Author	Thread: Are You Some Man's Toilet?
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 10 Jan, 2013 04:02 PM Recently, I went on a coffee date with a man � that sounds strange even as I read it on paper. Strange that I felt the need to clarify that it was a man and even stranger that I went out on a date. You see, I was married for over 20 years to the same man so I decided that I needed to explore what the dating scene looked like after being off of the market for over 20 years. Let me add that I had been divorced for over two years and separated before that for four, so I was well healed before taking this route. Needless to say, I didn�t know exactly where to begin � Did I join some mega-million dollar dating site and put up a profile? Did I wait patiently for God to bring somebody? Did I church hop and pray? Did I just sit at home and eat bonbons? What were my options? Truthfully, way too many options are out there. Some way too much money and others � well, they are just a place for �scammer�s� to look for vulnerable and emotionally unstable people to prey upon. It can be really scary and confusing � Mike, that�s what we�ll call him, was a nice looking guy, well-groomed, educated and he loved to travel. Actually, that was what drew me to him, the travel part � I love to travel. Well, that and the line in his profile that said something along the lines of �Chivalry lives �� So, when he invited me for coffee I accepted. Anyway, he was my first coffee date experience. Honestly, I was a bit nervous but once there � it was like riding a bike. Conversation, light laughter and then � we got to the heart of the man or should I say � men. Don�t ask me how but we got on the topic of sexual intimacy. Now, let me tell you that I am an advocate of purity and intimacy being reserved for the marriage bed. I don�t hide my beliefs and they are clearly written there on my profile for anybody that wants to read it. It is non-negotiable as far as I am concerned and I made that perfectly clear to Mike. Mike proceeded to tell me that, �Dr. Ruth says that you shouldn�t buy a pair of shoes until you try them on first.� Did he just call me a shoe? Really, I wasn�t offended � I mean if I look like a pair of men�s shoes � Well, you get the point. I just thought to myself � I am not a man�s pair of shoes to be tried on and discarded because I don�t fit � and I hope that the woman who is willing to be that pair of shoes insists that he wears socks. What about Athlete�s Foot for goodness sake? Some fungus� are impossible to get rid of � they just keep spreading. Mike had just returned from the restroom when we started discussing the topic of sexual intimacy and purity. He asked me what I taught and I told him that I teach purity to young girls and women because we as women don�t value ourselves � giving away that which should be treasured because we think that will bind the man�s heart to us. We discussed how when we women sleep with someone, we (not all but most) if we are really honest become emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually invested when we are intimate. Men, � well, it just doesn�t work the same way for them � They just aren�t wired like we are and the sooner we acknowledge that well-known fact the better off we will be and our daughters will be as well. Brace yourselves, ladies because this is what he shared with me and told me to tell you. He said, �I just got back from using the restroom, right?� I thought that was a rather odd thing to say but I was curious so I played along and said, �Yes.� He said, �Well, I went into that bathroom and it was a nice bathroom. I used the toilet and completed my business. I washed my hands and I walked out of the bathroom. Right?� Well, at this point I was thinking, �I certainly hope so � I mean I hope that you washed your hands.� But I didn�t say that, I said, �Yes.� He then proceeded to tell me that was how it was for �some� men when they have sex with a woman. He said, (and I admit I am paraphrasing because I was amazed that he was bold enough but candid as well as honest enough to tell the truth on the matter) � �Unless, we are emotionally invested in a woman then it is just like doing our business in a bathroom toilet of a preferred restaurant. We go in we use the �facility�, we clean ourselves up and we leave. We aren�t thinking about that bathroom toilet anymore � we aren�t wondering who is using that toilet, what that toilet is doing right now or remembering anything special about that toilet � We have taken care of our basic need to release and after that we are done. Unless, for some reason we need to use that toilet again.� Now, you are probably thinking like I was � �WOW, you are really a piece of work and not to mention disgusting.� Honestly though, I had to admit that I was grateful to him. I wasn�t angry with him � I was appreciative he had confirmed that my teaching was warranted. In sharing that truth with me, he had basically told me to ask women everywhere this question � �Are you some man�s toilet?� And so, I am � I dare to ask you that question � Are you some man�s toilet or perhaps, you are a pair of shoes? Personally, I don�t intend to be either one and I hope that more women will choose the harder, less traveled road of keeping themselves � it is a matter that goes beyond self-esteem and self-respect. Now, I dare you to be honest with yourself � �Are you???� Thanks, Mike ... It says in Song of Solomon several times (Chapters and verses 2:7, 3:5 & 8:4) � �Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.� If you ever wondered why ... it was for our protection but if you don't believe me ... perhaps, you need to read this again. Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 01:29 PM Amen! You are the daughter of the King and deserve to be treated as such ... a treasure which of great value. Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 01:30 PM Sadly, he was claiming to be a Christian which makes it even more damaging. A woman that believes that he is could deeply wounded if she is not discerning. Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 01:31 PM Sadly, he was claiming to be a Christian which makes it even more damaging. A woman that believes that he is could deeply wounded if she is not discerning. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 15 Jan, 2013 01:37 PM Yeah, I sure hope he realizes that it's not possible to go through life like that without seriously hurting someone. Maybe someone he is interested in and cares about will treat him like that and then just leave....I doubt he will enjoy it. :peace::peace: Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 16 Jan, 2013 08:52 AM True,you can't go through life like that without reaping what you have sown. I wouldn't want that particular harvest. Post Reply
LovinLife2012 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 23 Jan, 2013 09:08 AM Wow, thanks for sharing. I almost past this by and Im so glad I didnt! I also made a promise to stay pure. This is something that I struggle with! I know that God always gives us a way out of our temptation tho. The best thing for me is to not even put myself in the position of the triggers that tempt me. With that said, I feel like dating is not for me cuz a kiss can eventually lead to so much so ive been asking/praying if kissing is wrong in a relationship....probably a subject for a new forum...lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 23 Jan, 2013 06:12 PM When a man cherishes a woman he will protect her even from his own desires. This is the true mark of love. Take it from a man who has failed at this and now finds sucess. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 26 Jan, 2013 10:42 AM I am not surprises but it really great experience and sharing. I experienced this things before. I not regret but the same time I felt grateful meet some guy like that, sis. He make me realize that many men proclaim them as a Christian but not really mean it. Its totally open my eye. This kind of guy seriously ruined this CDFF, sis. No wonder some of us here cannot stay longer and dont have value to believe on CDFF. Post Reply
algomaboy View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 27 Jan, 2013 09:36 AM a friend of mine use to talk to his daughters dates. he was cleaning his shotgun everytime.Only one boy returned for a second date. maybe more fathers should try this. Post Reply
pearl1765 View Profile History	Are You Some Man's Toilet? Posted : 29 Jan, 2013 08:20 PM LovingLife2012, you are very welcome. It is eye opening to know that some men (not all) think this way. Always remember that you are a treasure to Him. Post Reply

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