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Admin	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 2 May, 2020 09:20 AM Well... I get winks, sometimes. I usually respond with the truth. Something like, 'thank you for the wink, but I have no feelings towards you', etc. It acknowledges, is direct, and polite. But, I don't reply to a wink from a divorced or separated woman. Why? We can debate scripture, but I don't reply because the woman didn't read my profile, but just replied to my picture. My profile is clear that I will not pursue a divorced woman or a separated woman for marriage. Now, these are touchy subjects. Nonetheless, it's my view. I"m not arguing about a justification of divorce, but my view of not marrying a divorced woman. So, if a divorced person writes me, I may write back, but it's not for potential marriage. A wink, especially, no reply. So, commenting on a look is never enough. Reading a profile helps you, me, and creates a better chance of meeting similar view responses. Post Reply
T0TH3M4X View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 2 May, 2020 11:13 AM Quick, hide before someone reads what you said. :) Seriously, I understand where you're coming from. These can be heated topics though. If you use the app, you'll get hit with more winks and messages. Usually I get a lot of winks from women from Africa. I have no issue with a woman being from Africa, but it's not really in a region I'm looking to date someone from because I'm not planning to fly there anytime soon and it seems a bit far. Of course I try not to say I won't do something or that it's impossible, or God sometimes will take me out of my comfort zone and put me in that situation. Post Reply
View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 2 May, 2020 12:53 PM Yes, heated topics. I"m not worried though, about being challenged. I put it out there, to see where people are at, and maybe, to be a catalyst. Sometimes, the unsaid is worse. People carry a lot of pain, sometimes. We're also here to love one another and try to figure out God's Word. I almost feel like moving to S.Africa. :) Go figure. On that note: Can you imagine me in S.Africa? I find her, and she is oblivious, and, my spiel: . "Hey, I happen to be in the neighbourhood. No, I"m not I"m not from here, how can you tell? The accent, right. Would you like to go for a coffee? Go fly a kite, mister." Acck! My head is ticking $$$$ from the flight costs. Or, another scenario: " Hey, I was in the neighbourhood, and may I ask if you're single and available for coffee? Sure, I'd love to go for coffee, you're so cute, tee, hee." Okay, it would not be that sappy, I am a bit slow on the uptake at introductions and small talk. But, once the conversation got going, it would get interesting. Maybe I"ll start saving up a few Canuck dollars for a flight, once that Covid-19 blows over. Post Reply
T0TH3M4X View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 2 May, 2020 01:02 PM I keep zero expectations with anybody I don't know when it comes to dating. You just never know how someone is going to respond, and even if they do respond, sometimes they're not what you thought they would be. The frustrating part is I don't want to make anybody feel like they're "not good enough", but some women scare me. Even if they mean well, sometimes it's "crazy" meaning well. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 2 May, 2020 01:33 PM Loud and clear. Post Reply
Alligator View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 4 May, 2020 10:31 PM actually, i agree with both of you. I get lonely sometimes, but i am not desperate. However, I think I get MORE than my share of men who are desperate --in the second conversation they want to get married. they don't know anything about me. I have one man I had to block because my polite NO just simply could not be understood. Now to him, I''m probably the witch of the north -- or west or wherever that hated Dorothy. Sometimes i have to think that I should be rude in return....but that feels uncomfortable to me. The men in question have been rejected or injured somehow and I dont want to add to that. but i ALSO don't want myself in a position I dont want. I am beginning to think that Thanks for the note, but right now I am not interested. ... and just not answer any follow-up quiz. Post Reply

T0TH3M4X View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 5 May, 2020 05:02 AM needsafriend, I know you are a kind person, so I hope you can manage to avoid the wackos. I think when you're 20 years old it can be easier because you most likely haven't been through enough relationships, but as time goes on , we all have that experience that can loom with it. Some move past it, and others carry it with them endlessly. The trick is finding someone who is actually ready to leave to past in the past and move forward. :) Post Reply
alekk3 View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 9 May, 2020 04:00 AM I almost feel like moving to S.Africa. :) Go figure. On that note: Can you imagine me in S.Africa? I find her, and she is oblivious, and, my spiel: Have you communicated with this woman you have a "crush" on in South Africa? If you have not communicated with this woman; I can't see how you carry feelings for a woman you have never communicated with. You have to be careful. That is not healthy. Post Reply
NarnianGirl View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 29 May, 2020 03:20 AM Hahaha! Some of your replies are just great There is no need to respond to any wink, or message, if it makes you feel bad.. The whole wink thing - honestly, why not just send a simple message instead, saying 'Hi, I am so and so, would like to talk with you'? I get so many winks from Africa, and even messages - but I don't reply to the ones which clearly are just looking for visa / passport to Europe. And .. divorced men are a big YELLOW flag. I have met my share of them on social media and Christian sites. No matter how polished they appear at first, there always seems to be some manipulation at some point... either they just look for an ego boost, or or.. No judgement from me. but we all have our experiences and preferences. Post Reply
View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 29 May, 2020 08:05 AM Perhaps you've had bad experiences with divorced men, but don't stereotype. Post Reply
NarnianGirl View Profile History	I reply to almost everyone, it's polite, but what about the 'almost'? Posted : 29 May, 2020 01:19 PM I remain open for a case by case basis, but am also allowed to guard myself from those who have a history of several failed marriages. Post Reply