Author	Thread: Separated people?
alawrence View Profile History	Separated people? Posted : 18 Feb, 2013 07:12 PM Do you think its right to be on a dating site, when your separated, even if you are going through a divorce?? My opinion is no, because you are still married, what do you think? You should try to work out the marriage till the end.:waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	Separated people? Posted : 28 Jul, 2013 08:08 PM I am going to post one reply on here , I am speaking as "one of those Separated people " no my husband never cheated on me and No I never cheated on him , I tried for 20 years to make this marriage work and he would try for two weeks then go back to his porn and his mental abuse on me and the kids, I put up with it for 25 years because I had made a promise, My husband and I have only been room mates for the last 8 years now he does not talk to me unless he wants me to be his gofer he only told me he loved me when he wanted to spend a Large sum of money we did not have , the kids and I went without our whole lives together but he never did. this past 8 years we have managed to be friends only , mostly because I had no more fight in me to try to make us work , It never felt right for me to leave not once in the 25 years together till our 25th anni. when I was cleaning house as normal and all of a sudden my legs gave out and I hit the floor crying , I am the strong one in my family and had been there for everyone of my siblings and their kids and mine and for my parents but i had no one there for me I had God and he knew my pain and hurt and I cried like I had never cried before . that week of our anni. my husband looked at me and said lets stop . lets part as friends and go our way but still be there for each other . I was great with it for the first time I felt like it was time that it was okay for me to go , for me to end this mockery of a marriage, I no longer felt like I was breaking my Vow I felt like I was released from it , after that I found out the reasone my Husband no longer wanted me as a wife and had not for MORE than 8 years he had a fetish that involved a life size doll his girl friend ! do I fell guilty for being on a dating site NO , do I feel guilty for being on a Christian Dating site NO I AM a Christian and deserve to find a good man to be a man and a I pray a REAL Husband to me someday, how can I think of getting married again ? easy I have only been married on paper for the last * years our marriage died a long time ago. So please do not ask if we should be here not all of us are cheating nor can all of us MAKE IT WORK , but all of us deserve Love , are all the separated on here have a story like mine ? maybe but unless you ask and not just assume then you wont know . Do Not Judge Us if you do not want to talk to someone who is "only separated " then Don't talk to us but don't talk about us either or judge us only God can do that and I believe I am forgiven and feel no guilt and I do feel like I was released from my vow this time , I know guilt very well and I feel none this time Post Reply
View Profile History	Separated people? Posted : 28 Jul, 2013 08:41 PM The word says that you should be totally divorce, so in reality your trying to commit adultery. IMHO. Post Reply
View Profile History	Separated people? Posted : 28 Jul, 2013 09:03 PM The Lord is specific and righteous, we need to meet His standards not the other way around. I have notice that just to get our own way we rationalize situations and that puts us at odds with the Lord. We must first consult the word diligently and prayerfully to get the answers we need, and not want. In Christ, your brother. Post Reply
View Profile History	Separated people? Posted : 31 Jul, 2013 12:58 AM I wonder what the reasons are for all the divorces to ALL the DIVORCED people on here are , because if they are divorced for anything other than their spouse CHEATING on them , then they too are guilty of Adultery ! and are causing the ones they are with also to commit adultery. The New Testament teaching regarding divorce and remarriage can be summarized like this: When a man and woman marry, they enter into a lifetime covenant in which God binds or joins them, holding them accountable to keep this covenant. If there is a divorce for some cause other than fornication, God's will is violated; and if either or both remarry, the second marriage relationship(s) is (are) adultery because God still holds the people bound to the first marriage commitment. If during the first marriage, however, one companion commits fornication, then the other companion may choose to obtain a divorce and remarry without sin. "Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery" ("saving for the cause of fornication" - Matt. 5:32). The question originally asked Jesus concerned the grounds or cause for which a man may divorce his wife (v3). In v9 Jesus clearly says there is no acceptable cause except if ones companion has been guilty of fornication. Unlike the Mosaic Law, which Jesus admits tolerated divorce and remarriage for other causes, Jesus' teaching allows one and only one cause. Note that the only one who is granted the right to divorce and remarry without being guilty of sin is the one who has been sinned against by his/her companion who committed fornication. I also wonder how many men and women on here that are judging me WAS and ARE having sex outside of marriage?1 Corinthians 7:2-5 - To avoid fornication, one is to satisfy the sexual desire with and only with "his own wife" or "her own husband." Our own marriage companion is the only one who has power over our body. If we satisfy this desire with anyone else, the passage says it would be fornication, whether it be with someone we are not married to, someone else's husband or wife, or someone else of the same sex. So if you are going to preach the Bible to me then by the Bible for me to be "Divorced " by Gods words all I need to do is have my husband write out a letter stating we are over. Thats it , all of you did not Divorce by Gods way you divorced by MANS way and by MANs LAW , even though you made your Vows with a preacher saying by the power invested by God and what ever state , well the state said you could marry and the state said your divorced for what ever reason but did you divorce the way GOD said to . Mark 10:2-12 And some Pharisees came up to Him, testing Him, and began to question Him whether it was lawful for a man to divorce a wife. And He answered and said to them, "What did Moses command you?" And they said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away." But Jesus said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. "But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh; consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." And in the house the disciples began questioning Him about this again. And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery." Post Reply
123zoe^ View Profile History	Separated people? Posted : 16 Sep, 2013 01:22 PM Mine is s different story. I was separated for 13 years because my husband was psychologically incapacitated. He went into drugs, until he became psychotic. I never filed divorce because it never dawned to me to marry again. and I never had any relation since we got separated. In the Philippines, there is a law allowing separated spouses to marry if they have not seen each other for 7 years. I never saw him for 10 years. Two years ago, my sister in law called and related that my husband has gone missing, probably been a victim of some crime, but then until now he was never found..and there are no traces of him alive. Most are convinced he is gone. I can't declare myself a widow. So I'm stuck in this separated status. what is your opinion on this? Post Reply
roger3210 View Profile History	Separated people? Posted : 30 Sep, 2013 04:14 AM 1st off. matthew, mark, luke and john are written in old testament, until jesus has risen. then grace begins. remember who christ is talking to before grace. the pharisee who are always trying to 1 up christ with law.when you believe you have completed the law, there's always one more thing you haven't done right. for instance, the rich man who told jesus he did the law. christ says "then sell all you own and follow me"..rich man cant do that and walks away. law always points out failures. if you have seen a jewish man with tassles hanging from his pants.that represents 624 laws.not 10. quite a few man added on. remember your heart of stone (law) has been turned to flesh. he wrote the laws on your heart so you may be responsive to them but your salvation does not come by the law.. gal 2:21 if salvation comes by the law, then christ died in vain. in hebrews 8, i shall write the laws on their heart. i will forgive their trespasses and they shall be my people. you have to watch who christ is talikng to..jesus gives glimmer of grace in in john 6:28-29 and john 16:8. and when he has come, he will convict the world of sin(single not plural. only 1 sin) and righteousness and of judgement.of sin, because they do not believe in me. its funny, the religious people couldn't figure out jesus(jews) but the ones who wanted relationship(gentiles...other people) did. so you have to watch what and how and what you say to people...you can bring them under the law. the law is the administration of death. thats where the enemy wants you Post Reply

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