Author	Thread: Dress code
Velvety_88 View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 26 Dec, 2015 11:00 PM Ok so I was talking to a guy for couple of weeks and everything was fine and we were planning on setting our 1st date. But, yesterday he pointed out that he is Independent Baptist. I thought that it was like any baptist churches I attended before but its not. He said that he is willing to date me if I start changing the way I dress by wearing ONLY skirts or dresses by the knee or below. He did mention how its wrong for women to be wearing dress pants and jeans. He also phrased the bible verse of Deuteronomy 5:22. I mean I really like him but I don't think I can accept that since it sounds a bit controlling. Besides if he wanted a girl wearing dresses why did he contact me if based on my pics you can clearly see I also wear jeans. What do you all think? Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 27 Dec, 2015 09:36 AM If he's trying to change you before your first date, can you imagine what he'll demand of you as time goes on? . . . Personally, I would run, and not look back but I'm not you. Best of luck cuz you're gonna need it with this one. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 27 Dec, 2015 10:05 AM NRSV1953...I wholeheartedly concur!!! Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 27 Dec, 2015 04:20 PM Yup, Hisjoymypeace, fortunately with age also comes wisdom. . :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 28 Dec, 2015 12:26 AM First of all Deuteronomy 5:22 talks about the ten commandments and not dressing. The verse he is referring to, is in Deuteronomy 22:5. Secondly, today we have trousers tailored specifically for women that men can't wear even if they wanted to. So in that sense, you are not wearing men's clothing. Thirdly, why did he contact you? Probably you had many other qualities that he admired and thought he would change this one little set back. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 28 Dec, 2015 02:32 AM Do you purchase your pants from the men's department? If not, then how could they be considered men's apparel? In The Companion Bible there are side columns that contain notes that explain the original Hebrew and Greek texts, and for Deuteronomy 22:5 the explanation reads in part: "that which : i.e. any article of ornament or apparel. man = geber. See Ap. 14. III woman's garment. Generally red, and eschewed by men. So, basically, (and this is how my church teaches it) that means women shouldn't wear clothing made specifically for men and men shouldn't wear women's clothing, and according to the aforementioned note, men avoided the color red. Post Reply
Velvety_88 View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 28 Dec, 2015 04:31 PM Hi yes thnx for the correction of the bible verse and he did mention something aout history of pants being related to homosexuality and lesbianism and being to provacative to men that it shows your figure. I said i dont wear tight jeans only loose kinds. BUt he still said its wrong including capris and shorts. That he expects his partner to wear dresses/skirts 100% even at his home, going grocery shopping and church since he doesnt want his church ppl and other to look at his parnter like if im rebelling against their dress code. Post Reply
Velvety_88 View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 28 Dec, 2015 04:39 PM Also, my correction is the he is Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB). I've been reading alot about this denomination although he says its not a denomination. And there are pros and cons; mostly cons. Bad reviews and such but he said some are true and others arent but depends how ppl grew up because every church is different. He also says he cant attend just any church. It has to be similar to his beliefs and the music has to be traditional hymns not like todays modernized churches which he considers wrong. He says he likes me but the downside is that I told him that I enjoy pants and dresses for sunday or church services is fine but the rest of the days i like to wear pants because they are comfortable. But he said he was against that. I also did research the IFB has divided to seperate denomination which is Southern Baptists which they consider liberalist because women wear pants and their way of worship is modernized. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 2 Jan, 2016 12:10 PM It's only wrong if it's for the purpose of dressing like a man, feminists did that in the beginning and that's how it went mainstream so.... your choice I guess. Anyway a woman in a dress is SO much more feminine than one in pants, So I'm def pro dress/skirt but I'm biased Post Reply
View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 6 Jan, 2016 09:16 PM It's man's doctrines and belief's and yes it is a denomination even though he says it's not. I had neighbor's growing up that held these beliefs and they were pretty cool kids. The girl actually still wears dresses/skirts/capris as a woman is married and her girls are wearing the same. It all depends if YOU are comfortable dressing that way FOREVER cuz he will not budge on this one...I wish you well:) Post Reply
View Profile History	Dress code Posted : 13 Jan, 2016 06:17 PM I've had the same sort of situation. I'm Southern Baptist and was talking to a guy who was Independent Baptist and didn't like the way I did anything. It definitely is it's own denomination. I don't think there's anything wrong with it because a good friend goes to that kind of church and she's super fun to hang around but she always wears skirts, doesn't listen to any modern music, only hymns for worship and only use one specific version of the Bible. If he's trying to change you before you've even met then I would advise you not to keep going with it unless he is willing to listen to what you have to say and why you believe the way you do. I would do some serious praying about it. Be with someone you are comfortable with. Post Reply

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