Author	Thread: Horrible experience
Admin	Horrible experience Posted : 30 May, 2015 08:30 PM I met a girl from Bangalore, the first one on this site. She is a Bengali-Nepali girl, good looking but as I asked her simple things about her past relationship like if she has moved on completely from her ex and whether she still has a soft corner for him. She told me that he asked her to convert to another religion, in order to marry her. She also said she was angry and disappointed with him on a lot of things. The surprising part was that she still wanted to speak to him regularly even while she was speaking to me. She revealed the truth only when I asked her pointedly. That was really awkward and seemed adulterous by Biblical standards. I saw the destructive potential of the still existing relationship with her ex for the relationship we would have. She wanted to travel two boats at the same time, with her one foot in my boat and the other in her ex's boat. It is important to forgive but essential to move on in life with a new committed partner. She lacked conviction. Anyways, her half truths and lies put paid to everything. Post Reply
View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 31 May, 2015 03:01 AM The girl in question was trying to evade simple questions about whether she still was mentally and emotionally with her ex and why she felt the compulsion to speak to her ex and me at the same time. I let her go as it was evident that she was presenting half truths to me. No honesty means no steady foundation for a relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 31 May, 2015 10:11 AM I answered your other post of this same content but it is good you let her go. It is good to judge fruit in a persons life by asking alot of questions. Proverbs 27:12 The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty. When you meet someone new: Always ask the Lord to reveal a persons heart to you. I ave found that the other person will always tell on themselves with what comes from their mouth. God answers the righteous prayers! God opens doors and shuts them. Move on and do not linger with this. Forgive her and move on. May the Lord continue to direct your paths. Gods grace to you Post Reply
View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 31 May, 2015 11:44 AM I agree. I forgave her, moved on. Post Reply
Ta2012b View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 17 Jun, 2015 09:40 PM Hi this is Teresa. I'm sorry you had this experience and will pray that you find the right girl for you. My Self. I met with this guy and he showed up in Greasy clothes, Looked nothing like his picture, here's the best part, wait for it, He had NO TEETH! Look I know that you are not suppose to judge people by their appearance, But come on, If you don't have enough pride in yourself to show your best side and take care of yourself. Don't sign up for a dating site. OK I'm done. Post Reply
ARLENE102509 View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 24 Jun, 2015 08:52 AM Sorry to ask this but have you asked her whom to take side? I know that, that is a horrible story for you, but i think it is also horrible to her. Having two different people who is both dear to you is devastating. weighing things especially in the emotional area is such a baggage. Letting her go is a good idea, to her think and decide too whom to be with. on the other hand I think you should help her and don't let her hang in there. Wrong as we may think of it but she needs help. bad for you to considered it in knowing her but you know what? Her experience with you maybe one of the treasured thing in her...i don't know how you make ur days, but i imagine ur simple laughs, simple care will remain in her hearts. Don't feel being used, feel that someone in those days became happy. Hold not grudges... I am glad anyway that you had forgiven her. Next time - hold this simple verse from revelation.. "Guard your heart with full diligence for there flows the issues of life. God Bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 26 Jul, 2015 10:55 PM I don't judge people based on their past if they are ready to come forth, accept, speak about it honestly and find resolution. If a woman can love two men at the same time, that in my view, becomes an adulterous relationship. Same applies to a man. Anyways, to start afresh, you gotta make peace and value the person with you in your present than destroy it by latching onto your past. It is not possible to travel in two boats at the same time. Post Reply
zeb6 View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 3 Sep, 2015 07:42 AM I don't trust anything that has to do with distance at least she was truthful. I have had great connection with people here but distance has always been a problem, I am not really optimistic about meeting my life partner here anymore but for those who are,good luck. Post Reply
View Profile History	Horrible experience Posted : 13 Oct, 2015 03:54 AM Yes distance can be a problem especially if the person is not in the position to come and see you. I have my own dating story, I just dont have time to write about right now. I can say this if a person dont have the means to visit you in three years of you talking , facebooking, skyping , something is not right. Ive found out some stuff with in the three years on and off. Post Reply