Author	Thread: Dating Again?........
Admin	Dating Again?........ Posted : 24 Jan, 2009 11:58 AM Well it's been almost two years since I have been out on a date...Would like to date again , but when I start talking to someone I really start to like ,it is really akward for me because I have been away from the dating circuit for awhile. I would rather be myself then play mind games to get a guy to like me. Is this what it is like?Any thoughts or suggestions?:waving: Godbless, Arlena Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 24 Jan, 2009 12:16 PM I say there is no need for mind games or trying to get someone to like you. Just be yourself and he will either like you or not based on who you are. If he does not don't take personally, he was not right for you anyway. God bless you, Lydia Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 24 Jan, 2009 01:53 PM Those are words to live by, yet it 's like learning to walk all over again...thing is , I just don't want to do the random dating scene. Would like to meet the right guy. Just wish there were an easier way.... Godbless you Lydia, Best Regards, Arlena Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 24 Jan, 2009 01:53 PM Those are words to live by, yet it 's like learning to walk all over again...thing is , I just don't want to do the random dating scene. Would like to meet the right guy. Just wish there were an easier way.... Godbless you Lydia, Best Regards, Arlena Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 24 Jan, 2009 06:14 PM Lydia, I just want to say that your response to my thread was a Real blessing.:angel: Thanks again:glow: God Bless, Arlena Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 24 Jan, 2009 09:20 PM When I started dating again (last October) it had been 'many' years since I'd been in that position (and thought I never would be again). First guy I went out with, I was a nervous wreck. Was so close to just cancelling, but told myself I had to just try. Well, the man shows up 1/2 hour 'early' (so not a good thing for me ~ I'm a last minute kinda girl...ha!). I don't have a bit of make-up on...and open the door to a man standing there with not 1, but 2 dozen beautiful roses...ahhh. He even complimented me on how great I looked without the make-up. Within a few minutes the nerves were gone ~ and by time dinner was finished I was feeling pretty darn confident. Too bad the guy just wasn't the 'right one' for me...as he was so nice and such a complete gentleman. Unfortunately by the 3rd date I knew it just wasn't gonna happen. Wish the men I've met since were all as sweet though. Most are just way to 'fast'. Anyway ~ just wanted to motivate you to get through that 'first' tough one. Glad I made myself do so. Post Reply
ephesians522 View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 24 Jan, 2009 09:54 PM Arlena, It's been some time since I've had a date, it went well and we did talk after it, but we just faded away from each other. I can handle myself on a date, be entertaining, proper, interesting. But I have to say, I empathize with you. After the first date, if there is nothing there I won't arrange another one. I would probably go out with the person again and give it another shot if they initiated the next date. Funny, I won't date from the congregation. Guess I see it awkward, like dating someone from work. If the expectations aren't met then you still have to see those individuals on a regular basis. Dealing with people on a one to one basis is different than interacting in a group setting. I mean, what if you really like them and they don't feel the same way about you (above being social that is)? Then you have to look at them with a little longing in your heart. Do you understand what I mean? I guess we just have to play the cards as they are being dealt, trust in God. Maybe the best date would be to meet for breakfast before mid-morning worship service. Invite someone who doesn't attend our church and have them sit next to us after breakfast. Would definately see where their heart is and if nothing comes out of it, we don't have to feel awkward. Shalom Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 25 Jan, 2009 04:30 AM A man showing up at my door with two-dozen roses....Hmmm, sounds like a great dream to me or even to pick me up for a first date. Because usually it does'nt make it that far....I just get nervous when I am talking to a guy I really like and for some reason, I don't know how to act. That is why I say it's like learning to walk all over again . funny, how I can handle the pressures that go along with being a single-mom but don't even know how the rules of the dating-game go. It should'nt be like that. But, for some reason, it is. I just want to be able to be myself and not get nervous when I am talking with someone I like. and for someone to like me for who I am . That is why I am completely honest and upfront about me and my son . Thank you and Godbless, Arlena Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 25 Jan, 2009 05:02 AM That's a great Idea, invite someone to church service. But I don't get a chance to go to church very often. My son has a nuerological disorder which prevents that for the time being, I say time being because I believe in my heart that God is going to completely heal my son. Needless to say, between appointments with specialists and trying to obtain services for my son, I have not much time to get out into the social world. But there will come a time when me and my son will be able to venture out more. Best Regards and GodBless, Arlena Post Reply
evona View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 26 Jan, 2009 07:16 PM amen to that sister! you know if someone fits like a glove just relax and enjoy i have met so many great brothers in Christ and we have become fast friends and it is assuring to know that in Jesus there is not much that can go sour of course the exceptions always happen met only one brother who turned out to be just rude but hey God is in control so just be happy and enjoy Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Again?........ Posted : 27 Jan, 2009 08:45 AM Dear Evona, Thanks so much sister, I keep getting blessed with such encouraging messages.:applause: I have so much on my plate right now, that I am going to have to start limiting my time on the forum. But, it is such a real blessing to know that there are prayers being sent up to heaven for me and my son from real prayer warriors. God bless you sister Evona, Arlena Post Reply

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