Is Love possible for a 16 yr old. I have been married twice and still am not sure what it is. She keeps telling me about her boyfriend, that he is her everything. Her and her boyfriend plan on living together when they get out of school. I have been trying to be supportive, not putting her down. I care about her a lot. I never knew what love was at 16th. There is so much to experience at that age. I keep wanting to ask her, what is the hurry? She has a hard time being without him. I told her that it is good to be apart. She is mature for her age, has a big heart, and is so sweet. We all have to learn from our mistakes. Who knows, it make work out for the both of them. I just do not want to see her heart broken in a million pieces, bits and bits. She has her whole life ahead of her. Any thoughts on this?
The feeling of a 16 years old is not yet stable. They think that the admiration they feel is already love. They just focus on what they feel and know nothing about the reality of LOVE AND LIFE is. Maybe that 16 year old girl need some good company that she can enjoy with . Being focus on love is just allowing her enjoyment to be snatched which she could enjoy the laughters and joy of being a teenager and enjoying being with her friends of same her age. Later on for sure, she might feel she doesnt love the guy anymore because there is no stability yet of her feelings at age 16. The bible says we msut enjoy our youth and that means away from too big responsiblitiliies at an early age because there will always possibilities of early prenancies and ealy marriages
Where in the Bible does it say that we are to enjoy our youth and not consider marrying young?
I'm not necessarily advocating a 16yo dating/marrying, BUT I think that the issue is one of maturity rather than age. Also, people married young in the Bible. I don't believe that the concept of purposefully delaying marriage because of age is a Biblical one.
It is in Proverbs that we must enjoy our youth. Why in a hurry? Having a husband and kids is not an easy task. It is a career. After waking up evey morning you will think of the needs of your hsuband and kids. What they are going to eat, what to wear. The house must be a clean place to live in( who will clean them ? ) Can a 16 year old earn much ? Does he/shemuch about household arts? The wife is the manager of the house .Even she is also working she should see to it that her house is clean and organized. Being a wife and and a mother is not just bearing children. You msut be mature enough to know what to do in many cirsumstances you will meet in life especially the many challenges in life. It is ok to get married at an early age if you can tell me a big percentage and in what country that a group of married young people that never had a divorced or separation. Even mature people get divorced /separation, how much more for a 16 years old who do not know what really life is yet . Can a married 16 year old couple live a decent life without depending on their parents? 18 ( not 16 ) in America that a child can get their independence or can live separately (on their own) from their parents . Am I right Pixy?
I agree that being a wife and mother is a really big responsibility and one that a women should be prepared for before assuming. Ideally, this would happen at a young age, as the woman's mother and older women in her church family would be mentoring her and training her up to be a godly woman who can serve the Lord through being a wife and mother.
That said, I certainly do recognize that this doesn't actually happen a whole lot. I think that parents fail and that churches fail in following the Titus 2 command to teach the younger women. Because of that, I would agree that the majority of 16 year olds are not ready for marriage.
However, just because our society is not following God's Word, does not mean that we should go with the flow of society. If/when I have children, I would hope that my husband and I would train them up properly, so that they would be ready for marriage when they became adults. I disagree with the idea that persons should act as children into their 20s. I don't believe that youth should be prolonged or that this idea is Biblical.
I'm not seeing in Proverbs where it says to enjoy our youth. Could you point out the chapter/verse to me so that I could have a look at it??
Is it possible for a man to have a say in this,seeing that it is impossible to have a marriage wihtout the man.
Pixy,you are correct,thatsociety should not be influencing the body of Christ .
Rather the Body should be influencing the society.
Sometimes we live according to our feelings or what our parents taught us.
When we read the Word of God and these things do not follow the Word, will we then drop those,and take up the Word.
In the Hebrew society a baby was from birth until about 2 years old.
A child was from after 2 until being 13
Around 13 the boy was Bar Mitzvah
Around 12 the girls are Bat Mitzvah
At these ages the youth then become a man and a woman.
In the Old Covenant this would be the age at which they could be stoned for sinning.
We in America put more importance upon age,then upon character,attitude and personality.
Age is important,yet in the Lords sight,Samuel,David,
Jeremiah,and King Josiah,these and others were used of the Lord being but youths.
2Ch 34:1 Josiah was eight years old when he began to reign, and he reigned in Jerusalem one and thirty years.
In America we have more older children (childish ways) then other countries.
The Parents and the Body of Christ are responsible to help in the maturing of these two young people,yet they themselves will bear the consequences of their choices.
Oh and the Lady starting this,Your Daughter is following in your footsteps.
She is following your example.
She sees that you have been divorced 2 times,she might be thinking,Mom tried twice,I might have to do this a few times myself.
Pray for wisdom about this matter,ask the Elders and Woman to be praying.
Ask for the older woman to talk with her.
Pray that the lord will open your daughters eyes,to see her need for trusting Yeshua/Jesus to be her husband until,He gives her a husband.
Your daughter needs ABBA to being her Father,and Jesus to being Her husband.
Your daughter will look to see if this is in your own life,if this is not she will not be listening to you,and maybe not anyone else.
