Author	Thread: Proper Way for Christian Dating
joice30 View Profile History	Proper Way for Christian Dating Posted : 29 Apr, 2014 06:56 AM Just wanted to share this thought from a brother in our Church... Many young Christians ask the question, "How far should I go on a date?" The Bible actually don't give the precedence on dating at all, so in general it is best to minimize that. Look at the example of Isaac and Rebekah. Here are some Biblical principles that will help you to decide what is appropriate behavior on a date.: I. Christians should only date other Christians. Although it is fine for Christians to have non-Christian friends, those who are especially close to our heart should be mature believers who are seeking to follow Christ with their lives. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Cor.6:14) This is NOT a small matter as this was what brought about the great displeasure of God upon His people to where He judged them as shown in the picture of the O.T.! And this was what brought the downfall of God's people by Balaam's suggestion to Balak. II. Guard your heart. The Bible tells us to be very careful about giving our affections, because our heart influences everything else in our life. "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Prov.4:23) We need to be aware that sin is first committed in the heart; thus we should not even entertain the thought! "Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an action and you reap a destiny." Matt 5:28 says , " But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." III. Avoid Situations of Temptations I Cor.6:18 says to "flee from sexual immorality." 2 Tim 2:22 1 Thes 5:22. We cannot do this if we are tempting ourselves through carelessness. IV. What kind of reputation does my potential date have? When you accept a date you are essentially saying, "My values are the same as your values" That in itself can put you in a position you may regret later. Remember 1 Cor 15:33, " Bad company corrupts good character." V. Are you going to the right kind of place and setting for a date? Many good intentions have been forgotten because the temptation and opportunity were too great. Based on the principles of 1 Thes. 5:22, we need to practice the following: 1. Always go with a chaperon on a date. 2. Am I doing anything to encourage sexual desire? Don't engage in any impure contact that is sexually motivated, such as petting. Best to avoid any physical contact at all.1 Cor.7:1"...It is good for a man NOT to touch a woman." VI. What is True Love? No such thing as love on 1st sight...that is lust on 1st sight. 1 Cor.13:4-7 defines real love.Ask yourself these questions: * Are you patient? * Are you kind to each other? * Are you never envious of each other? * Do you never boast to or about each other? * Is your relationship characterized by humility? Opposite of which is pride. One manifestation of pride is asserting your ways regardless of consequences. * Are you not self-seeking? * Are you not easily angered with each other? * Do you keep no record of wrongs? * Are you truthful with each other? * Do you protect each other? This includes protecting the virginity of each other till marriage. * Are you self-sacrificial and self-denying? * Love is unconditional If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship. If you answered "no" to any above questions, then it is not true love but lust. True love is not instant but grows over time. People can even learn to love their pet dog or cat over time, all the more true love for a person is developed over time. That is also why 1st on the list above is "patient". Post Reply
View Profile History	Proper Way for Christian Dating Posted : 24 Jun, 2014 02:29 AM I fully agree with the advises given above. They are fully Biblical and wothy to be followed by all who love the LORD for their own benefits and blessing. "To touch a woman" in the reference 1 Cor 7:1 does not mean just touch a woman physically. The context shows that it meant to live in a married relationship. People were expecting the imminent coming of Christ and in that context it would be more convenient not to enter into a marriage relationship. Paul was saying that even in the situation they found themselves, it would not be wrong to get married but it would be better if they live unmarried ( with the expectation that Christ�s coming is near). When one is not encumbered with a family, one has more time and possibility to serve the LORD fully. George Betel E-mail: [email protected] Post Reply

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