Author	Thread: Do not awaken love until it pleases!
simplyjhen143 View Profile History	Do not awaken love until it pleases! Posted : 8 Jun, 2012 09:46 PM repost: (so true) The most profound advice for romantic relationships is found several times in the Song of Solomon. The phrase "do not awaken love until it pleases" is used within the Song as an encouragement to others and a reminder to be patient in one's own relationship. What does this phrase mean? Love can be compared to a lovely flower that blooms beautifully in its proper season. No amount of sunlight, water, or nutrients can force the flower to bloom before its time. Attempts to physically force the flower from the bud will only damage or destroy the flower. However, if you provide the nutrients and proper environment the flower will bloom beautifully on its own and often at an unexpected ,unobserved time. Consider some common mistakes in failing to "awaken love until it pleases." Try to force a romantic relationship. I have known frustrated people who liked someone then relentlessly pursued them trying to make them fall in love. They usually repelled the person instead. Usually the other person feels like prey in a predator's shadow instead of flattered by the attention. A manipulative person might take advantage of the pursuer, acting intrested to get what they want from the desperate person, then dropping them when they are finished playing. Changing oneself to please another. When you try to change who you are to appeal to someone you are infatuated/crush/ in love with, you are trying to force the flower open. Ultimately the relationship is due to dissatisfaction, unhappiness and failure because you will tire of playing the part and long to be yourself again. When you revert to yourself the other person will feel deceived and hurt that you could not be honest with them. They will probably be unintrested since they fell in love with a character you were playing-not you. Settling for someone. Sometimes people will decide to "fall in love" or marry someone because they either dated for a long time or because they are older and "there aren't many available men/women." There is no predetermined time or natural law that states when people will fall in love. How sad it would be to just marry someone because of habit or fear then meet someone that would be the ideal spouse. If you have dated someone for years and you are often fighting or have no deep love for the person, spare yourself and them future heartache and damage and break off the relationship so you can be ready to meet someone with whom love can bloom. Rushing physical expressions of love. True love develops through friendship not the passionate scenes of Hollywood productions. Couples should not feel pressure to hold hands, kiss or show other physical signs of affection. In fact, it is healthy to hold off any physical expressions while you let the reletionship develop. When the physical expressions of love are introduced sometimes they become the focus to the neglect of the non-physical and the pressure to escalate the physical aspects of the relationship intensifies. Sex before marriage. Some feel that if they give in dating what should only be given in marriage, that they will win the heart of their love interest. Statistically, it has the opposite effect. As with the one trying to force a relationship, a user will play on this tendency and get what they want until they are bored or an opportunity with someone else arises. God gave the sexual relationship for marriage to bind the couple closer together but the secret to its power is 'til-death-do-us-part' commitment between the husband and wife.Keeping this relationship for marriage alone will allow it to blossom and grow: a special flower for the husband and wife alone. True love is more beautiful than any flower but it must be allowed to grow and bloom in its own time. "Do not awaken love until it pleases."Be patient and enjoy the friendship until the love blooms then take care of it like a precious tender plant. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do not awaken love until it pleases! Posted : 18 Jul, 2012 08:58 PM Very well said :) Thanks for sharing the Wisdom. God bless you on your search, K Post Reply