Author	Thread: GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET"
Admin	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 08:48 PM Despite the fact my profile says �no games allowed� a lot of ladies insist on playing them with me. About 10 days ago on a whim I IM�ed an attractive lady I saw online in another state. Things seemed to go well. She told me that I could probably catch her here on the weekend and that she doesn�t normally log on during the week. The next day and during the week I sent her about a total of 5 emails. She read one of them on Weds. As I noticed my emails were going unread I checked each day and saw that she actually had been on line. After a bunch of games on the weekend she made the statement �god wants to teach all of you to be patient� OOOOoooo BOY!!!! MY STATEMENT TO LADIES IS THIS IS NOT SOMETHING WE NEED TO BE TAUGHT. THERE ARE REASONS WHY WE ARE THE WAY WE ARE. This reminds me of these two ladies I once saw interviewed on a talk show who had written a best selling book on �How to Catch a Man� or something like that.They basically said the way to get a husband was by playing hard to get. Never mind that that is very disrespectful and dishonors a man. Funny thing is these women were both in their 30s (not Christians of course) and neither one of them were married. Stuff like that just makes me feel ill. All that does for most men is to make them feel dishonored & disrespected, What I have found to give me the best results is to IM ladies when I see them on line. Usually I have not even sent them an email before and believe it or not about have of the ones I chat with (which is probably about 25-30% of the ones I IM) will give me their phone number by the time we are finished with the first IM. On top of all of that these women do not seem to have any kind of emotional problems. :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 09:11 PM Clarification: About half of the ones "I ask" for a phone number on the first IM give it to me - which is about half of the ones who answer my IM. Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 09:13 PM "THERE ARE REASONS WHY WE ARE THE WAY WE ARE." (with a kind voice) Why are you the way you are? Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 09:27 PM You forgot to say "spoken with soft words":glow: The way I am, like most men, is because God made us to be decision makers. I do not want or need to, like most men, to exchange 50 emails over several weeks - when I can accomplish a lot more with regard to getting acquainted with someone in one hour on the phone. Emailing wastes too much of my time - and God also wants us to be good stewards of our time as well as our finances and everything else we are given. Of course I have heard ladies complain about guys wanting to sleep with them before marriage. In that case a Christian woman is right that the man needs to be patient - or take a hike. Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 09:51 PM Since this is an internet forum and you cannot hear my voice inflections or see my facial actions, I felt the need to express that I was not attacking you or your post, just asking a question. And I would like to ask another: In your opinion, how did God make women? Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 10:03 PM To be man's companion and his assistant to man in governing the Earth - and as the word also says that he would not be lonely. Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 10:19 PM (still just asking questions so I can understand you better) If God made men to be the decision makers, why do you get frustrated when it takes women longer to make a decision? (very sincere words) It would be so wonderful if we were still in olden times when we would all have been raised up in the church and all pretty much have the same level of Bible study (pre-equally yoked! Haha!) but, unfortunately, we have all collectively messed that up over the years. We would all have a much better understanding of what we needed to look for in a spouse and a better guide of seeing someone else's fruits...Sorry, I'm rambling. Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 10:35 PM At this point I am not frustrated - has been with all of the game playing and emotional problems I have had to deal with - not that women need time. I am fine that women need a little more time, but if she needs a lot of time - she is not one for me. As the word says "Anything which is not of faith is sin." So being indecisive is sin because really what that is about is doubting. I do not mean that in a judgmental way at all and I am not offended if a woman is that way - but that is not the kind of woman I personally want or need. I want a woman who is not going to hinder me but is going to assist me in my spiritual growth. I'm not looking for perfection but I am looking for a woman of faith. Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 17 Oct, 2009 10:43 PM May God bless you in your search!! :) Good night and have a wonderful day! Post Reply
View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 18 Oct, 2009 12:01 PM Hi my name is Casper I am using my masters computer.Yes,I am a cat.I am sooo good with the ladies I have 2 in my home. You just walk up bite them on the neck and that lets them know who the boss is.Do that too the hard to get girls.Oh, you need to be kool like me.:rocknroll: I let the lady cats eat the canned cat food 1st.Then I eat the dry and barf it up in front of my master. :party: As a cat you humans make it too hard.I stalk the ladies and ambush them.Make them beg,ok.:dancingp: This is good advice from a cat.Oh,human females like a sense of humor.Kool cats like me understand. Oh that master is home.have to go,turn of the computer. St. Casper almost!!! Post Reply
Tarasye View Profile History	GAMES WOMEN PLAY - "BE PATIENT" & "HARD TO GET" Posted : 18 Oct, 2009 03:06 PM I cannot speak for her or any other woman my Brother, but I will say that sometimes when men like me, they come on too strong and overwhelm me and I get scared by that. Unfortunately that is often past scars that get in the way. If I come home and find five messages on my answering machine, the first thing that comes to mind is "stalker" as I have been there and done that, and its scary. I agree with you however that maybe while we all have things to learn (mostly in the Word, I believe), we did not come here to be taught a lesson in the matters of the heart from anyone. I do not want a man that needs to be changed, nor do I want a man that would change me. I like my Pastor's thinking on this one actually. He says when you are praying for God to change your mate, what you are actually praying for, or should be praying for, is for God to change you and how you relate to them, for when we change our own behavior, it will have an affect on them, and we can control our behavior, we cannot control theirs. If someone wants to teach me something in the Word, I am there for it, but if they want to teach me a lesson, while they are drawing it all out for me on the drawing board, I am slipping out the back door, for if they are arrogant enough to think I need to change, they will never understand the concept of what my Pastor said. I think relationships are about loving someone despite their flaws, and maybe figuring out what flaws you can live with, and what flaws your cannot, and knowing the difference when you see it so you don't waste someone Else's time and feelings. I think sometimes we also need to be a little forgiving of the lack of courage some people have for not being able to be direct. Sometime they have this misguided notion that being let down easy is somehow easy, and nothing could be further from the truth. As for me, I have stopped trying to figure out why someone is acting the way they are and just accept that this is not behavior I want, and separate myself from it without taking it personal, because it is obviously not what was intended for me if it does not make sense to me. If it is meant to be, The Lord My God will not allow me to live under a cloud of confusion, but will bring clarity between us. For if a relationship is a source of frustration in the beginning, it is probably not going to be amazing ten years into a marriage. I could be wrong, but that is how I see it. Tarasye Post Reply

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