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musician47 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 8 Dec, 2022 04:52 PM This really isn't anything out of the ordinary, but FWIW, I'll stick it on here. I started chatting with a lady on a Malaysian island a few weeks ago. As with all, she started out being very nice and saying things like she wished she had've been born in the US so we could meet, I had nice looking parents, she would cook delicious meals for me etc. But times were hard for her, she was having to move every year, and just a lot of "If it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all" stuff. It got to where the "Morning"'s and Good evenings soon dropped,d (she would just let in griping with the first sentence of every email) then first thing I knew, her emails became so depressing and complaining, (about me mostly!) it was becoming unpleasant to read. I did all in my power to give her encouragement, support, even prayed for her, but it cut no ice. It meant nothing to her. She attended two churches, yet I couldn't see God in her words. Knowing times were bad, I offered to not write as often, and she snapped back, "do as you choose" (That was the same dry, tacky wording she used when I told her I had printed off her picture). I reached the point I was tired of having my caring and kindness thrown back in my face, with no gratitude from this "poor soul" at all, only anger and bitterness. It blew up, with her blocking me, me blocking her, and I see where she deleted her account here. At least she had enough good sense to do THAT. That tells me she may have an inkling that she does indeed have issues rooted deep. The in common thing to this one and the other one who had me crying for a week, was this one single thing: Both of them had lived through a horrendous marriage, emerging full of hate and bitterness, probably toward all men, possibly without even realizing it. That's where their replying to me and being nice "at first" is a big mystery. Both this one and the other one last summer had bad marriages, divorced or not. Instead of seeking counseling first, THEN coming on a dating site, they hit the dating site circuits first, doing it all in reverse. This is not a counseling site nor is it a site to take your bad marriages out on men or women, whichever sex it happens to be who was done wrong. One thing in common for me, the more caring and nice I am to these kind, the quicker they turn on me like snakes. I can't/won't do it again. This last one did it. I have a caring compassionate heart as God wants us to, but it cuts no ice with a broken human being who no more belongs here than playing in 5:00 traffic. This is NOT the place to come if you are coming out of, or are IN a bad marriage. GET COUNSELING FIRST (THERAPY) Get straightened out, get well, THEN think about joining a dating site. We are here to meet someone for a friendship, marriage, or whatever God wills NOT to be a cat to kick, a whipping boy or target for your pent up aggression and bitterness, coming out of a bad marriage where you hate your ex with a purple passion. Thank you all for allowing me my thoughts on this very sad epidemic I am seeing here. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 9 Dec, 2022 09:04 AM Some people have experienced similar things they just don't post on any forums. Some women think older men have lots of money to spend. What they they don't realize many many Poor men in USA all ages. And cost if living is on the Rise. This site is Slow,so I Post every where often. Best to you musician Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 9 Dec, 2022 09:59 AM Forums are open for All, Anyone anytime. Many not interested. Hundreds just use the Apps! People don't have to agree ! Post Reply
musician47 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 9 Dec, 2022 12:59 PM No worries, Moonlight. You're a good kid! El Huggos! 😊 Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 9 Dec, 2022 01:03 PM Thanks Musician I like you too ☺️ I get misjudged by some on the forums. I don't care. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 9 Dec, 2022 01:05 PM Sometimes people are mean and just jealousy. This community is not Christian. More Secular folks here . Post Reply
musician47 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 9 Dec, 2022 01:52 PM That's sure right. The ingredients aren't what the site label says. 😉 Post Reply
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 2 Jan, 2023 08:10 PM No offense, but I would not go for any Asian women on islands. They prey on American men for money. My dad had a friend who married an Asian woman and it was the bigfest headache ever plus she took all of his money and was "bitter" because she was poor. Don't get sucked into the trap and consider this a blessing! Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 7 Jan, 2023 08:48 AM Some American men think Asian women are more submissive as a wife. I know a man who married a much younger Asian woman and she and he didn't get along she left him. Moved to another city . He fly to Philippines married her and brought her to USA. This man was no rich but worked . He was in his 30's It's all about Choice. Risks in any relationship. Post Reply
Alligator View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 26 Jan, 2023 10:51 PM Musician, you have a very nice profile. I do see you flat out said you will not be a free ride for a foreign woman to get to the United States. It seems the lady you discussed was looking for exactly that...a free ride to get here. I would suggest that you not even visit with foreigners. Stick to whoever might contact you within the USA. A long time ago I was almost scammed by a foreign man. The only way to make certain is to simply delete those writers who live across the ocean. Post Reply
Guitargirl68 View Profile History	Pattern Continues Posted : 4 Feb, 2023 10:32 AM I also know of a marriage that was between a man I was seeing, after the fact, and a women from Moldova. She used him to get here. Then soon was the bride from hell. They divorced. I don't understand going across the ocean. The only one I know of that was a successful marriage was with a man and a women who had been here for two years already and working and very well established. I don't even want to go out of state!!! LOL Post Reply

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