Author	Thread: Are You Some Man's Toilet?
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 10 Jan, 2013 04:02 PM Recently, I went on a coffee date with a man � that sounds strange even as I read it on paper. Strange that I felt the need to clarify that it was a man and even stranger that I went out on a date. You see, I was married for over 20 years to the same man so I decided that I needed to explore what the dating scene looked like after being off of the market for over 20 years. Let me add that I had been divorced for over two years and separated before that for four, so I was well healed before taking this route. Needless to say, I didn�t know exactly where to begin � Did I join some mega-million dollar dating site and put up a profile? Did I wait patiently for God to bring somebody? Did I church hop and pray? Did I just sit at home and eat bonbons? What were my options? Truthfully, way too many options are out there. Some way too much money and others � well, they are just a place for �scammer�s� to look for vulnerable and emotionally unstable people to prey upon. It can be really scary and confusing � Mike, that�s what we�ll call him, was a nice looking guy, well-groomed, educated and he loved to travel. Actually, that was what drew me to him, the travel part � I love to travel. Well, that and the line in his profile that said something along the lines of �Chivalry lives �� So, when he invited me for coffee I accepted. Anyway, he was my first coffee date experience. Honestly, I was a bit nervous but once there � it was like riding a bike. Conversation, light laughter and then � we got to the heart of the man or should I say � men. Don�t ask me how but we got on the topic of sexual intimacy. Now, let me tell you that I am an advocate of purity and intimacy being reserved for the marriage bed. I don�t hide my beliefs and they are clearly written there on my profile for anybody that wants to read it. It is non-negotiable as far as I am concerned and I made that perfectly clear to Mike. Mike proceeded to tell me that, �Dr. Ruth says that you shouldn�t buy a pair of shoes until you try them on first.� Did he just call me a shoe? Really, I wasn�t offended � I mean if I look like a pair of men�s shoes � Well, you get the point. I just thought to myself � I am not a man�s pair of shoes to be tried on and discarded because I don�t fit � and I hope that the woman who is willing to be that pair of shoes insists that he wears socks. What about Athlete�s Foot for goodness sake? Some fungus� are impossible to get rid of � they just keep spreading. Mike had just returned from the restroom when we started discussing the topic of sexual intimacy and purity. He asked me what I taught and I told him that I teach purity to young girls and women because we as women don�t value ourselves � giving away that which should be treasured because we think that will bind the man�s heart to us. We discussed how when we women sleep with someone, we (not all but most) if we are really honest become emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually invested when we are intimate. Men, � well, it just doesn�t work the same way for them � They just aren�t wired like we are and the sooner we acknowledge that well-known fact the better off we will be and our daughters will be as well. Brace yourselves, ladies because this is what he shared with me and told me to tell you. He said, �I just got back from using the restroom, right?� I thought that was a rather odd thing to say but I was curious so I played along and said, �Yes.� He said, �Well, I went into that bathroom and it was a nice bathroom. I used the toilet and completed my business. I washed my hands and I walked out of the bathroom. Right?� Well, at this point I was thinking, �I certainly hope so � I mean I hope that you washed your hands.� But I didn�t say that, I said, �Yes.� He then proceeded to tell me that was how it was for �some� men when they have sex with a woman. He said, (and I admit I am paraphrasing because I was amazed that he was bold enough but candid as well as honest enough to tell the truth on the matter) � �Unless, we are emotionally invested in a woman then it is just like doing our business in a bathroom toilet of a preferred restaurant. We go in we use the �facility�, we clean ourselves up and we leave. We aren�t thinking about that bathroom toilet anymore � we aren�t wondering who is using that toilet, what that toilet is doing right now or remembering anything special about that toilet � We have taken care of our basic need to release and after that we are done. Unless, for some reason we need to use that toilet again.� Now, you are probably thinking like I was � �WOW, you are really a piece of work and not to mention disgusting.� Honestly though, I had to admit that I was grateful to him. I wasn�t angry with him � I was appreciative he had confirmed that my teaching was warranted. In sharing that truth with me, he had basically told me to ask women everywhere this question � �Are you some man�s toilet?� And so, I am � I dare to ask you that question � Are you some man�s toilet or perhaps, you are a pair of shoes? Personally, I don�t intend to be either one and I hope that more women will choose the harder, less traveled road of keeping themselves � it is a matter that goes beyond self-esteem and self-respect. Now, I dare you to be honest with yourself � �Are you???� Thanks, Mike ... It says in Song of Solomon several times (Chapters and verses 2:7, 3:5 & 8:4) � �Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.� If you ever wondered why ... it was for our protection but if you don't believe me ... perhaps, you need to read this again. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 11 Jan, 2013 02:31 AM This is wonderful...thanks for sharing this with sisters. Ladies its the high time we treated ourselves with pride and self worth.We are more than men's toilets. But i'm afraid only after some time in life or after some experiences is when you realise that you are worth more than just being taken to bed. Its good to keep yourself pure until the one who is interested "really interested" can marry you.Sex doesn't change a man's feelings toward you. Be pure girls and love yourselves. Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 11 Jan, 2013 09:01 AM Thank you! Yes, we must learn to value ourselves in order to be valued. Post Reply
King18David View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 11 Jan, 2013 01:29 PM Pearl1765, Interesting post. I've heard promiscuous men and women likened to "public toilets" in the past, as in, would you really want to marry a public "pit stop"? "Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares?" Proverbs 5:16 Perhaps men who use others as Mike described, become toilets themselves. They just don't realize it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 12 Jan, 2013 04:42 AM Their is another form of degridation........ That is spouse hopping. Scriptures command husbands to not put away their wives and wives to not depart from their husbands. And what do many individuals who call them selves chiristians do with this command? They ignore it... Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 12 Jan, 2013 06:36 AM Well said. I agree with you .. I don't want to be anybody's pit stop. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 12 Jan, 2013 04:57 PM I guess if you equate sex with going to the loo then you may as well use prostitutes - but I've never known anyone form an emotional attachment to a WC! There's good reason the Lord forbids fornication and that's because, quite apart from the physical consequences, it also involves your heart and that of others. I learnt this lesson the hard way so if you're thinking of "trying on a new outfit" let me tell you it ain't worth it... Post Reply
View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 13 Jan, 2013 05:15 AM We really need to feel sorry for those taken advantage and those who would take advantage. Why? We all have some level of pain and emptyness in our lives and we seek God for fulfillment but we also seek other things like food, entertainment, exercise, alcohol etc These people seek se......xual greatification for their bandage to their deep need. Our lusts and desires come out of a deep desire for wholeness and satisfaction. We have this need for completion. This need that only God can fulfill. We need pity them that they have yet found the true source of satisfaction that fills to over flowing through a Spiritual connection with LOVE. God is Love........ Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 14 Jan, 2013 09:51 AM Exactly and who wants to be compared to a "loo" certainly not me. It is best to keep yourself from fornication and guard your heart. Post Reply
reboquioEmz View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 07:05 AM wow! Thank you,pearl1765 for sharing this. As a woman,I know my real value and my worth which is far more than a pair of shoes and certainly not a man's toilet.. Eventhough i am fallible. I made mistakes. I stumble and fall and still I am really worth more than rubies because I am a daughter of the King. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 07:42 AM It's getting way too easy to believe people like him exist:ribbit:. He takes the new record for most disgusting/worst analogy for sexual relationships I've ever heard. I sure hope he wasn't claiming to be christian. :peace::peace: Post Reply

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