Author	Thread: Who's responsability is it too travel ?????
nanagibs View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 04:36 AM When u meet someone on here, and there's miles between u both. Who should be the one to travel? And i'm talking about the very first time u meet. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 06:27 AM I don't know who's responsibility it is, exactly, in this world of men/women equality. Both could be equally safe in traveling, both could equally afford it, both could be equally comfortable with it. BUT, I know what I think SHOULD happen! I think that it is an excellent opportunity for the man to show his "honor" and at the very least offer to do the traveling, especially for the first meeting. If he offers, and the lady isn't comfortable with him coming to her town (note that I didn't say he had to go to her house, just go to her city/town), perhaps they could work out an in-between meeting place, or she could travel to see him. Once two people have met, and once they both agree that they want to see each other again, then it is up to the couple to work out who travels. One might be far better suited for that sort of thing financially, one might be able to take off work more easily or even have a job that they can easily do on-the-go, etc. Now obviously I'm talking about traveling LONG distances, distances that might required flying or many hours of driving. If the distance is only a couple hours drive, then I don't think it really matters who does the traveling the first time...maybe they could just meet in the middle and be done with it! Post Reply
nanagibs View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 06:45 AM thanks dear i think its the best thought:buddies::buddies: Post Reply
UNC2011 View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 08:45 AM "Now obviously I'm talking about traveling LONG distances, distances that might required flying or many hours of driving. If the distance is only a couple hours drive, then I don't think it really matters who does the traveling the first time...maybe they could just meet in the middle and be done with it!" This is the situation I find myself in right now, I've been talking to this girl for about a week and she lives about 90 miles away. I'm thinking about driving to her town, she said she would meet me in the middle but I really want to make the effort to drive there myself. I really like her (as far as you can like someone online I guess) and want this to work. I can't seeing someone in another state, it feels like we are too far apart as it is and it's less than 100 miles. I want her to be like 30 minutes away, not an hour and a half, lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 01:27 PM Whoever cracks first. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 05:44 PM I know what you mean, UNC. The last guy I dated lived 60 miles away (but thanks to heavy traffic on the main roads and small towns on the back roads, it took 90 minutes to get there). He drove to my town to meet me the first time, and he told me that he expected to do most of the driving after that too. So, he usually made the 90 minute drive once a week, and we'd spend several hours (or even all day, occasionally) together. I drove over to his place (usually for supper with him and his parents at his house...we were always careful to be well-chaperoned) about 5 times during the 3 months we dated. The relationship obviously didn't work out, but I don't think distance had anything to do with it...turned out he was a jerk. I suppose we might have gotten frustrated with the distance if we'd dated longer, or gotten even more serious than we were, but since we didn't get that far I don't know for sure. Post Reply
View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 23 Dec, 2010 03:12 AM I think the guy should be the one to travel...because there's a whole lot of safety issues When in comes to ladies. Anf the lady should feel like you'd go around the world for her. Post Reply
View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 23 Dec, 2010 10:01 PM For me, I'd want to be the one to do the first visit for reasons already given above, plus it seems more like the duty of a man if he is able to in my opinion. Only other thing concerning the outcome of the meeting is that either way it turns out, be humble and be a gentleman. Not intending to say you wouldn't be brother, it's just if it ends up being a one time date with no connection, at the least she will have the memory of meeting a nice Christian man. If she like ya well... hmmm I haven't gotten that far yet! hehe take care good luck! Post Reply
View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 26 Dec, 2010 05:00 PM Thanks for putting up this thread brother!:applause:I had a thread titled "Falling In Love In Far,Far Away Land" posted around early last month.These were the the sort of answers that i was looking for at the time.I agree with the everyone,but the thing is this-it's easier for someone to travel to my country than me to travel,because plane tickets are soooo expensive in my country & for a Visa, i have pay the same amount of money & try all over again!Also,V.A.T & gas will increase sometime next year,so it wo'nt be easy at all!On traveling,i have never travelled before & i'm a little bit scared of being mugged,but God is the Protector! This is what you should do brother,First of all,if you & the other person is from another part of the world,then it's best to be yourself.It does'nt make any sense to "fit in" with something that you're not!I have said it so many times,that everyone must have known by now that i come from the West Indies in the island of Barbados,but no one who never travelled to my country or the Caribbean or have never heard us speaking (even though i'm sure a lot of Americans have heard Jamaicans) may not know that we speak a lot of broken-down english (patwa & dialet).In fact,if they read this in dialet,they would be scratching their heads by now!What i do is when i talk to a girl in America for a while,i sometimes use my dialet.Instead of writing "this" & "that is over there" for example,i write "dis" & "dat ovah deh (Bajan dialet).Another thing is to include something about your country & culture.That way,she'll not wants to go to your country,but she can't wait to see you in person!As i said,it's best to be yourself & save on traveling money for when the right time comes,even if she visits you first.:hearts: Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 02:17 AM In my case, must be the guy who have to come here. I can get the tickets but there is discrimination in getting the visa. It is always assumed people here wants to get say to USA when in reality we have a great life here, the country is beautiful, the weather is all year round sunshine except for a few days of rain. House help is easy, cheap life of a prince or princess so to speak. Life is not in a hurry, almost everybody love singing videoke while sharing just peanuts and instant juices. If the preference is Starbucks or Max�s or Shakey�s, those places are now in the provinces as malls are not just in the capital city anymore. It is not that I am not open to relocate, it is just frustrating that if I will meet someone the chance to visit is not equal. If he could come to know me more in my family setting, it will be informative also if I could come and see how he is. Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Who's responsability is it too travel ????? Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 10:52 PM I'm thinking responsibility is the wrong word. However, safety is a huge issue for the guys as well as the girls. My thought would be to meet somewhere neutral and safe for both. That would also allow for the cost to not be a one-sided burden. Post Reply