Author	Thread: In response to macgirl's earlier post....
stormcountry33 View Profile History	In response to macgirl's earlier post.... Posted : 13 Feb, 2010 10:52 AM I opened up a new topic/thread b/c I feel I can offer a male version to her story... I have never been in a relaitonship and while I do take some responsibility for that, I too have not been treated very well by women/girls that claimed to be Christian. I can't say that they weren't Christian just b/c they didn't share the same feelings that I did, but the way they treated me felt harsh. I had one girl get close to me and when I thought things might be good between us, she pops a question about whether or not another guy was interested in her. She was just using me for advice! Another girl, was a couple years younger than me and was actually friends with my sister. When we graduated high school and my sister left home to go to college. I went to a school locally and found myself and this girl haning out at youth group meetings, school plays, and we even went for a night time stroll under the country sky. When I let her know my feelings, her response was, "I was afraid this would happen." She was simply replacing her friendship with my sister with me. Because of these situations and others I have gone through I am very much reserved when it comes to sharing my feelings with others. As to a Christian guy "wanting" a virgin. I think that for Christian men that are virgins, there is a sense of unsurity in dating some one that isn't. I myself am a virgin. I understand that at my age, finding someone that is also a virgin may be near impossible however, when conversing with and comtemplating dating them, it makes me a little nervous because they are "more experienced" than I am. It can be intimidating for a virgin to date someone that isn't. I sometimes think that women who are no longer virgins won't be interested in me b/c I AM still virgin. Also, I have to say, that if you don't want people to respond to your post, to bad. I think it's going to happen. If you don't like what someone says then just let it go. You can't throw something out there and then only want people who agree with you to respond and then if someone who disagress with you post something, you get angry with them. It's not fair to do that. I'm open to whatever anyone has to say. I may not agree with you but I'll listen to your point of view. Later!~ Post Reply
View Profile History	In response to macgirl's earlier post.... Posted : 15 Feb, 2010 01:30 AM I think it is wonderful that you are still a virgin!! Stay strong and keep pleasing God; He will bring the one that makes your heart soar! I am sure of it. And if I met a man who was still a virgin, I would in no wise turn him away for that. I would welcome it. A man who will honor God will surely honor me! God bless! :glow: Post Reply
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	In response to macgirl's earlier post.... Posted : 15 Feb, 2010 09:48 AM I can totally understand your position - I am a virgin too and I've been interested in guys in the past who werent', but who had dedicated their life to Christ and then to abstinence from that point forward - I think it can still be intimidating, but what i discovered is that sometimes, people like that are even MORE cautious about maintaining purity, so that can be a good thing. I would say, if a girl is totally in love with Christ and is committed to abstinence at the point you become interested in her, then regardless if she's a virgin or not, you should go for it! Post Reply
View Profile History	In response to macgirl's earlier post.... Posted : 20 Feb, 2010 11:00 PM What you said:I sometimes think that women who are no longer virgins won't be interested in me b/c I AM still virgin. What I say: women who are no longer virgins (or still are) aren't interested in you because you think your being virgin or not virgin makes you interesting or not interesting. your attitude, and how you esteem and treat yourself and others is what makes the similar minded ones interested, and the ones that don't have a clue uninterested. speaking from experience, unfortunatly, the grass isn't always greener on the otherside, and there's more to sexuality and love than the physical act. in fact, i've found that it really does need to be the last part of it, which is why it should wait till marriage when it will meaningful and be something more than 'just sex'. you're a virgin because you chose to be. don't let anybody make you feel bad about it. You didn't need sex to feel good about who you are or validate yourself. They thought they did and they were wrong and still chasing that cuz they don't know who they are or what they want except for the next thing. if we were talking in person, i'd shake your hand. that goes for anybody. Post Reply
View Profile History	In response to macgirl's earlier post.... Posted : 22 Feb, 2010 04:52 PM I like how you wrote this.You were positive and made your point. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	In response to macgirl's earlier post.... Posted : 24 Feb, 2010 03:58 PM dude, nice! more power to you! While no one is perfect, my best friend is in your boat. You're gonna have goosebumps, and butterflies, and all that other stuff. But seriously, more power to you! And if a girl doesn't put emphasis on the virgin thing, don't worry about it! I'm guessing each girl on this site has seen her fair share of "normal" guys, even on this site. What you got is special, and don't underestimate it. It's an ace in your hand, not something to be ashamed of!!!! Good for you!!!!! Post Reply