Husband leaving wives while pregnant. Is it okay to start dating and accepting help from men who wants to help? Or just pray that the husband will get tired of his teen girlfriend and come back?
There's few things to consider if and when you gonna pray that he comes back.
What about sicknesses and infections he'll be bringing you when coming back? Does that marriage mean that much to you that you'd rather risk having sicknesses that may compromise your kids having a healthy mother for the sake of honoring a covenant that means so less to your partner that he divorced you pregnant when you need him most, chasing after teenage girls?
I've never been married dear, commitment is my worst fear though I think as soon as there's the baby involved in a relationship, its now less about the two of you guys but more about the baby's best interest at heart and now that the other part has decided to pull out through divorce, surely his not there for moral support that you need while pregnant. That alone clearly says that, the baby has you now to count on.
In regard with moving on to the next relationship, that one is for you to decide my sister though I think its gonna be a rebound just to dismiss the current situation especially since you can do with help from anyone willing to avail himself to help you out. Your baby may need your undivided attention since the father's not around. A new relationship may be fun for a little while eventually its gonna have its own drama that may overwhelm you as time goes on especially since you didn't really give yourself time to deal with the pain of being rejected pregnant let alone being divorced.
That's just me and my little mind, could really be wrong sis.
Sisygirl.....what a heartfelt, yet down to earth response! Bychance correct me if I'm wrong, but I gathered this was a hypothetical question, not so much pertaining to you personally....maybe someone you've befriended perhaps.....but a thought provoking question nevertheless!!
Whatever the circumstances, in my opinion, this situation you've describe should first, by the pregnant wife, be presented before The Lord.......praying for healing, comfort, forgiveness and peace........emotions are running high and any decisions to be made must be done with a rational, cool head! An unborn child's needs now hang in the balance! Now with that said, the mothers' decision to reach out for financial or emotional help from a man, other than her husband, will ultimately be a moral and ethical choice! Is this going to be from a man she knows has romantic interest in her....feeling that she wouldn't get the help she needs if he wasn't "into her" or would this be from someone who just wants to assist her........no strings attached! Whichever way it goes, if her estranged spouse finds out, whether he's stepped up to help his wife financially/emotionally or not, there may be irreversible consequences to her actions! Which could leave no doubt in him returning........would she want to take that chance?
All I'm getting at is, waiting on The Lord for guidance and direction in such a sensitive situation is, to me, the only solution! If dependence on Him all along in your journey with Him, is what's sustained you, why should this trial be any different.......wait upon The Lord, pray unceasingly.... for only He can give you the true desires of your heart! Be blessed.
What a pitiful situation to get in at that point in time of need.
First and foremost, I would like to ask the foundation of the marriage. How did the marriage start? If the foundation of the marriage was good, the situation can be salvaged easily but if not, it will take time and some lots of effort to salvage the situation.
If the husband has left for a younger woman ... he should be confronted and given an opportunity to repent. One opportunity is adequate. If he will not repent, divorce him and, within the faith, be free to remarry.
I have seen too many single moms hang on hoping the man who left will come back ... and raising their kids fatherless. Their motives are commendable, but they and their children suffer more than they should have to for the husband/father's sins.
