Thread: True love is not based upon the outward countenance, age, or body size.
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True love is not based upon the outward countenance, age, or body size.
Posted : 2 Feb, 2014 09:08 AM
The French have a saying about love:
"The price of love is love. One must love if one wants to be loved."
Far too many people think that love is getting what you want, and is only experienced by the young. It is not. Love is not really comprehended when one is young, it comes from years of experience, and of learning what life is really all about. Love is the nature of God in someone, and the manifesting of that love towards another. In other words, love is doing unto others, as you'd have them do unto you. Love is reciprocal, and can only be demonstrated by the mature..
I love the passage of scripture, where the LORD rebukes Samuel for thinking that the outward countenance is important to the things and calling of God:
"But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart." I Samuel 16:7
I believe that men should be men "after God's own heart", and seek a woman based upon who she truly is, and that it is wrong for men and women, who profess to be believers, to judge others (in general) by their appearance or age.
Faith does not see with the physical (natural) eye, but with the heart.
One has to be capable of real love, in order to really love..
True love is not based upon the outward countenance, age, or body size.
Posted : 11 Feb, 2014 06:36 PM
I agree. A persons inward beauty far outweighs what they look like because beauty is fleeting. I think we all want to find an attractive person with a beautiful heart. I guess then I need to ask myself if I am an attractive person with a beautiful heart. I think I can do things to help my appearance like take a shower, exercise, dress appropriately, maybe buy rogaine (LOL), etc. It's my heart that is more elusive. I've wished, hoped and prayed for a better heart for many years. God has been working on me 22 years as a Christian and even before that and yet my heart still is ugly at times and sometimes a lot. So, I guess what I hope for is for mercy and I guess I should want to give mercy as well.
I'm also going to add that some people are not capable of feeling love. Some people who have had some form of abuse don't feel loved no matter how much you love them.
True love is not based upon the outward countenance, age, or body size.
Posted : 16 Feb, 2014 09:21 PM
Nor it is based on how hard the heart thumps. Being "in love" as defined by the world could be exciting but not an ideal state. When one becomes unproductive being overwhelmed by his emotions then he could hardly recognize reality also.
Jesus loves us but i don't think He is "in love" with us the way it is commonly characterized otherwise it will be off. Love and reason should not be divorced and one should not make important decisions (marrying) when he is"in love" because in said state, he has but clouded mind.
True love can only evolve on something firmly grounded on morals and logic. It is a choice, a product of the mind after addressing the variables surrounding a relationship. One decides to love and said decision does not come out in an instant. Whirlwind romance that ends up in marriage may not be identified as true love unless the couple would choose to uphold the commitment despite the not so acceptable revelations born by the passage of time.
True love therefore is abiding in love. One that stands despite the flaws. The Lord still demonstrated His greatest love for us on the cross though He knows what lies ahead. If we remain in Him and Him in us then we would have true love that overlooks imperfections and keeps us faithful to nourish that love.
True love is not based upon the outward countenance, age, or body size.
Posted : 17 Feb, 2014 04:57 AM
Very well said.
Two years ago I read the five love languages and he explained that there is an infatuation stage, (6 months - year), which is fun but doesn't hold up. then you have to decide if you are going to love that person and part of loving that person is wanting the best for them.
Recently my minister said that the most successful marriages are ones where they simply give the other person the benefit of the doubt. I think that is simple and poignant. I imagine it is not easy to do all the time but a goal worth striving to.
I hope that your seeing I'm trying to agree with you but there is no way I can say it as well as you did.
