This is for the new folks to Internet dating, who have not yet received enough of these 'scripts' to recognize them immediately and take appropriate action.
How To Recognize A Scammer Message
I received yet another one of these just today, and decided to copy and paste it here as an example of what they look like.
As you read the following message, pay attention to the obvious clues, especially how it is so very vague that it can be used over and over, to message any woman on any dating site, without making any changes to the script. MEN: I am sure you've seen similar scripts written specifically to men, but since I am female, this is what I received.
"Hello Pretty,
How're you doing out there? i really
hope you're cool, actually i'm a new member of this
site and i find your profile quite impressive i'm
here to make friends or something more, and i think
you're cool with your profile when i saw you on here,
i'm a widower with a lonely heart, and you're
probably the first person i'm mailing on this site
cause i find your profile quite impressive and
interesting. You'll make a smile out of me if you can
find a spare time to mail or text me 626 656 3472
back............Best of luck and good wishes........."
Notice how the script is just flattering enough without including any specific details from your profie to indicate that it's an authentic site user writing to you. Because, ultimately, it's NOT an authentic user writing to you. It's someone trying to profit from collecting your personally-identifiable contact information for sale to advertisers or to those who sell email or phone contact info to advertisers (list sellers).
Of course, that is only one method they use to profit from messaging you. The other method is conning you directly out of your hard-earned money by chatting with you for a while, then giving you a sad-sack story of their "critial need" for emergency funds. They will request you wire money to them, or send them a personal check; and make all manner of promises to pay you back. But, regardless of how heartbreaking the story, do NOT fall for it! You will not see your money ever again.
So, if anyone sends you a message similar to this, remember this example and the clues I've provided here, and do not fall for it. If you have the need to chat with them, insist they use CDFF's messaging application! That is your protection from sending a stranger your private contact information--and also from letting them scam you out of your money.
Be safe, everyone! Godly blessings to all my brothers and sisters on CDFF!
I think I have just been getting lucky in the fact that when they have messaged me, they "divulge" where they are at or live but their profile lists another place. One guy listed Louisiana as his state and when he messaged me he said he lived in California. He has since been banned. It was the guy I mentioned earlier. I always watch how they word things, spell words and the slang they use, especially for the age they have given.
I will have to try the Firefox trick to check their pics. All the scamming makes it difficult to trust someone you are talking to that may be a true member of the site.
Hello ladies...very helpful information there..thanks! Cat, everything you have stated is spot on..couldn't have been put any better! I've had afew of those too, especially someone immediately asking for my skype, yahoo, gmail etc., saying that this site is abit 'slow' on their device or something of that nature. The first time I thought, ok, could be...but when a 2nd and 3rd person asked even for my phone number and went like, "Text me anytime" when we had barely even talked on here besides one 'hello' message..I thought it quite strange. So I just insisted on chatting here first for some time. What d'you know? They never spoke to me again! hehehehe. Good riddance anyway :) Stay blessed.xx
Thank you for the information. I am new to the website about a week.
I had three men message me and immediately wanted my e-mail address. Two of the e-mail messages were caught and the members were banned immediately.
The second man immediately gave his e-mail address so we communicate out of the website. He gave me information about his self but still wanted to communicate out of CDFF website. I would not give him my personal e-mail.
I feel if you have nothing to hide you should be willing to use the messaging provided by CDFF.
