Author	Thread: I'm really scared of falling in love....
femme15 View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 30 Apr, 2015 06:58 AM I am a goal oriented person, I will always do my best to get what I have to get at the end. And for this thing to happen, I always make a lot of plans for achieving it. I have this kind of discipline ever since I was a kid, and I always get praises for being like that, because for me, a failed mission is a result of bad planning.....yet I have to admit that, these past few weeks, there is something from someone here who is making a lot of distractions to my plans. And these distractions are not really bad or what, because usually these distractions come from a simple hi that will turn into a lengthy chat, talk and skyping afterwards, resulting to a crazy smile, a heartfelt laughter and extreme happiness. This someone really let me feel good about myself and special in some other away, he is starting to say "I love you" to me, yet on my part I just can't say it, I want to but I just can't...because it's not in my plan to fall in love right now. But I do like that "someone" very much, and I pray for him always.... If ever that "someone" read this, as he doesn't miss a single day not to view my profile ( I don't know if he is reading it or checking what's new in it) .... I want you to know that I do like you very much...God knows I just can't right now....but hopefully soon....I don't know....In 6 years we'll see.... Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 1 May, 2015 09:52 AM I found such life plans to be stupid, so I stopped making them. Post Reply
femme15 View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 1 May, 2015 10:46 PM I don't know but it makes me a bit secure when I do it, I know that the chance of being into the "love zone" is really high since this is a dating site, yet I'm not sure how to deal with it. Right now, I'm gonna stick to what I have planned before that and try to figure out what's next. Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 24 May, 2015 10:40 PM Hello Day, a lot of the times people are afraid to fall in love because of hurt from the past (bad relationships with parents or boyfriend/girlfriend). If you've been hurt in the past by betrayal or abandonment, it's natural to want to 'control' the situation. Subconsciously we say, "I don't want to be hurt again, so I want to control the situation." In your case, you want to stick to your plans, and not let yourself fall into the love feeling. It's normal human psychology, not stupid at all ;) ;) So my advice is get to know your fears. Ask, "What am I afraid of?" For example, "I'm afraid I will love this person, and they will betray me and leave me." Write ALL of your fears down. From there you have a better picture of what you want, and it's a more empowering way of taking control. You can say, "I want this, but I don't want that." Then when you have a clear picture, you can pray about it, and seek it out. Since you're a person who likes to make plans, you can make a plan for the future, what kind of love you want to ask God for. Maybe it won't be the person you're talking to now, maybe it will. But you're right to trust your heart and emotions because that's one of the way God speaks to us. Always trust your heart. This is just my opinion <3 Best wishes Post Reply
eli2303 View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 16 Jun, 2015 09:45 PM Its always good to plan. Keeps you ahead. However, remember that falling in love doesn't/shouldn't grind your plans to a halt. If you ever feel the same way about that person, then go right ahead and say how you feel. You can't plan for love, you ADJUST for love. Maybe your plan is to finish your studies, get your career on track then fall in love. Most of the times it doesn't work that way. I do suggest that this "special someone" is made aware of your plans to a certain degree. That way they can adjust their plans if need be. Then together you can PLAN accordingly... Always remember to check with God - HE usually has a different plan up his sleeve sometimes.. Post Reply
ARLENE102509 View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 24 Jun, 2015 09:25 AM Good to know that you're planning your life. I agree with you no plans - mission failed! But dear let me advance a little and say this. Don't include love as ur plan...plan how to manage ur ways to love. It is sharing of life. if you find it as a destruction on your part then it is simple as you are not ready to it. Ask your self. what matter most to you now? It is hard to face it though coz if you go as you plan you might lose him right? and that scares you, ur fear grows and soon maybe ...unknowingly... ur in the middle of destruction already. Your hoping that he may be able to read your post...Honestly? if you are he...what will be your thoughts upon reading the message? how will you feel? Taking the scenario... if i am that guy, upon reading it, yes i will feel good, coz you do love me too. but the thing is, I am not there yet in your plans. You're making my heart red but tearing it apart. Talk to him... if you do love him too. include him in your plans.and if, your not ready now, set a time table...still a plan right? Post Reply
femme15 View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 3 Jul, 2015 12:55 AM Update: I have fallen for him, then I just got hurt. So many reasons, and a lot of differences, but the thing is...I'm still towards my plans. That was a quick deviation, yet God had still lead me the way... And he haven't read this thread yet, if he ever will in the future...then God Bless Him... :) Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 5 Jul, 2015 11:28 AM Femme: God didnt lead you into getting hurt! You led yourself! You need to look to Jesus Christ to save you! Come out of the RC church and quit following a fake Jesus. Post Reply
HollySeyer View Profile History	I'm really scared of falling in love.... Posted : 6 Jul, 2015 11:19 PM The foundation of our salvation is LOVE.. So why be scared? Love shouldn't make you feel like you're falling, it should be UPLIFTING. Even if it may lead you to a heart break, so what, only God can turn TRIALS in to His TESTIMONY. And I can testify to that. And if at first you are in doubt and too scared, maybe you are just expecting quite a lot of things to happen that may not be God's plan for you. Sorry to say and I hope Im not being harsh but playing tough is not always helpful. At the end of the day, you will find that its hard to fool yourself coz it leaves you empty. Instead REST IN GOD'S GUIDANCE. Know your priorities and stay focused. Is God your priority or is it your plans in life that is your priority? If it is the previous, then you're on the right track. God bless your heart. Post Reply