Author	Thread: Bad "Christian" dating experiences...
Admin	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 9 Mar, 2013 06:09 AM hi all,i am a 53 year old still single christian man.i joined a pay christian dating agency in 1992 and wa contacted by a christian woman from a town 15 miles for me.we exchanged letters for a few weeks and all seemed ok.we arranged to meet and i travelled to here town and spent 3 hours waiting for her and she never showed.eventually i managed to contact her a few weeks later and she was unapologetic with an excuse about "something had come up at the last minute"..there was no further correspondence between us.then a few months later the "christian" dating agency has arranged a fellowship meeting for all members welcome at a church in the countrysaide.i went and after a while i realized this woman was there. i spoke to her and she seemed "detached" and completey uninterested in really chatting to me at all.then after the meting was over her and several other poeple who seemed to know each other of sorts started gossiping and running other people down under the guise of religious concern..the alarm bells really went off for me then.i felt there was nothing really christian at all about this meeting..so to sum things up-beware od wolves in sheeps clothing-becuase for sure-JESUS warn about such things would take place!.and one more thing..OUT OF THE "EMOTICONS" SYMBOLS TO THE RIGHT OF THIS STORY I AM WRITING,ON THE 1ST COLUMN AND THE 6TH ONE DOWN THERE IS A HEAD WITH SUNGLASSES ON AND RAISING ITS LEFT HAND INTO THE AIR WITH ITS FOREFINGER AND LITTLE FINGER RAISED AND POINTING UPWARDS IN A JABBING MOTION..TO THE UNAWARE AMONGST YOU-THIS POPULAR WORLDLY SIGN LANGUAGE IS AN ANCIENT SYMBOL CALLED THE "MANA CURATA"..-AND IT ACTUALLY MEANS THAT THE PERSON DOING IT IS GIVING PRAISE TO SATAN THE DEVIL-THE gOD OF THIS WORLD!!THE FINGERS RAISED IN A MOCK DEVILS HORNS SALUTE?!!,,IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE ME JUST PUT "MANA CURATA" INTO GOOGLE AND SEE!-WHAT ON EARTH IS SUCH A THING DOING ON A SUPPOSED "CHRISTIAN" DATING SITE:purpleangel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 10 Mar, 2013 05:39 AM I am sorry for you experience. We need to be careful that we are not individuals who are straining out knats and swollowing the camel. Beside even though this icon is based in something wicked it is the heart behind the user and motive of user that matters, right? We are on the battle field here the front line for relationships. For the witness of Christ to the rest of the world. How would the world believe God loves them and we love oneanother if we are not people who show love in our marriages? We have to stop living self centered lives and begin living God centered lives. Christ centered lives. Word centered. Not religious self justified lives. Keep your eyes on Christ and follow His ways and do not worry about those who criticise. They have their reward coming. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 11 Mar, 2013 01:45 AM I am so sorry about this. I wish men and women could be sincere in whatever they do. It must have been traumatizing but take heart and believe that God has a special person for you.May be thats why guys are not interested in us who are so far from them. I have a friend who also went to meet a guy in US and he never turned at the airport as agreed.She tried to call him but in vain and after two days she had to come back.Online dating is not easy but we just have to keep hoping for the best,trusting in God and praying. Thank you so much for sharing this. My best wishes to you as you continue searching. Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 12 Mar, 2013 03:34 PM I have been on the Christian site for some time now, over two years. I what i have encountered is very disturbing from a christian standpoint. We has chrisitans are suppose to be not like the "World" as we calm to be, we are suppose to not judge a book by its cover. You would think that being a lover of Jesus, chrisitan would be humble and not shallow about certain things that the world is obessed with and what im refering too is the apparence of a person. Namely the chrisitan woman on this site, i have found are very shallow. In particular the very good looking chrisitan women on here. The level of concededness is very alarming. Alot of the very pretty women on here state, that they are looking for a guy who's caring, loving, has a good sense of humor, good with kids, loyal, honest. humble, a gentleman, and a man who in love with the Lord. What they dont tell you is if you dont look like, brad pit, david beckham, or george clooney they are not even interested in talking. Why is that?? how is it that the women who are suppose and clam to be more open and humble to the average joe type are the most hard to impress. Case in point i have contacted over dozens of the most beautiful women on this site, and only but a mwere handful replied back and were only looking to be friends. Even though i was the everything she was looking for character and personialy wise in a guy, it didnt not matter because i wasnt handsome or attractive enough. Just last week, i was out with my cousin being a desingated driver for her and her friends, being at club surrounded by great looking woman, im thinking to myself, there no way any of these great looking women would have interest in me right??Boy was i wrong, the "worldy" women were more open to a average joe like myself than any chrsitian girl ive meet on here. I had a handful of women start conversations with me, and try to by me drinks and even ask me out for lunch the next day. Now where am i msssing it? I thought the 'world" was suppose to be the shallow one, and us chrsitian are suppose the be the ones who value the inner qualities of a person more than anything. Yet from my experienence and from other christian man as well, this seems to be a common theme. Now im not saying all chrisian girls are like this, i have meet some very wonderful christian women here, but because of distance its not a ideal match. And the vast majority of the women that i have had great converstations with are the women who fall into the non-attractive catergoy by worldly standards, the overweight, curvy, thick, kind. let me tell you, as a man, i find curvy women just as attractive as her slender counterpart. the idea that a woman is not attracttve because she is overweight is wrong. Im more than open to dating an overweight girl who has a great personality. Yet chrisitan woman, dont seem to share the same sentiment. I feel as though many chrisitan womena have this fanatasy like a romantic movie, that a justin timberlake or zac efron is gonna sweep them off their feet. Well im here to tell you chrsitian ladies, they here are great chrsitian men that will sweep you off your feet, but they dont look like zac efron ro justim timberlake, they look like kevin james and geroge lopez, average looking men with hearts full of the Holy Spirit and would be loyal and honest to you, give you the man you deserve. However, we dont even get a chance, because we dont "LOOK" like what you are looking for. Maybe im wrong, maybe im the only average looking joe chrsitian who has experienced this, but i find it just very alarming how women who are suppose to value who a man is on the inside, doesnt even get the time of day to the more handsome counter part who may not be the right guy for you. yet you will go through the drama of dishonestly, cheating, lack of interest other than sex, beacause he is good looking and that was ultimatly the deciding factor in wether you showed interest. As i got to now some of the girls from the club, i told them that i was a chrisitan and was there only to look after my cousin. they seemed very moved that i would do that for my cousin, and one who had a boyfriend said she would date me because i was such a great guy with an awesome personality. If any ladies read this, tell me im wrong, i would love to get your feed back on this issue if you are brave enough to have this disccusion. Or you may not even be open to it beacause im not good looking enough for you to even have this conversation right??? Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 13 Mar, 2013 04:22 AM Maybe the trouble is something else. As a guy I dont think your just a average guy looks wise. What I think you need is to mature personality wise. You ranting is not an attractive quality. Women need a man who is not critical of them especially the most beautiful women and especially the most beautiful women. My point is you might need to learn what truly attracts a attractive woman. Why does the scripture tell husbands to view thei wives as glorious and spotless? Their is something about your attitude toward women that I know is a turn off to them. We men are calle dto love our wives unconditionally and where does this start? In the dating world. How do we think we can love a woman unconditionally after marriage if we do not do it now? Being critical is NOT unconditional love plain and simple. Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 13 Mar, 2013 10:51 AM To the OP & to Grace337, I�d have to agree with the previous poster regarding attitude. I lived for many years in a non-Christian �world�. Brother, man up, women will put up with a lot�too much if you ask me�but very few want anything to do with a guy with �a poor me� attitude. Most women I�ve met prefer a confident man. Ladies, please feel free to tell me that I�m full of hot air if you have a different opinion. Not trying to be nasty or make you look bad�just my honest opinion. Regardless of how nice you may be, you�re still a stranger to the ladies on the site as you�ve never actually met. In the conversations I�ve had regarding online dating, I�ve heard far too many tales of encounters with posers and trolls. Many women talk about backing away if they even sense a red flag. Pursuing someone not interested or getting annoyed because you�ve been ignored you are both red flags to others�and talk travels fast. The ladies are cautious and you can�t blame them. Attraction is what it is. You can�t force someone to like you or place blame if they aren�t attracted to you. Time & patience. A friend of mine many years back would ask countless woman to dance. They almost always said no. I once asked him if he didn�t get tired of the rejection. His response, nope because sooner or later someone would says yes�hope burns eternal. One of the woman who danced with him eventually became his wife. He always said how it was worth every rejection to find her. Put your best foot forward in all you do & say so the ladies can see for themselves that you are a decent guy. Eventually you�ll find someone who is as interested in you as you are in them. Just my 2 cents for what they're worth... Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 13 Mar, 2013 05:56 PM Rejection is a good thing if one knows how to channel it in a positive way. Post Reply
VirginofGod View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 5 Apr, 2013 10:25 AM " i have contacted over dozens of the most beautiful women on this site," Why not contact the "ugly" women? Perhaps you are just as hung up on looks as you think these beautiful women are, just saying. I find it telling when unattractive guys feel they deserve a beautiful woman and won't give unattractive women the time of day. That's absurd. You're doing the same thing to unattractive women that's being done to you. Stop focusing on finding "the most beautiful" woman and maybe your search will prove fruitful. Not that I care about standards we are all beautiful in God's eyes. just saying. Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 25 Apr, 2013 08:35 PM I have a good one for u. It's not a dating experience, but a life altering experience. I met a woman on this site and I lived on the east coast and she the west. We talked every day for months then decided to meet in Las Vegas.We decided to take our relationship to the next level, so after several more months, we decided for me to move to her state(wa). Everything was going great until I realized that whenever there was a small disagreement, she would put up this wall where she wouldn't talk to me for hours and days.I proposed in front of her church and after about 1 month she just ended the relationship without telling me why.I had just gotten a new apartment but now I have just lost job so I may be moving back to the east.I have no family or friends here, but God is providing, but I am not giviup on my search for that special woman. Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 26 Apr, 2013 12:16 AM i think firstly, one must know he/she is beautifully made by God, if one compare his/herself to someone else physically thats the downfall of it. i too came to label myself unattractive, ugly at one time, and wishing i could be as beautiful and sexy as i tried to comapre myself to someone else. and it always gives us this bad feeling where you may like the person and he doesnt like you back thingy. I realized i have to see myself in the viewpoint of God rather than in the eyes of society. God said i am wonderfully and fearfully made by God, so i was telling myself for someone to form me like that mean i must be a special creature, i began seeing my value /worth, and embark to see me as priceless, me as beautiful, me as important, and it gives me the confidence in humility, i dont care really how someone may look at me physically. i know im special....:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Bad "Christian" dating experiences... Posted : 2 May, 2013 04:52 PM My experience with this sit? A lot of undatable guys - guys who just let themselves go ,fat and old, jobless or not gainfully employed,and these are matured men supposedly.. Sad bunch. About me, I am not so much into physical stuff and I actually like a senior citizen there but his messages were short and uninteresting like he doesn't wanna tell anything about himself. So he goes... Post Reply

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