Author	Thread: Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom
Admin	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 16 Dec, 2018 01:18 AM Can anyone please explain how a 48 year old Christian man ghost a Christian lady that he's been having almost hourly conversations with on a daily basis for close to 7 months? How does a 48 year old Christian man ghost a Christian lady after requesting to speak with her elderly father and siblings in order to inform them that he wants to marry their daughter and sister? How does a 48 year old Christian man request that a Christian lady go ahead and book the wedding venue (the deposit being non refundable) and then ghosts her the following day? Can anyone explain to me just how a 48 year old Christian man who said he prayed that God confirm his wife by a statement she would make goes on to ghost the same lady who went on to make the same statement? I registered with CDFF because I felt people would at least be civil and humane/kind to their fellow brethren. But it seems this "ghosting" phenomenon is becoming rife even within the Christian community. How do people even sleep at night knowing what they've just done? How does/can a believer ghost a fellow believer? How or what do they say to God when praying at night? This truly is a sad state of affairs. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 16 Dec, 2018 05:58 AM I'm really sorry to hear that you had that experience, did you speak for 7 months without meeting in person ? If that is the case how can that be a basis for a marriage. I don't wish to be rude, but I think you were naive, to book anything under these circumstances. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be married. But don't be in such a rush for a ring, that you allow your judgement to go out the window. I wish you all the best. Post Reply
SeekingGodsBest74 View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 16 Dec, 2018 08:50 AM I'm surprised to hear anyone had made it 7 months communicating on this site. I think the max time I've spent communicating on here with anyone is 2 days. Lots of ghosting going on, but therein is the problem with being presented with too many options. The worst case scenario is that the gentleman you were talking to passed away and thusly no longer able to communicate with you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 16 Dec, 2018 12:51 PM Thanks for the response. We were communicating via whatsapp, phone, text, you name it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 16 Dec, 2018 01:36 PM To Jayzee who said I was naive. Let's look at it from this angle. What if we or shall I say I, assumed we both had truly received God's confirmation? I mean how is it possible for him to pray that his future wife utters or makes a certain statement and I happen to utter those exact same words a few weeks after he prayed? The chances of that happening is close to zero. But assuming that was a mere coincidence, I also asked God to confirm us in a certain way and he did. Was that also a coincidence? The chances of both of them being strictly coincidence was down to zero at that stage. Or did the devil single us out and hung around our prayer closets and then got into our minds getting us to say or do in accordance with each other's prayer request? Of course, the original plan was for us to meet each other first. We never set out to do things differently. But when the things spoken about above began to happen, we or shall I say I, thought this was confirmation from God. So no, 7 months of communication was not the reason for wanting to get married. God's confirmation was. Plus, I was checking to make sure everything was adding up from a Biblical perspective too. I didn't just depend on "the fleece". And so while it is easy for people to say I was naive, we ought to remember Isaac never met Rebecca before they got married. Plus, there are loads of testimonies of how God brought couples together in the most miraculous of ways. If my story had turned out for the best, it would have been "Wow, our God is still working wonders". But now with the outcome being different, it's a case of, "I was naive". Oh well, God knows best. I do appreciate your input/perspective though. But the issue or question is why believers choose to indulge in this evil act. "Ghosting", is the most cruel way to break up with another person especially someone you claimed to care deeply about. Post Reply
View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 16 Dec, 2018 02:30 PM Oh lest anyone assume the man in question passed away, he didn't. He is still very much alive. He has, since ghosting me REACTIVATED, the same account he claimed he deleted when we went exclusive. Post Reply
View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 17 Dec, 2018 11:52 AM The spirit of this world ghosts people. Disappearing with reckless abandon; severing ties. And done in the cruelest way possible, stonewall silence. Walking away without explanation is culturally acceptable, but ghosting in the Church ought not to be done at all. It is antithetical to the pattern of grace, and brings to light a ruinous lack of understanding of what it means to be a member of the Body of Christ. imaPearl, fanciful men and women like to promise the earth via messaging services and phone calls because they are two steps removed from face-to-face contact. Their boldness is a pretense in the absence of the other's presence. If it comes to light that your ghoster is counted with them, don't allow the maddening lack of an explanation to sap your peace. Let not your wounds dictate your next move, and be led by the Spirit of Truth in the Name you can count on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 17 Dec, 2018 02:50 PM Very true Sevendust. I've moved on and will be applying what I learnt from this nasty experience next time around. Post Reply
View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 17 Dec, 2018 10:38 PM Imapearl, I do understand what you mean by the whole "ghosting" ordeal. It seems to be a common pattern nowadays. I think with just so much technology, all of these options to chose from--people have become more and more distant and dishonest with their own personal feelings altogether. I mean I've been "ghosted" on before, so I know what that's personally like. Even just on a level of after you've talked for a long period of time and really developed a connection and shared a lot of personal emotions with one another. It's tough, but now I've learned not to have high expectations anymore...I mean I know that probably sounds cold, but it's like at least I can be more emotionally prepared I guess in a way. Anyway, sorry that happened to you, but definitely just use this as a learning experience and keep moving on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Let's talk about "Ghosting" within Christiandom Posted : 18 Dec, 2018 07:01 AM People are weak, such things happen. Post Reply