I come across men who want the perfect woman. They want her to always LOOK a certain way on the outside. This is so Carnal. What about the INSIDE? The WORD says Man looks on the outside, but God looks on the HEART.
Are we suposed to strive to be like Jesus, be more like God?
Sometimes those women who LOOK so perfect and physically formed on the outside are really Messed up on the inside, even some Christian women.
I would like to also ask men: "Are you the perfect person inside and out that you seek? Are your looks, personality, and Spirit up to the same snuff that you want in a woman? Or do you have a Double standard? Does God like double standards? I think Not. "A double minded man is unstable in all his ways, and shall receive Nothing from the Lord."
This is WORD.
So some of you are missing out on a good relationships because you will not take a chance on a not so perfect looking woman. Some of us have self-esteems and personalities that are bigger then life, reflecting the Love and ways of our Lord. Think about it.:angel::yay:
I wish more men liked a larger woman instead of the Barbie doll types. I can pretty much out do most women half my size in any physical activity. I have also been an ordained minister since the age of about 23. I am not the perfect Christian, nor person. I am very unconventional by most standards, not pious, stuck up, or the Holier then thou type, but REALLY free in the Lord. I do not like people who are so heavenly minded they are no earthly good.
I have read some profiles of guys who seem to want the perfect Godly woman, in Body first, then spirit and soul. I want to tell them, give me a break, are you perfect, and just looking at the pictures, if they even have one, I can answer a big, fat, NO!!:ROFL:
It does make me laugh, because one guy says he is really lonely and hates rejection, but he has already rejected most the ladies who would be interested in him by what he has to say on his profile. It is really sad. I just feel sorry for him.
I just try to LOVE and treat people as Jesus would want. I always ask the Father what to do in almost every situation, and have Faith that the Word works, no matter what. I live my life by Proverb 3:5&6, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not to your own understanding, in all your way acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path.
Great point Cat, I have to wonder how many of us, man and woman, would reject our perfect mate if God did send them, and why, because they aren't rich enough, thin enough, they don't wear the right clothes, maybe their profile is too vague with no picture at all, or maybe they are so busy telling us what they want, that we cannot see who they are.
Sometimes I think I may reject them out of that spirit of fear that I was not given by God, but I did find somehow through man. Twice in the last month I have had two very nice guys look really deeply into my eyes, good Christian men that I really like too, but I just felt a shock wave go through me for my trust issues go way back to being a small child and though I struggle to overcome them, those things are so tough. I do so very well with people at an arms length, but the minute they are closer than that, I live in a silent panic that I try to breath through but its tough.
I could see myself rejecting that perfect man the Lord might send me by self sabotage. I have to wonder if others aren't doing the same thing in their own way as well often times. I would like very much to just get to know local Christians an be friends and do things and get to know each other on group activity levels, but most of the local guys don't even acknowledge the women close enough to get to know, even when there is clearly some common interests. Wouldn't it just be GREAT to find new friends in Christ while you wait on "the one"? I think so, but apparently others do not necessarily think that way.
Unfortunately for those that seek the PERFECT one, if they ever find them, they will probably be rejected for that individual is also seeking the PERFECT one, and they are just not it.
Wouldn't it be awesome to just find someone that you can say, "I know you aren't perfect, and I'm not either, but I truly like being around you, and I like the way I feel when we are together."
I think that would be a wonderful start to something that just might be the best thing that could ever happen to us.
The girl with the barbie doll figure and the designer name does not live here, but this woman who loves the Lord and seeks Him in all things big and small does, and her Heart is more beautiful that she ever was in her younger days when she did have that figure of a model, and ways of a lost soul.
Wouldn't it be wonderful to find a woman that challenges your mind and lifts up that your thinking to a closer walk with your Savior? To me, that is the perfect man to lead my house, one who is ever growing in his relationship with His Almighty God and Savior. A man with a Heart to Rejoice is a Beautiful thing to behold and admire. I will not settle for a man that cannot be that, for the Lord wants him to lead the house unto His Glory.
(And they all lived happily ever after......Tarasye.....Time for me to wake up now and smell the coffee maybe huh?)
If God were to tell you to go find yourself another car and not to worry about the cost. What kind of car would you choose?
I believe the majority of us would pick out the car we have always wanted. With all the features and doo-dads and comforts. It is human nature to have ideals.
The reality is that when faced with options we choose either with our heads or our hearts or with the flesh.
The head is capable of horrible mistakes and the flesh leads down a vain, superficial, slippery slope.
It is only through the Heart that has been given to Christ, that we make decisions that Edify us and Glorify Christ.
That means surrendering your will to His Wil -- your heart to His Heart.
It really is not that easy to do acconplish and yet it is the simplest thing to do. May we all strive to be there.
This is why I believe prayer and God need to be involved in directing your steps to a mate or him to you. God knows who will "fit" us like a glove and will direct our steps as His word says if we wait on Him.
I have dated a few guys that were attracted to my looks but really never asked me about me~or my family~my interests~dislikes~ and wanted to get to know the inside of the package. Like they say~when you marry someone~you marry the family, too, and should want to know about them unless they are criminal or something~~:laugh:~~ Anyway, that is a huge drawing factor for me when a man will have a stimulating conversation with me and actually be interested in the DETAILS of me and my life.
You really can fall for someone that you did not find very attractive but their personality is so beautiful and Christlike that you fall hard for them and find them to be the most beautiful of handsome one on this earth. :applause:
If they are looking for eye candy then it will be evident real soon~ a person that considers cheating or losing interest due to unforseen things happening like gaining weight from a health problem~there is no GOOD reason to gain large amounts of weight unless it can't be helped. Or other reason like age and they all of a sudden~wanta younger looking girl?~~All I have to say is~ SHALLOW~~:rolleyes:~
And if they cheat because of ANY other reason?~not acceptable~flawed character in my eyes. Pray for them, then~~I did it for 27 years in my first marriage due to my ex being involved in many un attractive things.Satan did tempt me to cheat for sure but a child of God will feel the conviction when they begin to stray and WILL go back to prayer and trusting God to deliver them out of it or through it.
Granted looks are a factor and not EVERYONE likes the same thing and if a person does not attempt to take care of themselves, like eat healthy, exercise often,excessive weight gain that could be controlled~ manners, good hygiene, teeth, good attitude~ temperament~those all make or break it for me.
Rejoice that God is protecting you from a real Shmuck and has that "one" for you. Preaching to the choir here~again. :)
Well, no one is perfect. I'm not looking for a fashion model. Morals and values are more of a concern to me. Although, it is a combination of physical, emotional, and intellectual attraction. But the I would say, personally, the attribute I find most attractive in a woman, is the one who loves and serves the Lord with all her heart, and truly wants to serve him, in all honesty. I appreciate someone who is real, and is not two faced when they are in public and when they are in private. That is my two cents anyway, bah.
im totally agree with you. There still in this world men and women that gives a priority to the outer body. and its sad to see that there are man that called themselves Christians and act as if they were on the World.
We most pray God so He will change the way humans value each other and to make us avoid thus that Heart and values are like the world. I guess thus are the hypocrites that Jesus talked about.
Let�s pray to God to forgive thus people and learn to value the God caring men and women that have CHRISTIAN VALUES and still exist.
God its good and have for everyone what they deserve, but since we live by GRACE and are sons and daughters of God we deserved THE BEST.
Let�s TRUST Jesus choices for us.
God blessyou all and enjoy the journey of living and Serving The LORD JESUSCHRIST.
