Victim Blaming

Posted : 3 Nov, 2020 02:56 AM

https://www.facebook.com/436254360053841/posts/1294367904242478/





Victim shaming is an incredibly common thing in this society because we have no idea what abuse really is.



We think we do. We like to think that we are an enlightened society, but the truth is that we are, generally speaking, very ignorant on this topic.



Emotional abuse is written off because we can't see the scars and we don't always see it happening.



Financial abuse is written off because we don't understand how someone could be manipulated in such a way.



Spiritual abuse is written off because we don't want to believe that faith can be used to hurt and control people.



Sexual abuse is written off because we don't understand consent and have been trained to wonder if the victim was "asking for it. "



Physical abuse is written off because we value authority over safety and we don't want to believe that someone in authority, especially someone we respect, could be guilty of something so horrible.



The end result is that we often sink to believing that someone who has experienced abuse is somehow complicit. We bury them in the guilt that rightfully -and solely- belongs to their abuser.



We think that they should have known better. They should have guarded themselves better. They should have ______.



Want to help end abuse? Listen when someone tells you that they are being/have been abused.



Don't contradict. Don't argue. Don't look for their faults.



Listen.



Believe them.



And help find ways to empower them to walk away from the situation and find healing.



-Shari

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