Author	Thread: You Need to Control Your Wife!
Admin	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 6 Dec, 2020 02:21 PM By Dan Owsley https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10159258140274604&id=606164603 “You need to control your wife!” Ever hear that? Ever say it? Here are 12 reasons why this is a wicked statement: 1. No place in the Bible are men told to control women or husbands told to control their wives. 2. This heinous view comes from a place of ignorance about what God says about women and your wife. 3. Such a perspective is not about loving your wife. It’s about arrogance and lust for power. 4. It often comes from an authoritarian, power-over viewpoint that tends to be abusive. Too many men use this dogma to justify all kinds of abuse and domestic violence. 5. The power-over approach is always about the person in charge and not about the long term well-being of the wife. 6. To believe that “control” will make her or the relationship a good one is a devilish myth. 7. When others say you must control your wife, control almost always means forced compliance. 8. Forced compliance of your wife is never taught or condoned in the Bible. 9. Forced compliance is counter to the character and way of Jesus. 10. Forced compliance conditions the wife to be a subservient slave to any who exercise power-over methods in relationships. The Bible says she is equal to you and not a slave in any way. 11. Research shows that wives who live under forced compliance are traumatized. In short, it is abuse. 12. Attempting to control your wife does not influence the wife in a way that positively impacts her heart so she will flourish in life or in Christ. Couples who are in churches that promote the power-over subservience of women to men or wives to husbands are at risk for many problems in the marriage and family. Such churches are often unhealthy because they are typically emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually toxic. Such churches do not build up or promote true Christ-like relationships. Wives who are pressured into forced compliance would be wise to seek good counsel or therapy outside the church. The more intense the power-over forced compliance the greater the need to escape. Ever hear that? Ever say it? Here are 12 reasons why this is a wicked statement: 1. No place in the Bible are men told to control women or husbands told to control their wives. 2. This heinous view comes from a place of ignorance about what God says about women and your wife. 3. Such a perspective is not about loving your wife. It’s about arrogance and lust for power. 4. It often comes from an authoritarian, power-over viewpoint that tends to be abusive. Too many men use this dogma to justify all kinds of abuse and domestic violence. 5. The power-over approach is always about the person in charge and not about the long term well-being of the wife. 6. To believe that “control” will make her or the relationship a good one is a devilish myth. 7. When others say you must control your wife, control almost always means forced compliance. 8. Forced compliance of your wife is never taught or condoned in the Bible. 9. Forced compliance is counter to the character and way of Jesus. 10. Forced compliance conditions the wife to be a subservient slave to any who exercise power-over methods in relationships. The Bible says she is equal to you and not a slave in any way. 11. Research shows that wives who live under forced compliance are traumatized. In short, it is abuse. 12. Attempting to control your wife does not influence the wife in a way that positively impacts her heart so she will flourish in life or in Christ. Couples who are in churches that promote the power-over subservience of women to men or wives to husbands are at risk for many problems in the marriage and family. Such churches are often unhealthy because they are typically emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually toxic. Such churches do not build up or promote true Christ-like relationships. Wives who are pressured into forced compliance would be wise to seek good counsel or therapy outside the church. The more intense the power-over forced compliance the greater the need to escape. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 09:16 AM No adult should feel the need to control another, i've seen this said severel times on this forum. But have yet to see anything written in the Bible to substantiate this claim...:-) Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 09:24 AM In fact I would go as far as to say that controlling behaviour in a partner, should always be viewed as a 🚩red flag...:-) Post Reply
View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 11:36 AM Ephesians 5:25 husbands love your wives like the bridegroom Christ loves the church the bride yes there is something to be said about Federal headship and women should be obedient to their husbands because they are the weaker vessel but that doesn't mean women should do all the chores and men should never do the dishes nor take out the trash Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 12:37 PM Exactly right, if a man can wash his dishes, do his laundry and cook his meals BEFORE he’s married he can surly do all that just as easily AFTER he’s married. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 02:20 PM Bible teaches many things on relationships and marriage. Unfortunately " do called Christians " don't study scripture. Man Is supposed to be head of household. Hopefully he is a Believer. Study to show yourself approved into God. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 02:22 PM "So called" edit Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 02:22 PM "So called" edit Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 02:26 PM Exactly right, unfortunately feminism and a few girly men don’t want to recognize that fact Post Reply
View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 06:11 PM My fiancé and I were reading the Ephesians passage together as we were choosing readings for the wedding. It’s beautiful really. You are submitting to being loved, cherished, and nourished. Post Reply
View Profile History	You Need to Control Your Wife! Posted : 3 Jan, 2021 06:22 PM My fiancé and I were reading the Ephesians passage together as we were choosing readings for the wedding. It’s beautiful really. You are submitting to being loved, cherished, and nourished. Post Reply

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