. I would just like others thoughts on the subject. I've dated 3 times in 5 years, when the men find out that nookie is not on the menu, they back away. It real important to take your time most of all, seek the Lord before you let someone into your life in ANY way.
I don't know how the laws of God can get so twisted but it is human nature to JUSTIFY something we sheeples want to do and call it good in God's eyes~HE is the lover of our souls and will forgive slips but to PRACTICE sin is dangerous~:devil:~we have to follow God's law, man's law(if it does not violate God's law) and nature's law.
Most guys today do NOT want to legally marry you if they can "milk the cow without buying it" ~~:rolleyes:
According to the laws of the Torah, Orthodox Jews are prohibited from having sex before marriage and abstinence holds true. In fact, they choose to not touch at all before their marriage night.
In Jewish law, marriage consists of two separate acts, called kiddushin (or erusin, the engagement ceremony) and nissu'in, the actual wedding. Kiddushin changes the couple's personal status, while nissu'in brings about the legal consequences of the change of status. In Talmudic times, these two ceremonies usually took place about a year apart. The bride lived with her parents until the actual marriage ceremony, which would take place in a room or tent that the groom had set up for her. Later in history, the two ceremonies took place as a combined ceremony, and the marriage ceremony started to be performed publicly.
There are three ways for a Jewish couple to effect kiddushin (Mishna, Tractate Kiddushin 1:1):
* With money (kesef) or with an object of value, such as a ring or a coin, for the purpose of contracted marriage, and in the presence of two witnesses, and she actively accepts;
* Through a contract (shtar) in the presence of two witnesses, containing the declaration of kiddushin (see below); or
* By sexual intercourse with the intention of creating a bond of marriage; a method strongly discouraged by the rabbinic sages and intended only for levirate marriages.
Though all methods are halachically valid, the favoured practice since ancient times has been for kiddushin to take place only with kesef (i.e. "with money") - giving an object of value - which is almost always a ring, but can be a coin.
Halachically, a Jewish marriage is a personal act between a man and a woman. The actual marriage is the declaration of marriage (consecration) by the man and acceptance by the woman. The function of the rabbi is to act as the advisor to the couple, and the guests are the witnesses. The civil law of many countries requires the rabbi also to act as an agent for the State during the marriage ceremony, and for two independent witnesses to sign the wedding certificate.
What an interesting subject. It was nice to see someone use the King James bible in their answers. Sex is not a bad thing~on the contrary~ but God gave it to a man and woman as a gift...after they are married :angel: Like the old saying goes...."why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" I don't think it is a matter of "I can't wait" it is a matter of "I won't or don't want to wait" God Bless, Kristina