Author	Thread: Not really a dating story
Apostelle View Profile History	Not really a dating story Posted : 29 Aug, 2012 10:55 AM This is more of a story about how I got to where I am than any particular dating/courting story. I grew up poor as dirt. This is important because it shaped my life. My parents seperated when my mom was about 4 months pregnant with me. Growing up, we rarely had things. There were times when my mother, and grandparents, could not afford to feed all of us, so the adults went without food for days. They didnt like "being on the dole", aka welfare. Many years I went to school wearing my brother's hand me downs. They were sometimes covered in patches and it wasnt "a style" or "trendy" at that time. This was the 1970's and jobs, especially jobs in the South, were very hard to find. Now, my mother is only 5' tall, a very petite woman. My father paid $26 a week in child support. There was no alimony. I watched my mother take every job she could find. Textile work, driving a dump truck, hauling cardboard to the recycler, scrubbing toilets, anything to take care of her family. 12-16 hours a day sometimes. I watched her age prematurely because of the brutal, physical labor she had to do. Work, that I can honestly say, would have broken many men. In late 1974, she was diagnosed with cancer. She beat it. Three weeks after the surgery, she was working full time again. Six of us lived in a two bedroom house. My mother, brother, sister, and I shared one small bedroom. My grandparents had the other bedroom. God always saw us through even the most horrific incidents. For a short time, one of our cousins and her three children were being mentally and physical abused by her husband and they lived with us in that same small house. The reason I mentioned all this is because this is the reason I am in my current situation. As I grew older, and watched what she did for us, I determined that future my wife would never have to go through that. My future wife would never fall asleep sitting in the driveway after working 16 hours. My future wife's stomach wouldnt growl because she would rather starve than see her children go without food. Our children wouldnt wear hand me downs. I decided that I would be financially stable enough to take care of my family before I ever thought about getting married. Over the years I have had a couple of setbacks. I lost my job and home in the late 80's and was unable to finish school for many years. A similar set of circumstances happened again in the 90's. But I learned from those incidents. One of the most important lessons I learned from my mother was to adapt. To roll with the punches life sometimes sends your way, but above all, to always trust in God. Now, I am 44 years old. In the late 90's my mother's health started to really decline, so I moved her in with me. I grew up in church and was born again when I was 13. My mother and grandmother taught me to look for a specific type of woman. Someone who loves God as much as I do. Someone who has never been married. Someone who is a virgin, as I am. Unfortunately, I am now too old for that type of woman. I have all but given up trying to find the woman God has fashioned for me. Ive worked hard all my life and now that I have reached my goal of being able to take care of a family, I am unable to find the one for me. I did not write this for others to feel sorry for me. I wrote this as a warning to others. Live for today, God will provide for tomorrow. If you dont, one day you may look up from your labors and realize that life has passed you by. May God bless you and comfort you. William Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Not really a dating story Posted : 31 Aug, 2012 03:22 PM Thank you, emilyk. Post Reply
Savida View Profile History	Not really a dating story Posted : 1 Sep, 2012 05:44 PM Apostelle, God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above everything we can ask or imagine. And He is well capable of bringing you the type of woman you seek. God bless you. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Not really a dating story Posted : 2 Sep, 2012 07:58 AM I wholeheartedly agree, Savida. Blessings to you, sister. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not really a dating story Posted : 21 Mar, 2013 08:37 AM 2013 ?? and u tryin to get virgin wife ok. sorry u just too conservative.and im curious why u wanted to get virgin one? whether if u have virgin one as ur wife, are u sure she will nice as in fairy tale book? i feel sorry but u need to meet alot of people. many virgin out there more evil than non virgin. i think the most important thing to u rite now is to know many people out there.a even bible doesn't teach us being conservative person. Post Reply

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