Author	Thread: You Need to Control Your Wife!
Admin	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 6 Dec, 2020 02:21 PM By Dan Owsley https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10159258140274604&id=606164603 “You need to control your wife!” Ever hear that? Ever say it? Here are 12 reasons why this is a wicked statement: 1. No place in the Bible are men told to control women or husbands told to control their wives. 2. This heinous view comes from a place of ignorance about what God says about women and your wife. 3. Such a perspective is not about loving your wife. It’s about arrogance and lust for power. 4. It often comes from an authoritarian, power-over viewpoint that tends to be abusive. Too many men use this dogma to justify all kinds of abuse and domestic violence. 5. The power-over approach is always about the person in charge and not about the long term well-being of the wife. 6. To believe that “control” will make her or the relationship a good one is a devilish myth. 7. When others say you must control your wife, control almost always means forced compliance. 8. Forced compliance of your wife is never taught or condoned in the Bible. 9. Forced compliance is counter to the character and way of Jesus. 10. Forced compliance conditions the wife to be a subservient slave to any who exercise power-over methods in relationships. The Bible says she is equal to you and not a slave in any way. 11. Research shows that wives who live under forced compliance are traumatized. In short, it is abuse. 12. Attempting to control your wife does not influence the wife in a way that positively impacts her heart so she will flourish in life or in Christ. Couples who are in churches that promote the power-over subservience of women to men or wives to husbands are at risk for many problems in the marriage and family. Such churches are often unhealthy because they are typically emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually toxic. Such churches do not build up or promote true Christ-like relationships. Wives who are pressured into forced compliance would be wise to seek good counsel or therapy outside the church. The more intense the power-over forced compliance the greater the need to escape. Ever hear that? Ever say it? Here are 12 reasons why this is a wicked statement: 1. No place in the Bible are men told to control women or husbands told to control their wives. 2. This heinous view comes from a place of ignorance about what God says about women and your wife. 3. Such a perspective is not about loving your wife. It’s about arrogance and lust for power. 4. It often comes from an authoritarian, power-over viewpoint that tends to be abusive. Too many men use this dogma to justify all kinds of abuse and domestic violence. 5. The power-over approach is always about the person in charge and not about the long term well-being of the wife. 6. To believe that “control” will make her or the relationship a good one is a devilish myth. 7. When others say you must control your wife, control almost always means forced compliance. 8. Forced compliance of your wife is never taught or condoned in the Bible. 9. Forced compliance is counter to the character and way of Jesus. 10. Forced compliance conditions the wife to be a subservient slave to any who exercise power-over methods in relationships. The Bible says she is equal to you and not a slave in any way. 11. Research shows that wives who live under forced compliance are traumatized. In short, it is abuse. 12. Attempting to control your wife does not influence the wife in a way that positively impacts her heart so she will flourish in life or in Christ. Couples who are in churches that promote the power-over subservience of women to men or wives to husbands are at risk for many problems in the marriage and family. Such churches are often unhealthy because they are typically emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually toxic. Such churches do not build up or promote true Christ-like relationships. Wives who are pressured into forced compliance would be wise to seek good counsel or therapy outside the church. The more intense the power-over forced compliance the greater the need to escape. Post Reply
otismusic View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 24 Jul, 2021 01:00 PM if your wife makes a vow and you hear of it and do not forbid befor sundown she must perform the vow, but if on hearing it you forbid it she is the released from the vow.....mixing biblical relations with "modern thought" is not so good, for you it is about control issues, but if you are in abiblical relationship and you are both striving to please the Most High, then it is not control....consider this, if a wife repeatedly tells the husband give up smoking or you will die, is she controlling him? is she a nag? is she being manipulative? or is she striving to do all to save her man? it is easy to mix concepts if you want, or you can ask the question, why is this so, is my perspective off? is there another way of looking at this? I am a strong man and would expect any woman around me to be the same, because my load is heavy, I would rather have someone who can meet that need than someone who is unwilling, if there is an unequal yoking, if there is a spirit of dissent, rebellion and strife? ah ah...no way... follow the Word! how can two walk together unless they agree to? Post Reply

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