Author	Thread: Searching for love
Admin	Searching for love Posted : 28 Aug, 2014 02:41 AM We meet on this site and soon got talking by email then on chat and before I could think we were falling in love. He expressed his love for me and I for him. It was like a whirl wind romance. Then he had to move country for work and I had to go back to my home country for a funeral in the family. We decided it would be better to chat on fb and so we joined each others account. He didn't have one but made up one so's we could chat. We never communicated much in that couple of weeks and when I came back home we did more regularly but still not the same. By this time we had been communicating for at least 10 weeks. Then one night on fb he called late. I was surprised and didn't know what to think. He had never contacted me at night and it felt strange. Then in the conversation he asked for money. Of cause I was not gonna give him any money, I mean I have to think twice to give family or friends money these days. He had a reason why he needed it but any reason was not gonna get money from me. I didn't expect to hear from him again so was very surprised when he did contact me. I called him on it and said "Are you who you say you are and did you really love me or was it all just a scam". He was shocked and denied it all. After talking to him a bit I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and said I would give him another go but that I have a lot of questions to ask him. We agreed I would question him when we next chatted. It has now been a week since I have heard from him and I now believe it was all a scam. What I want to say here is he seemed like a genuine guy in every way but I didn't ask the questions I should have. You know those inbetween questions like. What movie did you go and see today? Can you send me a more resent photo of yourself with your family and friends? What school does your daughter go to? What is the name of your married sister? How can I know you are who you say you are? I don't know but questions I should have asked when they came to mind. I know we might all have a scam story but this was my first and last I hope. The one main thing as everyone says is don't give any money to them. They shouldn't be asking for money anyways. I'm glad I wasn't too hurt in this process and I wanted to write this to make sure you girls and guys realise theres no shame in being scammed cause in looking for love it happens. The best thing to do is just move on and keep trying. I believe there is a someone out there for me and I know God has that one for me. God Bless you all. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 28 Aug, 2014 05:53 AM Classic scam scenario my sister! And trust me who hasn't gone thru this nightmare on sites like this yet......well let's just say the longer you stay, the better your chances are for it eventually happening, at least once!! Thank God you took the advice given on just about every dating site out there......NEVER GIVE MONEY TO ANYONE!! Kudos sister and may The Lord continue to prepare you, as He prepares that special someone for you, so that you both can be ready when you eventually find each other(smile)! Be blessed. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 29 Aug, 2014 01:37 AM Such a bad and good experience at the same time coz it made you learn.These things happen. I can assure you even if you asked those questions,he would have answers(fake). Just as my sister says the longer you stay the better.It eventually comes out. Scammers are all over but I believe God in His own way will make one meet with a genuine one. Even in the midst of the storm,someone real will come out. Trust in our good Lord. My best wishes to you my sister. Post Reply
View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 30 Aug, 2014 06:07 AM Yeah, people need to be careful. * First of all, don't talk to somebody who says, "Here is my email address. Let's continue our conversation thru email." * The best strategy is to get on Facebook right after you meet someone who has potential, because Facebook let's you peek into a person's life. If he has no Facebook account then that's a red flag. It means they have no history. You can't check on them. If they have a long history on Facebook, you can see what groups they are part of, what they like, what they post on their wall, what kind of friends they have, etc. You can even see their family members. You can tell whether this is a genuine person or not. * A lot of scammers are from Nigeria and other African countries. If he is from Africa, that's a red flag! * If falling in love happens very quickly like a whirlwind, be very cautious. Usually friendships and love develop slowly. Scammers want to hurry, because they want to waste no time with you being just friends. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 1 Sep, 2014 06:07 AM Bluesky, Don't generalise things here.Not everyone who is from Africa is a scammer. Demons and angels are every where.You get angels in Africa as well as US,UK or any other place.The same with demons. Post Reply
View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 2 Sep, 2014 02:07 AM Thanks for the encouragement. It's not easy but I keep going. Post Reply
View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 2 Sep, 2014 02:09 AM God bless you sister. Always good to get some get advise. Post Reply
View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 2 Sep, 2014 02:15 AM Thanks for your advise to. So many things to be careful of. I guess I just have to smarten up and get a bit tougher. Thanks again Post Reply
Clementmuganda View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 10 Sep, 2014 03:53 PM Scam is real no doubt about it,you just have to be careful with these kind of people who ask for money,i have seen it happening though not all people never give money to someone who you have not yet settle things with ,coz they know how to sweet talk people Post Reply
Dorgate View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 28 Sep, 2014 01:29 AM Thanks for sharing your experience. The rest of us will be better equipped for online dating with it. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Searching for love Posted : 28 Sep, 2014 06:11 AM ( * The best strategy is to get on Facebook right after you meet someone who has potential, because Facebook let's you peek into a person's life. If he has no Facebook account then that's a red flag. It means they have no history. You can't check on them. If they have a long history on Facebook, you can see what groups they are part of, what they like, what they post on their wall, what kind of friends they have, etc. You can even see their family members. You can tell whether this is a genuine person or not.) I friended a girl on fb. Nothing romantic, but within days she had friended all of my relatives on there and was telling everyone we were engaged. I finally called her on it. She said she really wanted to get married and then she actually asked me "If we get married, will you buy me a car".:stop: I have shoes older than her. The moral of this? Be careful. There are scammers, and crazy people, everywhere. Post Reply

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