It�s always better to be �SAFE� than �SORRY�. TRUE CHRISTIANS PLS EVRYBODY READ THIS!!!!!
Posted : 29 Oct, 2011 08:27 PM
Online Dating Safety Guidelines
The Christian Mingle online dating guidelines below have been put together to help you avoid uncomfortable situations and other problems. Please read carefully and refer to these often!
Keep your anonymity.
TAKE YOUR TIME, and ask lots of questions. Don't give out any personal information, including your email address. Use Mingle Mail first, which allows you to send and receive mail without using your real address. Get a good idea of what a person may be like before you give them your email address. You can set up free email accounts through services such as Yahoo, Juno, Hotmail, and others. Never give out your last name, home address, phone number, work information, or any other identifying information in your profile or initial emails. Don't communicate with anyone who attempts to pressure you into giving this information. Simply ignore them.
Use common sense and be cautious.
Don't believe everything you read or are told, whether it is on a profile, in a Mingle Mail, on the message boards, or in the chat room. Watch out for a person who is simply too good to be true. Watch closely for odd behavior, the person may not be what he or she says. Trust yourself and your gut! You're responsible to take all the time you need to make sure a person is honest and trustworthy. If your gut tells you that someone is lying, they very likely are. Don�t get hurt by becoming prematurely intimate with someone. Don't be in a rush to fall in love, it will happen when it happens.
Ask for a photo.
A photo will verify a person's profile information and give you a good idea of appearance. If you keep getting excuses, it is probable that he or she is trying to hide something. Our site will scan in a photo for free, so there really aren't any good excuses for not doing it. A person may also send you a photo of somebody else. Be cautious.
Use the telephone, a pay phone first :)
At the right time, a phone call will tell you many things about a person�s ability to communicate. Keep your number anonymous if possible, and use the conversation to find out more about the person to make sure you want to meet. Also call a coworker, a friend, or a family member. The more people you talk to, the safer and more sure you will be. Only share your phone number when you feel absolutely sure about trusting the person. If you are being pressured to meet, ask to speak to the persons mother first.
Meet only when you are ready.
Many times our excitement about a person makes us impatient.........Be Patient! One of the wonderful things about meeting somebody online is that you can gain so much information about a person before you feel you need to meet. You have NO obligation to meet anyone, ever. Stay away from that people that make you uncomfortable.
Warning signs.
Behavior such as anger, demeaning or disrespectful comments, physically inappropriate comments and behavior, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you are obvious warning signs. Stay away from people like this, just ignore them. Below are a few more things to watch for:
� Information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, and other information is inconsistent.
� Will not speak to you on the phone after establishing an ongoing relationship.
� Dodges and will not directly answer questions.
� In person is quite different from his or her online profile.( I AM EDDING THIS:especially if she/he deleted him/her profile recently after you introduced each other!)
� Will not introduce you to friends, professional associates or family members.
Meeting the first time, never go alone.
Take a friend, always! Choose the safest possible environment. Even if you think you know every detail about a person and you trust them implicitly, meet in public where many people are around. Also, tell someone where you are going and when you will be back. Give your date�s name and telephone number or any other information to that person. Use your own transportation to get to and from the date. Go somewhere very familiar to you. Be brief, one or two hours is plenty. There is no need for a 5-10 hour date!( ME:THAT�S SOOOOOO TRUE!!!!!) You will have plenty of time for that later. If your date disagrees with this guideline or any of the guidelines listed here, you shouldn't meet that person.
Traveling far to meet someone.
Use your own transportation always. Don't allow your date to make the arrangements. If the location where you are meeting seems unsafe, awkward, or inappropriate - go back to your hotel. And of course, make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. Take a cell phone with you if you can.
How to get out of a jam.
Just leave. It�s always better to be safe than sorry. Your safety is obviously more important than worrying about embarrassment, your behavior, or what another person may think of you. Just leave.
We want to ensure that you have a wonderful experience. If you feel we have left something out of these guidelines, please let us know!
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WELL DEAR BROTHER AND SISTERS I�D LIKE TO EDD THAT MANY NEW SCAMMERS PRETED TO KNOW THE BIBLE VERY WELL AND IT�S TRUE IN SAME CASES !!!BE VERY CAREFULLL!!ALWAYS CHECK FOR �RED FLAGS � INTHEIR BEHAVIOURS!!!READ AL LOT FROM PROVERBS!!!,MY FAVORITES IS PROVERB22;3 AND THE QUOTE HERE It�s always better to be safe than sorry
It�s always better to be �SAFE� than �SORRY�. TRUE CHRISTIANS PLS EVRYBODY READ THIS!!!!!
Posted : 4 Nov, 2011 06:19 AM
Well, I can understand the sensual aspects which undergird the apparent necessity to ask questions such as this, when you are a babe in the Lord, not knowing the importance of the Word of God; but for those of you who are supposed to be mature in the things of the Lord, Why isn't the scripture the filter through which you screen everything relative to the issues pertaining to these questions and the answer?
There is a more simpler way to determine whether or not one is of the Lord:
"To the law and to the testimony, if they speak not according to this word it is because there is no LIGHT in them." [Isaiah 8:20]
There, you have the ONLY method ever needed to determine anything relative to human nature and the spiritual nature.
Oh, and one more scripture as I go, which would be a good one to keep in mind when chatting or talking with another, about anything in life:
"But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned." [I Cor 2:14]
What is your faith in? The reason of man, or the word of God?
"O foolish Galatians, who hath bewitched you, that ye should not obey the truth, before whose eyes Jesus Christ hath been evidently set forth, crucified among you? This only would I learn of you, Received ye the Spirit by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? Are ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh? Have ye suffered so many things in vain? if it be yet in vain. He therefore that ministereth to you the Spirit, and worketh miracles among you, doeth he it by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith?" [Gal 3:1-5]
Do you rely upon the Christian Mingles of this world to be your guide in life?
